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post #1 of 30
1/5/08 at 8:56pm
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Please reassure me that I should follow my gut about who should or should not babysit my children (including grandparents). I know I'm right to err on the side of caution, but my dh and I are having a small disagreement about it. I'm sorry I can't post more details. Just FTR, no one is "cut out" of their lives; they still get to see the grandparents plenty, just with me around, too.
post #2 of 30
1/5/08 at 9:29pm
ALWAYS trust your gut. You have that weird feeling for a reason. My suspicions have never turned out wrong.
post #3 of 30
1/5/08 at 9:31pm
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Originally Posted by Hayes View Post
ALWAYS trust your gut. You have that weird feeling for a reason. My suspicions have never turned out wrong.
Thank you! It's a combination of a gut feeling and a small bit of history.
post #4 of 30
1/5/08 at 10:34pm
Absolutely trust your instincts.
post #5 of 30
1/5/08 at 11:06pm
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Originally Posted by TEAK's Mom View Post
Absolutely trust your instincts.
ditto
post #6 of 30
1/5/08 at 11:09pm
I love my mother dearly but I do not trust her to make good decisions. She means well but her judgment is lacking IMO. the first time she was allowed to take dd she promptly made a huge mistake. DD was ok but it confirmed we were not wrong. Fortunately DH agrees. Trust your instincts Mama, it's your job
post #7 of 30
1/6/08 at 12:02am
Thread Starter 
Thanks all!!!!!

I appreciate the reassurance.
post #8 of 30
1/6/08 at 12:34am
Trust your insticts! Err on the side of caution in who you allow to be around your little kids. Like someone above said; you get that gut feeling for a reason.
post #9 of 30
1/6/08 at 12:35am
My son is 18 months old and the only time my mother has ever been allowed to be alone with him is when I had to go to the ER and couldnt take him with me. And I felt sick the entire time because of it. She is not allowed to babysit him. Actually though, there are only 3 people we'd let him be watched by.

So of course I think its totally good to trust your instincts.
post #10 of 30
1/6/08 at 12:57am
Of course, trust your instincts! If you're doubting it though, ask yourself why. Sleep on it. Take a bubble bath and let your mind wander. Go for a walk. Figure it out so that it doesn't drive you crazy!
post #11 of 30
1/6/08 at 2:50am
Just to throw it out there, but could it be that you're just worried in general about someone other than you looking after your child?

I know the first few times I left DS I worried all the time even though I knew logically that he was perfectly safe.

Like PP said - take some time to figure out the reason why and then go from there.
post #12 of 30
1/6/08 at 1:20pm
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Originally Posted by mamallama View Post
Of course, trust your instincts! If you're doubting it though, ask yourself why. Sleep on it. Take a bubble bath and let your mind wander. Go for a walk. Figure it out so that it doesn't drive you crazy!
If I'm doubting what? My decision? Only because my dh slightly disagrees with me.


And no, I'm not worried "in general" about other people watching my kids. They've been in daycare. This is a specific situation I don't want to go into too much on a public board.
post #13 of 30
1/6/08 at 1:45pm
Have you read Protecting the Gift? It is a must read, IMO, and I agree with the others that you should absolutely follow your instincts.
post #14 of 30
1/6/08 at 2:30pm
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Originally Posted by dulce de leche View Post
Have you read Protecting the Gift? It is a must read, IMO, and I agree with the others that you should absolutely follow your instincts.
No, but I've heard that book mentioned before. I'll see if my library has it. thanks!
post #15 of 30
1/6/08 at 2:31pm
Yes, follow your instincts!
post #16 of 30
1/6/08 at 3:40pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by A&A View Post
If I'm doubting what? My decision? Only because my dh slightly disagrees with me.


And no, I'm not worried "in general" about other people watching my kids. They've been in daycare. This is a specific situation I don't want to go into too much on a public board.
Sorry, I don't mean to pry. I don't share specifics publicly either.
post #17 of 30
1/6/08 at 3:41pm
Yes, yes, yes! Follow the instinct!!
post #18 of 30
1/6/08 at 3:46pm
Yes, definitely follow your instincts! The fact that you aren't, in general, worried about other people watching your kids would say to me even louder to listen to your instincts about this case.
post #19 of 30
1/6/08 at 4:29pm
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Thanks to all for your support!! It means a lot to me. Dh just had me re-thinking the situation a little, but I am right and I'm sticking to it.
post #20 of 30
1/6/08 at 4:33pm
I agree.

My DS and I visit my parents weekly, but I would never leave him alone with my mother. I know she would be really hurt to hear that. But she just doesn't know how to relate to kids (despite being a mother of four and teaching first grade for 30 years ). She's of the "oh, now, knock it off, you're fine" way of dealing with children. And she doesn't know how to distract/be silly, so I'm worried my son would get upset about something and she wouldn't try to help him through it.

I have left my son at her house a few times, but only when my sister is over too.
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