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post #121 of 582
Hi. ADHD combined type mom here. Oh and anxiety and depression too. Have one DD 11 months old, one DH who's bipolar.

Whee.

Can't think of too much to say at this time. (haven't had my morning dose of caffiene) so I'll leave it here and come back at it later.
post #122 of 582
I'm new too this thread. I was diagnosed with ADD when i was six, years before it was popular or well heard of. I took Ritalin on and off for years. Then in college I switched to Dexedrine and can't imagine my life without it. I will say that for the first time I tried DHA (strawberry flavor none the less) and in combo with my meds worked really well.

I'd love another little one but being off meds was extremely hard for me. Even on my meds I find it next to impossible to clean our apartment. I get distracted by other things. Like being on the computer Or i go to clean a room and then i take the stuff to the other room and then I get stuck in that room and so on.
post #123 of 582
Hey mamas, I just realized Parenting might not be the best fit for you, since this is not just about how ADD/ADHD fits with parenting. If you'd like to go back to FYT or can think of another forum that already would host this conversation (I can't but I am kind of tapped ) just PM me and let know.
post #124 of 582
I came across this interesting article about bipolar disorder and older dads just this morning. I'm posting this here because many of us are aware that there's a huge overlap in symptoms between adhd and bipolar, specifically bipolar II. I believe I've posted here before. Anyway, I have bipolar II, and my daughter is currently being treated for adhd.

By the way, my father was 45 y.o. when I was born.

I was kind of surprised to find this thread here in Parenting anyway. Didn't it used to be in the Tribes forum?? Sounds like the right place to me.
post #125 of 582
I hate to jump in after they've asked us to move, but I'm subbingto this one. ADHD Self-medicated with caffine. I know.... But seruoisly, it's all natural and no more dangerous than other stimulants. DH id Adhd as is DS, and most likely, this little one comming. OH well! When we get settled, I'll post more
post #126 of 582
Hi! I'm self-diagnosed with ADD and the psychologist who diagnosed my son agrees that I'm probably right, although he can't diagnose me because I'm not his patient. My mom quite obviously has it, too, so I guess it runs in the family.

My major problem right now is getting appointments and phone calls done. There is this constant swirl in my head of all these things I cannot forget to do and I can't keep track of them. I finally made myself write them as I thought of them and the list was two full pages! I'm constantly amazed that I have something I'm required to go to almost every day even as a SAHM. It seems like every appointment brings with it two more that must be scheduled immediately. And usually I panic and schedule at the office even though I don't have my calendar so I don't forget and then go home to find I'm double or triple booked. And then I keep procrastinating on calling to change the time because I'm embarrassed.
post #127 of 582
Well, considering we're getting more mamas who fit, moving was a good thing!

Hi all you new to us Mamas! This is a support, tell us about yourself/share tips, books, etc/maybe get accountability for getting projects done/commiserate with other mamas who get how your brain works, etc, thread.

I don't recall how I found it because I hardly spend time in Tribes.
post #128 of 582
A book recommendation: It's Hard to Make a Difference When You Can't Find Your Keys by Marilyn Paul.

It's exceptionally good. She doesn't give you tips on how to organize your closet. She leads you through therapy, basically.
post #129 of 582
I keep finding tribes that I didn't know existed but are a perfect fit. They need to stop moving tribes out of FYT before I'm completely attached to my computer.

I did a drug study for a neuropsychiatrist two years ago. I was diagnosed with ADHD. I'm 99.99% sure I was taking the placebo since they kept increasing the dosage of "Conserta" with absolutely no change. When the study was over, I started finding the drug that fit me the best. Adderall XR was the best one at the time but I'm thinking Vyvanse might work as well.

I've been off my meds since February since I've been out of work (and uninsured.) I'd probably be able to afford the generic Adderall and just take it twice a day (it's only short acting.) But I haven't had an appointment with a doctor since last summer and need to have an evaluation to continue to get the meds prescribed.
post #130 of 582
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Maggirayne View Post
Well, considering we're getting more mamas who fit, moving was a good thing!

Hi all you new to us Mamas! This is a support, tell us about yourself/share tips, books, etc/maybe get accountability for getting projects done/commiserate with other mamas who get how your brain works, etc, thread.

I don't recall how I found it because I hardly spend time in Tribes.
I think I begged someone to join my tribe!


Hello, and Welcome, new Mommas! I'm glad you all found us (glad we found you all? oh, never mind. . .) I'm glad for the move, if it means we can have more opinions/experiences to share, it's telling that so many new faces found us just today!

When I looked in the FYT archives, it seemed quite a few ADD/ADHD tribes had started and fizzled, so maybe it wouldn't be the best place for us. I do confess though, that I'd never have thought to look in Parenting, and wouldn't have found us again at all if not for a most helpful (mighty) moderator!

I was actually thinking that we sort of fall into more of a 'twice exceptional' category, since a lot of what we talk about is the irony of being so quick and bright with some things., and so embarrassingly dull with others!

If you have a good idea where we should live, please weigh in, and we'll keep FYT as a default residence!

Me- ? not sure. . .
post #131 of 582
I think we should keep hopping from forum to forum. After all, that's how our brains operate.
post #132 of 582
Personally, I found a diagnosis extremely difficult to get, because I"m not always bouncing off the walls. I'm extremly impulsive, but not very hyper. I am extremely unfocused, daydreamy, and cater to addicting behaviors. (Right now I"m fighting addiction to the internet, to be quite honest.)

My parents had a very backwards philosophy on AD/HD; self diagnosed me when I was in middle school after watching an episode on 60 minutes. But I never saw a proffessional on it until well after I was married.

My mom read books from the library on my ad/hd but, never really applied what she read. They thought they could nag, talk, and discipline me out of AD/HD. They were far from proffessionals on dealing with it, and yet refused to see one.

I thought ad/hd was something i would grow out of.

But I found that I made impulsive life altering decisions that have forever changed my life. I often find myself wondering what life would have been like if I had been treated for ad/hd and wasn't such a failure with poor follow through and such great impulses.

1st, I wouldn't have eloped. I may have finished college and been a bit better off.

I have to force myself to accept life as it is what it is.

I just get resentful when I'm on meds and I see just how much better life is going with handling finances, my follow through, self control, reaching my goals, even being so much more patient with my child and get really resentful because this is the "real me". This is who I want to be in my mind when I'm not on meds and can't be. On meds, I can be who I am in my mind. If I had tapped into that in late teen/early adulthood, I could have warded off some of the life-altering mistakes I deal with today.


I have a hard time getting past it, and yes I still hold a lot of resentment towards my parents. But it's not just this, it's their cavalier "i am the boss" attitudes that show up in other aspects, such as raising my kid. I don't know, I feel like they wanted me to always be dependant on them, or something, I dunno. They thrive off of telling me I'm not doing something right, correcting me, and generally "parenting" me, even though I'm pushing 30 years old. I need this when I'm not medicated, and I resent needing to be pushed along. I don't think they like it when I'm medicated, doing well, and don't need anything from them at all. Their need to "parent" is not fulfilled when I'm medicated, I don't think. It's all very weird.

Anyhow, I'm rambling.
post #133 of 582
Thread Starter 
Hey! I know you from the October DDC!

First, welcome, and We've all more or less BTDT, and I recognize the things you talked about from my own life.

I think you're right, and your parents unfortunately built a lot of their parental identity around 'fixing' you, my mom did, particularly.

You sound a lot like me, I'm the 'innattentive type' which is such an incomplete title, YK? I was never hyper either, and I think it makes it a lot harder to get diagnosed. Being a dreamer looks like laziness to too many people- like my mom.

Dealing with ADD does give us tendencies toward addiction, mine is caffeine, majorly, but it would be so easy to slip away into something else, too.

Welcome to the tribe!
post #134 of 582
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Dealing with ADD does give us tendencies toward addiction, mine is caffeine, majorly, but it would be so easy to slip away into something else, too.
This.

I have major computer addiction issues and I'm taking online classes. (omg)

Anyone else feeling overwhelmed w/school and it's barely started? 'Cause I feel like I need a clone or something. For really.
post #135 of 582
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Originally Posted by heidirk View Post
Hey! I know you from the October DDC!

First, welcome, and We've all more or less BTDT, and I recognize the things you talked about from my own life.

I think you're right, and your parents unfortunately built a lot of their parental identity around 'fixing' you, my mom did, particularly.

You sound a lot like me, I'm the 'innattentive type' which is such an incomplete title, YK? I was never hyper either, and I think it makes it a lot harder to get diagnosed. Being a dreamer looks like laziness to too many people- like my mom.

Dealing with ADD does give us tendencies toward addiction, mine is caffeine, majorly, but it would be so easy to slip away into something else, too.

Welcome to the tribe!
Thanks! My body wants caffein SO BAD right now, and I'm not on meds right now (ugh! the horrors!) because of the jumping bean, I don't take either. Occassionally I'll have a bit of caffeinated tea or some chocolate (don't tell my midwife! : ) and I ALWAYS get a lot accomplished afterwards for a short period of time. Of course the little jumping bean reminds me as well by rearranging my kidneys and telling me that my bladder is getting in his way as well.

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This.

I have major computer addiction issues and I'm taking online classes. (omg)

Anyone else feeling overwhelmed w/school and it's barely started? 'Cause I feel like I need a clone or something. For really.
Before I found out I was pregnant, I was on Concerta. And I started school online with Penn Foster. Things were going great for a couple of weeks, then I found out I was pregnant, stopped meds, and everything went out the window from there.

I don't think I've ever finished much of anything off of meds. Ever. Not something as major as going to college (dropped out twice) or as minor as an art project. Most of my art projects sit around unfinished.
post #136 of 582
Thread Starter 
Oh, yes, I have felt like a clone is necessary, not just usefull, my entire life!

I won't be taking any new classes until January, my pastor/mentor's orders, in order to help me avoid PPD this time around. That hasn't stopped her from continuing my spiritual development all on her own though!
I was doing classes unmedicated, and it required a lot of caffeine.

Speaking of which, My MW just told me caffeine is OK. I mentioned it had started to taste good again, and had been drinking some, and asked her if I needed to cut back before delivery. I'm drinking maybe 2 not huge mugs a day. She said it wasn't necessary, moderation was the key, and reminded me that lots of French women drink a glass of wine every night while PG!

It's just that a cup of coffee makes my brain run straight, at least for a while the fog lifts. . .


I have a few (?) unfinished projects laying around too. . .
post #137 of 582
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Originally Posted by BethNC View Post
I think we should keep hopping from forum to forum. After all, that's how our brains operate.

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Originally Posted by KurumiSophia View Post
This.

I have major computer addiction issues and I'm taking online classes. (omg)

Anyone else feeling overwhelmed w/school and it's barely started? 'Cause I feel like I need a clone or something. For really.
Anyone else think of where Calvin makes copies of himself and sends them to school in place of himself?

And I'm spacey/daydreamer type(lazy). My mom got upset when I self-diagnosed ADD. I think she thought it was an excuse. I need someone to help keep me accountable.
post #138 of 582
Thread Starter 
My dad loves calvin and hobbes!
post #139 of 582
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My dad loves calvin and hobbes!
Same w/my DH. We actually pick up the "Franklin Richards, Son a of a Genius" oneshots because they are written in that same style.
post #140 of 582

ADHD and me

Freaky that this thread is here. I attempted to read all 138 messages in the thread before mine, but i just could not do it. I think i made it to 25 or so.

I too have ADHD, it sucks I hate it and it makes me feel like a stupid ass all the time. I also have depression and anxiety. I am unmedicated as I am breastfeeding and have no drug benefit insurance.

I wish I had people in my life who understood me, but i have none. I feel rather lonely, but have most of my life.

I am the classic ADHD girl, i am the bright one who does not meet her potential. In university I had a few professors looking at me as graduate student potential as I am very bright and unique. I never got as far as applying to gradschool because i ended up not being able to keep up with homework. I was as single mom for most of my academic career as well, so that made things even harder.

I really hope to go back to university and fix my mistakes there, but i do not know that will ever happen. That pains be deeply as I am an intellectual person, and not being in an environment with other people like myself is torture to me.

I have learned ways to cope, i wiggle my toes a lot so people do not see my figiting, i use a lot of self talk to bring my thoughts back, i practice mindfulness where i can. I do not really self medicate. I used to with coffee and cigarettes, but i quit smoking and only drink some coffee now. I have been on meds in the past with varying results. I did like ritalin because it was fast acting and did not have to build up to work, but the ritalin burn out was hell, all the agitation and tearfulness, not worth it. I tried wellbutrin, it works rather well for me, but only for a little while. Dexedrine was awful on my body, and pemoline has been recalled. I need therapy for this, by someone more qualified than myself. The thing is, in my community, no one is available to help me. I had a counselor tell me i was brilliant and managed it well by myself, and that there was no one who could teach or help me because i know so much already. I think it is hard to be your own therapist or case manager.

I lose things all the time, i forget what i am doing a lot. I often start things i do not finish. I am not getting anywhere. I am raising 4 children, and have a 5th a few months a year. The kids are inspired by me, but it is very hard for me to keep any of them scheduled or have all their clothes clean, forms signed etc. Needless to say tho, we are very close and there is a lot of love between us.

I am creative however, and my mind is so very hungry. I hyperfocus a lot. It has gotten me in trouble in my relationships. I think this is why people call me a walking encyclopedia, i know a lot of things. It is all because i have an insatiable need to understand.

I have recently started sewing and this is inspiring to me, but it is hard to keep it all organised. I am not too bad at it either it is a simple joy.

My off topic question is, how in the world do all of you get to have more than one smiley in your signature line? Whenever i try to add CDing, BFing, no circ, all that, i am told i can have only one. How do i fix this? I have a desire to be known, so i would like to put more in my line as well.

Anyway, i guess i was just venting in hopes of being understood, i am so over tired right now, Peace
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