I'd say that the order should say that all medical decisions be made by HER and her alone. This makes things less complicated in minor treatments, where she'd be legally obligated to get his permission first.
I understand how some guys can be upset over not circ'ing; but I can't believe he's being such a UA violation!!
i took my older a month after he turned 2... gave them his info and all, but theres nothing asking about if i am the sole decision maker! i didnt write their dads info and put in mine, nowhere was i asked if i even have permission to do any of this, nor was i asked for their bc or anything else for my newborn or when i took my 2yo.
i dont see how papers would help anything other than possibly get him in trouble after if he were to do it.
mama, id send a letter to every doctor within 150-200 miles who could possibly do it and have the info about his heart condition as well as that you WOULD sue if they touch your son, and a picture, maybe even of dad as well because like i said, they didnt ask for ID for either myself or my kids so... kwim?