Originally Posted by lilyka
even as an oler child I had some nightmare sleep overs and I can't beliebe my parents let me go over to complete strangers house.
Um, yeah, me too.
I remember staying at one girl's house when I was about 12 or 13 years old. My mom didn't really know the family. I don't remember where her dad was (not home during the stay) and her mom was home, for a while, before going out drinking for the night. I know we didn't have dinner or breakfast and not that it hurt me but it was shocking and sort of upsetting at the time.
There were some friends/families that my mom literally knew her whole life and even some of those situations were not good.
One of my closest friends had an absolute (yet highly functioning) addict father so we witnessed and were part of some very inappropriate behaviors.
Another had an incest vein running thru the family. Tragic and the memories will forever creep me out. I totally agree with the other poster, having some connection to molestation does influence ones feelings IMO.
While nothing truly bad ever happened to me personally, the "what could haves" are really frightening as a adult.
I don't know how I will handle sleepovers when it comes up, which won't be for a few years.