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Originally Posted by gabbyquilts 
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i really liked this book and as soon as i was done i thought it was very sweet. after a few days of thinking about it, i thought it was really really sad. Why did he have to tell her that he would see her again when she was old! The more I think about it the more I think of how controlling and manipulative that was. Not only does he get to ask the kid all about her, he pretty much made sure she would put her life on hold waiting. And who knows, maybe she would have anyway, but it kinda sucks.
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Oooh, right after finishing the book I was ticked off. He admitted in his letter that it was probably not a good idea to tell her about seeing her one more time, since he had just told her to move on, but he did anyway. She has spent her entire life waiting for him, what made him think this would be any different? I don't think he did it maliciously, but really, he should have known better. I was upset with her too, mainly for their daughter's sake - she *knew* what it did to Henry to have a parent who was absent and changed after the death of a spouse. And yet she just pined and waited.
Mind, I am willing to concede that we don't have the whole - or really any - of the story between when she was 34 or so and the elderly lady she was at the end. Maybe she coped just fine, maybe she dated or even remarried. But I doubt it, honestly. Especially since there was that fleeting time of seeing him when she was around 40 (when he visited their daughter in the library and found out he was to die). I bet she figured that since he didn't tell her about that, then there might be other times he didn't mention...
I won't say the ending ruined the book or anything, but it did frustrate me. She waited for so many years for what was probably just a few minutes of time. I suppose I should just think how sweet it is that her love was so strong that all that time spent waiting was well worth it to her. But really, I wanted her to get on with her life, even if not romantically - what happened with her art, I wonder? She could have tucked away the knowledge that she'd see her first love again deep in the recesses of her mind, and instead of obsessing, had it to pull out during the hard times.