Ex and GF are mad again

[JustVanessa]

In November my ex defaulted on my child support, so I signed up for the Family Maintenance Enforcement Program. He owes me $1000 plus $350 for this month.
Well all the paperwork finally went through, so I told him that I gave them all his information and they will be contacting him soon.

He asked me not to give them their phone number (because his GF doesn't want her phone number given to the government for his stuff) but it was too late, I already did.

They are sooooo pissed off.

I think she is defrauding welfare and telling them she is single to get more money.
Why do they think I would be willing to lie for them? I personally don't really care if they lie, but I WANT the government to be able to get ahold of him....I want my FREAKING money.

[chaoticzenmom]

I wouldn't care either. Every call that she gets will be a reminder that she's living with a deadbeat father. I don't guess I'd be so happy with that either.LOL Too bad, so sad. He needs to pay child support.

Lisa

[Shiloh]

yeah its hard to have sympathy if she didn't want the home number being given out why not offer to pay on time...or the arrears.

Do the crime do the time.
Besides if she was defrauding welfare then they've had more $ than they should have with the x being there...so it should have been easier for him to make the payments...

birds of a feather...

[WatermelonSnow]

He defaults on over $1000 of CS and you're supposed to do him a favor and not give them his phone number? Please excuse me............

: : : :

Whew. I need to catch my breath.

[ProtoLawyer]

Just keep in mind that if they're not married, she is still single for the purposes of government aid even if they do share housing, expenses, etc. HOWEVER: Some states count "household" income, regardless of marriage (in theory, two roommates count) and in that case, if she's concealing your ex's income, she's committing fraud.

Either way, your actions are none of her business. Your kid is entitled to child support, period. If she wants her phone number shielded from the government, she needs her own cell phone.

(I think your ex may be using "my GF doesn't want the number given out" as a smokescreen for his own crappy behavior.)

[Petronella]

Haha if ex's girlfriend is collecting welfare in BC as a single person,she certainly would not want the provincial government knowing that her phone # and the ex's phone # are the same! Because the OP is correct, if girlfriend is living with ex in a bf/gf relationship, then they are considered to be spouses, and both their incomes are considered when determining if they are eligible for welfare. So if girlfriend has a live-in boyfriend who is working, then she is NOT eligible for the amount of welfare she's receiving.

I used to work as a financial assistance worker in Vancouver (tho I believe the job is called something else now) and this sort of incriminating info would pop up All. The. Time. Info that was submitted for the FMEP was a neverending source of fascinating scenario's like this one!

[loitering]

I also went through FMEP (from the beginning though, before ex stopped paying ). I think you made a smart move. I'm pretty sure the gov't requires that you give them ANY info you have about your ex.

[MsChatsAlot]

It is what it is...and it's none of your business.

You need to take care of your child the way you see fit.

[JustVanessa]

"I just filled out the forms : If you had paid on time this wouldn't have been an issue"
Holy man they hate me. But they are smart enough to know that they are in the wrong not me!

I had to give FMEP ALL his info, including who lived in his house, ages etc....also his SIN and health number. I did so gladly.....I am so sick of this. He figures because my new p makes good money that he doesn't need to pay his son's expenses. GRRRR!

[JustVanessa]

Originally Posted by MsChatsAlot

It is what it is...and it's none of your business.

You need to take care of your child the way you see fit.

You are so right, I really don't care what they do. I just wouldn't lie on their behalf.
When the forms asked who lived in his house, I told the truth. Same with phone number, address etc.

[Shiloh]

If there is some fraud going on in that house that they want you to be helpful in covering up hopefully they are smart enough not to make it your business. (not saying that there is or isn't and I also think this place is a safe place to vent what we might not be saying to people IRL)

If they didn't want the number given out then realistically they should have not shared it with you. It is not your responsiblity either way.. You are doing nothing wrong, there are plenty of other mamas that would have called welfare, the tax man...anyone who might listen to the gossip I think I would have but that's just my hormonal vindictive streak comming out

and grr I hate that you have new man let him pay for my child mentality...