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post #41 of 675
I'm here, at work. Not cathing up on the 400 things I have to catch up on. I wore jeans, but next week I do have to start dressing up.

It wasn't as bad leaving as I expected. I'm actually feeling okay. She also SLEPT alone in bed for an entire hour this morning, which let me get lots done easily. It's the first time she's slept alone in bed for weeks and weeks - I'm really happy about it. I hope it's not just a fluke!
post #42 of 675
Hi,
I'm new to the Mothering forum. I'm 33, hubby is 37 and we have a 10 week old girl. I've just decided to become a stay0at-home mom and am scared!
post #43 of 675
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Emily - one more milk question... What do you do at work? I'm planning to refrigerate and scald when I get home, with a cooler for transport. At home, scalding in the evening is working. I'm so lucky that you've done all of your testing!
Elizabeth - At work I pump 3-4 times (depending on my schedule for the day and the amt I get in my first 2 pumpings). I refrigerate all of the milk until I can get home at the end of the day and scald. I use the cooler that came with my PIS for transport.
One other thing...
I also will do one last pumping just before I go to bed so that I have some fresh milk to add to Benjamin's first 2 bottles of the day. I usually only get 2-3 oz but since I only put fresh milk in the first 2 bottles (so that I can reuse bottles 3-5 if he doesn't end up drinking them), it works out fine. Makes me happy knowing he is getting some milk that doesn't have neutralized lipase.
post #44 of 675
[QUOTE=dctexan;10175468]Elizabeth - At work I pump 3-4 times (depending on my schedule for the day and the amt I get in my first 2 pumpings). [QUOTE]


You're my hero!! I only get in 1 pump most work days, even though I try *so* hard to do 2.

Wow. You rock!
post #45 of 675
Postpartum clothing...
Ugh. UGH. I wore my maternity clothes for a couple of months, but they started being too big. However, my pre-preg clothes just aren't working (shirts are waaayyyy to tight in the chest and they all seem too short now that I have been wearing maternity clothes for the past year and the pants, well, as Pie said, there is a huge difference between "can zip" and comfortable). I finally broke down and went to the thrift store and bought some "in between" sizes things. So I am in real pants and shirts, they just aren't my normal size. I wonder if I will ever wear my normal size again? Things have definitely shifted, bones have been moved.

Rachel - Awww. LOVE the nakey time shot. So cute
post #46 of 675
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Originally Posted by preemiemamarach View Post
You're my hero!! I only get in 1 pump most work days, even though I try *so* hard to do 2.

Wow. You rock!
Well, not really. I am in academia and have my own office (and very "PC" co-workers/boss) so pumping isn't the big inconvience it is for many other working mamas. I would never be able to produce enough if I didn't pump that often!
post #47 of 675
Welcome Maxzen!

Thanks Emily - I'm planning to pump every 2-3 hours. I'm lucky and also have my own office and supportive bosses. I mentioned to my Chief today that I will need to pump and he just gave me this embarassed "I don't need to know; whatever you need" look that was funny. He's like my age. I just did one and got 4 oz, which is better than I expected. The left side (with mastitis) isn't draining as easily as the right, so maybe that will go up when it's better. I need a pumping bra, though!

I'm really concerned about protecting my supply, so I'll try to never go more than 3 hours.
post #48 of 675
One more question for the working mommas - do you wash all of the parts every time??? I just did and it seems like a lot of work to do that after every time I pump. Also - I may have to pump during hearings, which would mean as fast as I can with no time to wash. Do you think it's okay to just rinse them out?
post #49 of 675
That's a great question... also I'm wondering how all of you wash the parts... we have a steam-clean bag that came with the stuff but it seems like a lot of work to do every time! I have a bottle brush that only gets used for the bottles and I use that with soap and hot water. Is that good enough?

PP clothing... got depressed when I went to the mall last week, and an XL in a sweater dress looked just AWFUL. So I'm still wearing mostly mat. clothes still. It's so funny how when I shopped for mat. shirts they seemed so long... but I just got out my old shirts, and like Emily said, they seem really short! And too tight, even my casual t-shirts that were roomy before. Guess 3 cup sizes makes a difference! Anyhow, I'm going to go to the nearby gym tomorrow and perhaps join, I have a 3-day trial first. They have all kinds of cool classes... I have to decide if I'm going to use the sitter for napping or going to the gym, I guess it will depend on the day. I can't use their child care until Ollie's three months. That's when the au pair comes too. 6 weeks to go! Point being, it was alarming to me to get THAT BIG during pregnancy and then to see what I'm seemingly still left with (still haven't weighed myself and don't plan to), and I'm waaaayyyy determined to get it off as soon as I can... barring any strict diets (milk supply issues). I hate how I look and I feel gross and weak!

Here's a pic from an hour ago... finally caught a smile on film! Is it just me, or does he look cross-eyed?

http://www.flickr.com/photos/7342008@N05/2162981313/
post #50 of 675
Pump parts...
I basically just wipe my parts off between pumpings and refrigerate them with my milk. I figure that if milk stays fresh in the fridge, so will my pump parts. I do take my parts home everyday and wash with soap & water and sanitize in the steamer.

If I couldn't refrigerate my parts, I'd probably rinse them with water at least once during the day. I wouldn't bother washing though, seems like too much of a PIA.

I pump every 2-3 hours when at work.

ETA
Julia - What a cutie. Gotta love those smiles.
post #51 of 675
I've gotten pretty lax on the washing between pumping thing. I sort of figure that if the milk can sit out for 8 hours before it goes bad, the pump parts probably can too, right? If I can, I often just put the parts in the fridge between pumpings to minimize the risk. But I really only wash the parts well once a day, in the evening. A friend loaned me an Avent sterilizer - I doubt I ever would have bought one, but I have to say, it makes cleaning everything much easier. I usually just rinse it all out well and then pop it in the sterilizer. Sometimes i do do a bit more actual "washing" if it seems like milky stuff is starting to build up.

On PP bodies - i read somewhere that it takes 9 months for your body to grow and bear the child, and you really should give it at least 9 months to get back to normal as well. Happens sooner (or not at all) for some women, but I think it's good to give yourself a lot of time to get back to those old clothes. And finding time to exercise is a lot harder than it used to be! On that note, I'm thrilled that the gym around the corner from me (which I pre-joined well over a year ago and which was supposed to open up a year ago) has finally opened. I don't know how often I'll be able to go, but at least it's an option - since it got frigid here, I've found myself becoming a lot more sedentary.

Julia, cute photo! I don't really see the cross-eyed thing (maybe a bit?) but Willa looks cross-eyed a lot - less now than when she was younger, but it used to be pretty frequent. Here's a recent photo that cracks me up - she's been making this face a bunch lately, and here was doing it while using the arms of the chair to push herself up to standing.
And a couple other, more smiley ones....
post #52 of 675
Aw - smiles!!! Too sweet. Oh, maybe a bit cross-eyed, but Isabella took at least that long to get her eyes working in tandem. That whole chameleon thing was weird at first!

How do you all shop for clothes?! Isabella is not up for waiting around for me to try stuff on, and I'm not someone who fits stuff easily, so I really need to try on. I need to get out with my mom to handle DD while I try on! Thrift store is a great idea. I do agree that you get at least as long to get back to pre-pg size as it took you to grow a baby, but it's hard to live with it in the meantime! And yes, none of my old shirts work. I'm definitely a Large now! My arms are huge - tried to put on a jacket this morning and I felt like the Incredible Hulk.

Thanks for the ideas on the parts, too. I think I'm going to rinse in hot water. I am using the office mini-fridge, so pump parts would take up more space than is fair... My little cooler and ice pack already take most of a shelf...
post #53 of 675
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Ollie is SO adorable!

And my son has on the jacket and pants that go with that onesie RIGHT NOW. Except the onesie under his jacket says, 'Bald IS Beautiful'.
post #54 of 675
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Julia, cute photo! I don't really see the cross-eyed thing (maybe a bit?) but Willa looks cross-eyed a lot - less now than when she was younger, but it used to be pretty frequent. Here's a recent photo that cracks me up - she's been making this face a bunch lately, and here was doing it while using the arms of the chair to push herself up to standing.
And a couple other, more smiley ones....

Attack of the cute babes today! Man, Willa looks so filled with joy- I love it!
post #55 of 675
On washing pump parts- I either rinse in the restroom sink (which is a bit yuck-o to me for some reason), or I'll rinse in the little kitchenette sink if there's not a meeting in the adjoining conference room (I made some people REALLY uncomfortable once).

Or- I use the little disinfectant wipes Medela sells. They're probably not really necessary, but things look less grody for pump #2.

I envy you mamas with private offices! My workplace touts itself as 'family friendly', and actually received accolades in the Washington Post for being a great place to work- but there's no friggin lactation room. The last person to BF in my dept would pump in my boss's office WHILE SHE WAS THERE. Um- no. I took over an empty office and just borrow the keys from the secretary twice a day, but lately it's been used more and more, and people have been all when they accidentally walk in on me.

I've decided to write a letter to the CEO when I leave and be a little bit lactivist about it. I know another preemie mama here who QUIT BREASTFEEDING before she returned to work because it was going to be too hard to pump here.

I've pumped in my car in the middle of downtown DC, parked at a meter, in the middle of the day, though.
post #56 of 675
had job interview today, in 1 of 2 suits that fit comfortably. black pantsuit with hot pink blouse. pre-baby would have made emergency run to ann taylor loft but as elizabeth said i can't shop with babe. i thought it went okay but not slam dunk. we'll see. i'm not that excited about the job, to be honest. it wouldn't be that great intellectually but it would (or at least it better!!) allow more time to be with dd. but anyway what i wanted to tell you guys is that i am so not in working mode that i took my diaper bag instead of a briefcase!

friends irl are mad at me for not returning phone calls -- don't they understand that i've got a baby here? i feel closer to you all because i can say things like, she wouldn't nap, or she had 2 diaper explosions, and you get it but also get that i love her more than life itself. so there's room to complain but also room to brag about how great the baby is.

and our daycare, due to open in feb, isn't opening till march.

and our mortgage rate options suck due to the jumbo thing.
post #57 of 675
Willa's so cute!

Pie, Sorry things are icky right now. I got a pang when you mentioned Ann Taylor Loft... I heart that store! I need to get skinny again so I can shop there. GL with finding the right job... I'm sure you'll find the right situation. Too funny about the diaper bag. Is it one that looks like a diaper bag with flowers all over it?
post #58 of 675
: that the writers come to an agreement soon... this Hollywood writer's strike is killing me. I'm watching reruns of Beverly Hills 90210!! (shudder)
post #59 of 675
I cannot keep up with this thread anymore!

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Originally Posted by veganone View Post
Maybe I should try yours and see if that makes dd better since mine's just causing more problems! I hate that I know I have plenty of milk, but pumping I never get more than 2-3 oz....
If you want to do this, I totally will. Just let me know what you need in the way of doctor's info or whatever to prove I am not disease riddled. Do I need to stop eating dairy or anything?

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Originally Posted by maxzen View Post
Hi,
I'm new to the Mothering forum. I'm 33, hubby is 37 and we have a 10 week old girl. I've just decided to become a stay0at-home mom and am scared!
HI! I'd be scared to stay at home all day too, but that's because my child is a CrazyBaby. (I take her to work a couple days a week, but I really enjoy the days when she's in daycare ... she does too as far as I can tell)

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Originally Posted by veganone View Post
One more question for the working mommas - do you wash all of the parts every time??? I just did and it seems like a lot of work to do that after every time I pump. Also - I may have to pump during hearings, which would mean as fast as I can with no time to wash. Do you think it's okay to just rinse them out?
I don't really know ... but I certainly stopped washing mine every pump session a loooong time ago.

Many of you have been lamenting your new post-partum figures, and I just wanted to address that quickly. I felt horrible about my body after having a baby ... floppy tummy, chubby arms, etc. I still have not returned to my pre-pregnancy size, and I'm not sure I ever will, although I would really like to fit into all those cute clothes! Anyway, it's been a year and I suppose I am carrying a little more weight around the middle than a non-mom, but I certainly don't think most people would be able to tell it's baby weight as opposed to regular chub.

It will get better. In the meantime buy an outfit or two and be proud of your exaggerated mommy figure! You MADE A NEW HUMAN! You get a pass for a minimum of 9 mos.
post #60 of 675
I LOVE all the cute baby pics! I love knowing what your babies, of whom I am very fond, look like.

My grandma died. It's okay -- I'm not (that) sad, as she has had Alzheimer's so I "said goodbye" to her years ago; I'm more relieved. But even though we skipped Christmas because we didn't want the hassle of taking the baby, now we have to take the trip anyway. We decided to do the family visitation instead of the funeral. My mom is being a pain nagging me to come for two days (hello, we have a dog who needs to be cared for in addition to the baby). I am pretty sure that this is because she wants to "show off" the baby to all of the out of town relatives (it isn't her mom ... it's my dad's).

Anyway. Don't hate me, but I do fit into my pre-preg clothes. (Underneath I'm hella flabby, though!) Which is good, as I have no money to buy a new wardrobe. However: EVERYTHING I own seems to be dry clean only and distinctly un-breastfeeding-friendly. Gah. Not a very practical wardrobe. After the funeral it'll be back to the sweats for me.

Pie -- diaper bag cracked me up.

I have to confess that these jumbo loans are making me feel less bad about myself, in that one of the skewers upon which I impale myself when I am feeling bad is that we could buy a house with our debt. But actually, if we lived in a metro area that would not be the case! So yay!
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