Gentle discipline/peaceful parenting books?

[katiedidbug]

What books do you recommend for gentle discipline? I read the Gentle Discipline book published by LLL, but I didn't find it practically helpful. Any suggestions?

[nicole lisa]

One of my fave books is Naomi Aldort's Raising Our Children Raising Ourselves. The subtitle is Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/1887542329?...34RE95SJATGPV&

She has a formula she calls SALVE for handling everything that comes up when you're frustrated. Great stuff.

[katybear mama]

Parenting from Your Heart; Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice, a presentaion of nonviolent communication ideas and their use by Inbal Kashtan

[KaraBoo]

I like Mindful Parenting a lot.

[APMomOfKimmyN-Maya]

My favorite so far for the overall concept of parenting-- "The Continuum Concept" by Jean Liedloff

My favorites for practical advice and tips for everyday use- "How to talk so your kids will listen and listen so your kids will talk" by Adele Faber and "Kids, Parents, Power Struggles" by Mary Kurcinka Sheedy

[PiePie]

bump

[katybear mama]

Some more...

Unconditional parenting : moving from rewards and punishments to love and reason / Alfie Kohn.

The attachment parenting book : a commonsense guide to understanding and nurturing your baby / William Sear and Martha Sears.

Attachment parenting : instinctive care for your baby and young child / Katie Allison Granju with Betsy Kennedy ; introduction by William Sears.

The continuum concept : allowing human nature to work successfully / Jean Liedloff. (mentioned already)

The discipline book : everything you need to know to have a better-behaved child--from birth to age ten / William Sears and Martha Sears.

Respectful parents, respectful kids : 7 keys to turn family conflict into cooperation / Sura Hart and Victoria Kindle Hodson.

Sleeping with your baby : a parent's guide to cosleeping /James J. McKenna.

The natural child : parenting from the heart / Jan Hunt.

Natural family living : the Mothering magazine guide to parenting / Peggy O'Mara with Jane McConnell.

[towsonmama]

I second the Kohn's Attachment Parenting recommendation. I also like Faber's How to Talk So Kids Will Listen too.

[jbie]

bump! i'm making a big amazon order soon..

[Think of Winter]

Check out the gd board for tons of book recommendations, and lots of btdt advice. My faves are:

Playful Parenting -wonderful for helping parents let go of their need to control behavior and appreciate play as our best learning tool for little ones

Unconditional Parenting -great book about why it's so important to stop punishment and reward parenting (not a lot on dealing with real life sitations, though)

Becoming the Parent you want to be- Developing your own parenting style that works for you and your child

Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline - Lots of rules and steps, but really readable and a great place to start with gd

Best wishes!

[katybear mama]

One more good one.......

Connection Parenting: Parenting Through Connection Instead of Coercion, Through Love Instead of Fear by Pam Leo

[PiePie]

bumping again (not tht i don't already have an unmanageably long list of books to read)

[katiedidbug]

Originally Posted by nicole lisa

One of my fave books is Naomi Aldort's Raising Our Children Raising Ourselves. The subtitle is Transforming Parent-child Relationships from Reaction And Struggle to Freedom, Power And Joy.

http://www.amazon.com/dp/1887542329?...34RE95SJATGPV&

She has a formula she calls SALVE for handling everything that comes up when you're frustrated. Great stuff.

I'm in the middle of this one per this rec, and I'm really enjoying it.

[nicole lisa]

Originally Posted by katiedidbug

I'm in the middle of this one per this rec, and I'm really enjoying it.

Oh, I'm so glad. Reading that book helped so much when I was struggling with DS (and he with me!) and it continues to help. SALVE is such a great technique and not only do I use it but I've taught it to DS for when he's about to blow his top.

[Janansmom]

Wow! A whole new list of books! (My husband will be so pleased...NOT!)

My recommendation is: Raising Peaceful Children in a Violent World by Nancy Lee Cecil

What I liked about this book is that is has laid out in a way that you can either read it cover to cover or simply flip through. It also has WONDERFUL 'exercises and suggestions' that we often still use (esp. one that has you keep a small set of post-it notes and a pen and whenever anyone in the family does something you like, that makes you feel good, or just when you think about something you like/love about that person, you write it down and stick it on their bedroom door (or other location of your choice). DD's door is COVERED with purple and blue heart post-its!

BTW: This isn't exactly a 'discipline' book, but I have found that the exercises helped address many of my dd's discipline concerns along the way.

[katiedidbug]

Originally Posted by nicole lisa

Oh, I'm so glad. Reading that book helped so much when I was struggling with DS (and he with me!) and it continues to help. SALVE is such a great technique and not only do I use it but I've taught it to DS for when he's about to blow his top.

Yes, I like SALVE. I've been using it with DH to make sure I don't say something I shouldn't. I've even used it with my students.

[katiedidbug]

Originally Posted by Janansmom

Wow! A whole new list of books! (My husband will be so pleased...NOT!)

My recommendation is: Raising Peaceful Children in a Violent World by Nancy Lee Cecil

What I liked about this book is that is has laid out in a way that you can either read it cover to cover or simply flip through. It also has WONDERFUL 'exercises and suggestions' that we often still use (esp. one that has you keep a small set of post-it notes and a pen and whenever anyone in the family does something you like, that makes you feel good, or just when you think about something you like/love about that person, you write it down and stick it on their bedroom door (or other location of your choice). DD's door is COVERED with purple and blue heart post-its!

BTW: This isn't exactly a 'discipline' book, but I have found that the exercises helped address many of my dd's discipline concerns along the way.

I like that idea! Even though DH is only 14 mos, I may start that post-it thing!!

[Janansmom]

Thanks! My dd loves it too (and, honestly, so do dh and I)! It's worked with her since she was around 2 (but that's also when she started to read), but I would think even non-reading children could appreciate it if you used simple words. It would just be something else for you to read to them! ) You should check out the book, there are MANY more great ideas like that in there!