Stop the mommy drive-bys already (ventish) - Page 2

[lalaland42]

Originally Posted by grumpybear

OMG. That would have annoyed the (UA violation) out of me.
I talk to my 20-month old that way not because I expect him to understand/remember but because it's a way for him to learn things. That woman seems to sell children a little bit short.

Exactly! Also, I have noticed grocery shopping with DD is easier when I give her a job. She likes to feel that she is a contributing member of the family.

[amethystrse]

I had one woman at the store point out to me that my son was "special". He was licking my arm at the time. I turned and gave her a dirty look. I was totally insulted. First, it wasn't her business. Second, like I didn't know he was "different"?

Usually I just get looks from people. Especially when they try to talk to dd and I have to explain to them that she doesn't really talk well. I had one guy as why not and when I said she's autistic he just looked at me like I was joking. I wanted to slap him.

I usually just ignore the whispers and most remarks as though I didn't hear them.

[blessed]

Originally Posted by lalaland42

Some woman turned to me and said in a slightly shocked tone, "you don't actually expect a 3 or 4 year old to remember that, do you?"

Yah, if we get lost driving someplace we've only been to once, we'll generally ask 3 yo dd and she tells us where to turn. She has a memory like a steel trap.

I'm pretty sure she could remember what store her yummies came from with no trouble at all.

[rainyday]

Originally Posted by sebandg'smama

My thing is why do these people even expect a response when they are asking/telling so rudely?

I was walking home the other day and my son was climbing on a fence that leads to a creek and I had a guy in his car stop, turn around open his window to point it out to me. He was so rude that I didn't even waste any breath explaining that my son is capable and completely safe from "danger", nor was he wrecking the fence. I just gave him a glazed over look to indicate I was not listening to him.
My dh felt that he was just a concerned citizen, but imo, if he was truly concerned he would have asked me some questions, engaged in some dialogue.

See, in situations like this, I don't really have a problem. Yeah, you knew he was fine, but overall I'd much rather have someone err on the side of caution and point it out. If someone has an actual safety concern, I think it's rather harsh to be rude to them.

Now the people who criticize what y'all are feeding your children or say that your child can't possibly understand such and such, they're way out of line, and a chilly response is more justified, IMO.

[lovingmommyhood]

"You know, if you sign with him he will never learn to talk!" GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.

[Kessed]

When DD was 6 months old, I had her in the Ergo at a local mall. She was on my back and enjoying herself. (She lets us know when she isn't).

I had gotten some food in the food court and had just sat down. Suddenly this mad sat next to me... He proceeded to tell me, because I would obviously have no way of knowing, that DD's head was leaning back... I told him she was probably looking at all the decorations on the ceiling He then asked how old she was. When I told him 6 months he walked off muttering then maybe it was OK...

[amitymama]

Originally Posted by THBVsMommy

it doesnt happen so much anymore, but used to when i always wore him out and about [ i cant wear him anymore as he is 35lbs and just too heavy for me ]. it was always "is he not capable of using his own two feet?" or "the only thing you will accomplish from that is spoiling him."

but of course every so once in a while i would get an admirer who would praise me for wearing my baby.

I feel very lucky that I've never had a negative response to wearing DD in a sling. I usually get tons of compliments, smiles and questions about the sling. In fact, if I'm feeling bored or lonely during the day while I'm alone with DD, I just put her in the sling and go walking around town. It's a sure conversation starter! I'm sorry that others can't extend you and your DS the same courtesy.

[angelcat]

Once, When rachel was like 13 months olkd, maybe, I had her gorcery shopping with me. I'd left her diaper bag in the car, and fo course, I ened up hagin to change her part way thru shopping. I had a diaper in my purse, but she had a dirty diper & pants, and I didn't have clean pants. So anyhow, after we were done, I let her wlak to the car. She had on a shirt, a diper, and shoes. Some guy yelled at me to put pants on her. I was so mad! I ALWAYS make sure I have extra clothes now. i carry a huge purse becasue of that incident. I really don't like people yelling at me.

Rachel also hates wearing socks and shoes inside. So she took her boots and socks off at the mall recently. i had some woman hassle me aobut her poor cold feet. Um yeah, we were indoors, her feet were fine, and of course I put ehr boots back on for the walk to the car.

[Imogen]

Such individuals are really annoying. Just cannot keep their opinions to themselves.

I like the suggestion from a PP about 'I don't need any help, thanks'.

Of course, what we'd really like to say would be a UA



Peace

[prettypixels]

I really like "Do I KNOW you?" said very scathingly....

Honestly though most of the comments I've had have been very positive. I did have one man say "Someone is following you," once when my baby was on my back. I turned in circles going "Where? where?" Haha! But most people say things like, "Oh I want a ride like that!" I haven't yet had any negative breastfeeding comments though.

I *have* gotten a few looks, especially lately when I don't put a coat on her and just put her in the fleece sling to run from the car to the store. I mean, it's not far, and she's covered in my body and fleece! She is warm enough!