Oh Sara, I am so sorry. This is the last thing you and Connor need after all he has been through.
I know you said your dh is not interested in any information, but has he seen or could you get him to watch the "Penn and Teller" circ video
? It is crass humor and full of swear words and vulgarities but some people hear it better that way.
I can't imagine that doctors would agree that cosmetic surgery would be something Connor is up for? I agree with getting something in writing in his med. files.