Originally Posted by eroslovesagape
breastfeeding is a two-person activity, and must be beneficial for both- and it is! Until it's time to stop. Let's not be martyrs and feel we have to nurse until our children are feeling finished.
If my DH were on my case and telling me to nurse, nurse, nurse, I'd friggin' punch him. I'd tell him to develop his own comfort techniques to use with our child instead of depending on me (and demanding that I do so) to comfort and stop the squalling. Puhleese!
THANK YOU! Thank you for your entire post!
I think that CLW is great and wonderful, but it's just not for everybody. And it's not practical for everybody. I wholly agree with LLL that breastfeeding should only continue so long as it is mutually desired. And after 2 1/2 years, NOBODY should have to feel guilty about needing to stop for their own sanity and to preserve a loving relationship with their toddler. That is 2 full years longer than most breastfed babies get to go, and 6 mos longer than is recommended by WHO.
As an anthropologist, I became "AP" by studying traditional societies to see for myself what seemed to be a more "natural" way of parenting. And I have to say that in most traditional societies "extended" nursing does not end with child led weaning. I don't have any figures, but many, many traditional mamas start putting bitter herbs on their nipples to discourage weaning, or just start refusing all together.
It's okay to have limits. And it's noble to know when you have reached them.
OP, if it's time for you to be done, it's all groovy with me.
Pat yourself on the back for having nursed for such a long time and get on with your bad self, if that's what you need to do!
ETA: Correction! You have nursed for 3.5 years... more than a pat on the back, throw yourself an awesome weaning party! ...and hit vegas or something!