oh.my.goodness. I've lurked on these threads for a while just wishing I had reason to post. I finally belong here and I'm very excited! I'm really surprised at how weird it is to be dating. Now, granted, I only ever dated as a teenager cause I was real young when I got serious with ex, so just dating as adults is strange in and of itself. I realized I don't know the rules.
So, after being separated for over a year, I got asked out (by a completely gorgeous guy). He actually knows about water birth and homebirth and doulas and ebf and cosleeping and plenty more. He's a freak of nature. When we first met (I was with a gf who knew him - we just ran into him, it wasn't set up or anything) we got a little hammered (ok, I don't get out much, so cut me some slack) and talked about everything from racism to religion to feminism. He's really educated and opinionated but fortunately we agreed on nearly everything.
So, he texted me a week and a half later (here's where the rules come in - is it normal to wait that long? I had given up all hope! and texting, really?) and we set plans for that following friday. He texted me at least three times a day starting on tuesday, and called me twice.
I went to his house to watch a movie (rules again - what kind of a date IS that?) and we had a good time, like, umm, a really good time. heh. I unintentionally got totally hammered again (I have zero self control, really) and maybe acted very differently than I would have otherwise. It was kind of awkward for a while, which was weird, and led to more drinking (thus becoming a drunken slob). I mean, I know we're just getting to know eachother so it will be weird, but maybe that's where I need some BTDT advice.
On monday I texted him to say that if we're going to do something this week I needed to get a sitter. I
can't stand the suspense of waiting and I'm worried it makes me a little paranoid and then I act, perhaps, a little crazy. I really don't want to scare anyone off. I'm really worried about being/seeming too clingy. I don't
think I've done much to give this impression, but again, I don't know the rules so I don't know how I've differed from that. We're going to *probably* go out on friday, but he'll call me about times cause he's a got later work thing. That's not blowing me off, is it? I felt like he was really into me, but I'm starting to doubt.
I don't actually know how into this guy I am, but I can see that he's a real catch. His last girlfriend broke-up with him because he was too serious. That's a foreign concept to me. I'm actually worried I'm going to spontaniously fall in love with someone just because he's around. I don't know, I'm messed up.
I'm sorry this is such a book. I've tried to cut out as much as possible. I'm in sorry shape here ladies, I need some support!
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