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post #161 of 582

wow

so i was diagnosed with adhd as a kid ( really i think my symptoms were induced by a neglectful and horrid homelife.... but w/e) but my mother has severe add.... and now that i'm reading some of your posts i think that i may have been misdiagnosed? i have a TERRIBLE time multitasking... or actually i can multitask but none of my tasks EVER get completed.... and i have a hard time feeling motivated. if i drink caffiene i can GO GO GO and be fine and finish all my odd jobs in a day... but otherwise its like all of a sudden the day is gone and i've not done the dishes or not done the laundry and not done the yardwork etc.... and i'm like wth did i do all day? i mean i spend my days with my kids... but i feel so inadequet because my hubby comes home and is like um.... why are you jus sitting there with the kids/ playing online/ this or that... should i ask my doc about this? and if you do have add can you cope no meds?
post #162 of 582
Thread Starter 
Hi Samanthamama! Welcome to our gloriously goofy tribe!

Many of us function without drugs. Some of us use a med to control things, some of us can't, some tried them and couldn't use them, but what we all have is common is that despite good days, and bad days, we find ways to cope, and even enjoy/appreciate ourselves.

If you scan the thread, you'll see references to self medicating, prescriptions, etc. I don't know if this'll make you feel better or not, but here's what I accomplished today:

-I napped
-I gave my toes one coat of polish while DS napped
-I made lunch (go me)
-I threw a load of training pants in the wash at 7:30 am. . . they're still there.
-Oh, I did sort some nursing/fall clothes.

I wanted to get so much more done, but I didn't. I totally know what you mean about the whole, 'where did my day go?' thing.


Pumpkincat- you're allowed a minirant now and then! Unfortunately that happens so often in big churches, I know a woman who had the exact same thing happen to her. She had a baby at age 18, she was alone, no help, and when her mom asked the church if someone could at least deliver a meal for them, she was told, "Noone does that right now" My church is tiny by a lot of standards, but when someone needs help, everyone pitches in.

Unfortunately, this one experience with my mentor at church is the absolute best to have happened in some time. As far as she and the requirements she's placed on me are concerned, it's been horrendous. My own mother, who is a pastor, is disgusted by it. what do you do, YK?

That diaper sprayer sounds incredibly easy. Nana and Popop are comeing next week, so I may just buy the parts, and have Popop install it! DH is not exactly handy, really. That's my department.

And thanks for the congrats, I've been ridiculously healthy this whole PG, even with all the stress over DH's job.
post #163 of 582
Thread Starter 
Maggirayne- I just realised I never answered one of your questions! (see the advantages of having a conversation in writing!).

I'll be birthing at a birth center, this time, last time was in a hospital, but I achieved my goal of an unmedicated birth. I am REALLY excited about this one!

I was just thinking, pregnancy and birth being such out of control events, you'd think they'd stress me out more than they do. Maybe it's easier to accept because it IS inherantly uncontrollable?



Where have you all birthed, and how has it effected your deliveries?

And who else has HUGE issues Post partum?
post #164 of 582
So glad to see this thread. I'm unfortunately at work and need to get back to it but want to sub so that I can FIND this thread again (!!) and come back to join your tribe. I have diagnosed ADD and need to make time for another round of finding new strategies. I became the major breadwinner for our family last year and working full-time while parenting two children and trying to keep house (not to mention trying to have a life of my own) just isn't working. I feel like I'm leaking all over---forgetting & losing things, behind on crucial projects at work, losing touch with all of my friends etc etc..... I need to move beyond my shame to re-assess and find some new strategies or interventions of some sort.

Nice to see you all here. I'll be back....

StillForest
post #165 of 582

lol

today i actually got a few things done. a few loads of laundry that are now sitting on the bed half folded and not put up lmbo.... also i washed several dishes and then left the rest in the sink so i could go and seperate whites from colors in my daughters laundry basket... wich is seperated and not washed lmbo.... i suppose i'm not the only wierd one on the planet.... makes you think maybe we arent so wierd after all.



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Originally Posted by heidirk View Post
Hi Samanthamama! Welcome to our gloriously goofy tribe!

Many of us function without drugs. Some of us use a med to control things, some of us can't, some tried them and couldn't use them, but what we all have is common is that despite good days, and bad days, we find ways to cope, and even enjoy/appreciate ourselves.

If you scan the thread, you'll see references to self medicating, prescriptions, etc. I don't know if this'll make you feel better or not, but here's what I accomplished today:

-I napped
-I gave my toes one coat of polish while DS napped
-I made lunch (go me)
-I threw a load of training pants in the wash at 7:30 am. . . they're still there.
-Oh, I did sort some nursing/fall clothes.

I wanted to get so much more done, but I didn't. I totally know what you mean about the whole, 'where did my day go?' thing.


Pumpkincat- you're allowed a minirant now and then! Unfortunately that happens so often in big churches, I know a woman who had the exact same thing happen to her. She had a baby at age 18, she was alone, no help, and when her mom asked the church if someone could at least deliver a meal for them, she was told, "Noone does that right now" My church is tiny by a lot of standards, but when someone needs help, everyone pitches in.

Unfortunately, this one experience with my mentor at church is the absolute best to have happened in some time. As far as she and the requirements she's placed on me are concerned, it's been horrendous. My own mother, who is a pastor, is disgusted by it. what do you do, YK?

That diaper sprayer sounds incredibly easy. Nana and Popop are comeing next week, so I may just buy the parts, and have Popop install it! DH is not exactly handy, really. That's my department.

And thanks for the congrats, I've been ridiculously healthy this whole PG, even with all the stress over DH's job.
post #166 of 582
YES! ME! I have ADHD too! I was just officially diagnosed a few weeks ago (I am 25) and I really hope the psychologist is right...I am not the typical disorganized, forgetful type--I am on the opposite extreme with borderline ocd tendencies. The doc seems to think I need my physical world in order to compensate for the mental/emotional disarray and I can see his point. He has me trying Vyvanse--an amphetimine wrapped in protein to make the ramp-up and come-down more tolerable--but I feel like it is increasing my anxiety and compulsiveness, which is the reason I entered therapy in the first place. I feel like it is preventing me from enjoying, relaxing, and playing with my dd. Note: I only agreed to medication since I am no longer bfing. My breast milk dried up very prematurely (dd was only 5 months old when it started disappearing and I was never able to regain a full supply. ) So I am so glad to have found this tribe...I will tell you all more about my crazy head soon and read more of your fabulous posts, but it's time to leave work for the day.

BTW, heidirk, I had a med-free waterbirth at a free-standing birth center and it was the most amazing experience of my life. I've never felt more empowered as a woman and it really made me feel ready and capable of being a mother in a profound way that endless research could not--I'm almost jealous of all the pregnant women out there right now, because of how amazing I found birth to be!

So grateful to have found you all! :
post #167 of 582
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Quote:
Originally Posted by StillForest View Post
So glad to see this thread. I'm unfortunately at work and need to get back to it but want to sub so that I can FIND this thread again (!!) and come back to join your tribe. I have diagnosed ADD and need to make time for another round of finding new strategies. I became the major breadwinner for our family last year and working full-time while parenting two children and trying to keep house (not to mention trying to have a life of my own) just isn't working. I feel like I'm leaking all over---forgetting & losing things, behind on crucial projects at work, losing touch with all of my friends etc etc..... I need to move beyond my shame to re-assess and find some new strategies or interventions of some sort.

Nice to see you all here. I'll be back....

StillForest
Wow, do you have your plate full or what!? When I have too much going on, that's when I can't maintain the illusion of pulledtogetherness either. I just start dropping the ball left and right. SLOW DOWN! Decide what's absolutely important, and stick to that. to you mamma, we've all been there.

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Originally Posted by samanthamommaof3 View Post
today i actually got a few things done. a few loads of laundry that are now sitting on the bed half folded and not put up lmbo.... also i washed several dishes and then left the rest in the sink so i could go and seperate whites from colors in my daughters laundry basket... wich is seperated and not washed lmbo.... i suppose i'm not the only wierd one on the planet.... makes you think maybe we arent so wierd after all.
Oh, yes, the forgotten laundry saga! Did I ever tell you about the time we went away for the weekend, and I forgot the diaper pail was full? : Hmmm. . . . I had never seen that exact shade of mold before! :Puke

Yeah, I think there are plenty of us out there! We just don't fit into this society's expectations very well. . . :


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Originally Posted by livsmom View Post
YES! ME! I have ADHD too! I was just officially diagnosed a few weeks ago (I am 25) and I really hope the psychologist is right...I am not the typical disorganized, forgetful type--I am on the opposite extreme with borderline ocd tendencies. The doc seems to think I need my physical world in order to compensate for the mental/emotional disarray and I can see his point. He has me trying Vyvanse--an amphetimine wrapped in protein to make the ramp-up and come-down more tolerable--but I feel like it is increasing my anxiety and compulsiveness, which is the reason I entered therapy in the first place. I feel like it is preventing me from enjoying, relaxing, and playing with my dd. Note: I only agreed to medication since I am no longer bfing. My breast milk dried up very prematurely (dd was only 5 months old when it started disappearing and I was never able to regain a full supply. ) So I am so glad to have found this tribe...I will tell you all more about my crazy head soon and read more of your fabulous posts, but it's time to leave work for the day.

BTW, heidirk, I had a med-free waterbirth at a free-standing birth center and it was the most amazing experience of my life. I've never felt more empowered as a woman and it really made me feel ready and capable of being a mother in a profound way that endless research could not--I'm almost jealous of all the pregnant women out there right now, because of how amazing I found birth to be!

So grateful to have found you all! :
Hello Livsmom! Welcome! I am so sad that your BF'ing relationship ended before you and your baby were ready. That happened for my friend, and I know how she greived. . .

It might interest you to know that a lot of adults with ADD or ADHD get misdiagnosed as bipolar or OCD. We often show symptoms of both. Especially when we are overcompensating for our perceived failures!

I think being a momma was what finally convinced me that I couldn't maintain that level of control over my life, not even in my head. Facing that, I'm sure contributed to my PPD with DS.

I'm glad your birth experience was so empowering for you. Tell that story as much as you can, women need to hear what birth can be!
post #168 of 582
Thread Starter 
Bump!



How is everyone doing?


This is me today. . . .

post #169 of 582
Bleh.

You know, I was doing really great keeping on top of things last month and actually managed to carve away a little time for myself each day to do creative stuff. Now I seem to have gotten behind again. UGH.
post #170 of 582
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girly, BTDT. . .
post #171 of 582
Hi Everyone! Sorry...I meant to post again sooner, but you know...I got distracted, of course!
I was wondering if any of you feel like you are attracted to chaos? I am starting to believe that, perhaps, DP has ADHD too--and I am constantly running around our house picking up after him! We both work full time and his job is a little more demanding so I take on most of the domestic tasks as well--like bill paying, meal planning, finding daycare, etc... (A lot of the paperwork things I can actually do while I'm at work.) The thing is that we actually work at the same place and work the exact same hours, but I am still expected to manage home life. It takes me SO long to do all of these things by myself, and sometimes, DP even criticizes me for not doing things well enough or for not including him in the decision-making process! I've told him that if he helped more he would be able to have more input on decisions, but he's not really interested in that. I have (am) seriously considering moving out for a while (with DD) because of how stressed our situation is. Our entire relationship has been especially tense, because I got pregnant after we had been dating for about a week and we moved in together just 4 months later. I feel like this is how most of my life goes--constantly reacting to some type of crisis. Either I'm just used to it or I actually create it because for some weird reason I am attracted to chaos. Does this resonate with anyone else? Thanks so much for creating a space to let me vent!
post #172 of 582
[QUOTE=heidirk;12271082]Wow, do you have your plate full or what!? When I have too much going on, that's when I can't maintain the illusion of pulledtogetherness either. I just start dropping the ball left and right. SLOW DOWN! Decide what's absolutely important, and stick to that. to you mamma, we've all been there.



Oh, yes, the forgotten laundry saga! Did I ever tell you about the time we went away for the weekend, and I forgot the diaper pail was full? : Hmmm. . . . I had never seen that exact shade of mold before! :Puke

Yeah, I think there are plenty of us out there! We just don't fit into this society's expectations very well. . . :
QUOTE]

lol i was laughing so hard when i read that. i do silly things like that quite often. lol.
post #173 of 582
i have had adhd since age 5. unmedicated now and i have a shorter attention span with things than my 4 yr old.

we should start a tribe
post #174 of 582
Hehe, this is the ADD/ADHD Tribe. We were in tribes and got moved, here, which has been good because more mamas have found us.
post #175 of 582
Thread Starter 
I think it's good for us to be here too. The more the merrier! :

Hi to all newbies!

Livsmom- I've always said that chaos is attracted to ME. Kind of a modified Murphy's law, YK? "Anything that can happen, WILL, when I'm there!"

Maybe it's just that we're always doing so many things at one time!
post #176 of 582
Heidi, how are you doing? I'm thinking of you!
post #177 of 582
Thread Starter 
Thanks, I'm thinking about all of you too! I'm at home on Rest. Not necessarily don't-get-out-of-bed-rest, but more of a stay-on-the-couch-if-you-can sort of rest. DH stayed home Friday night, Saturday, and today, and we all stayed home from church.


My BP is up when I'm up and down when I'm down. Which reminds me, I need to call and check in with my MW!


MIL and FIL are comeing to take DS for the day tomorrow, and I have an appointment, too. Otherwise, baby's still hanging in there! Feeling good actually, resting seems to agree with me!
post #178 of 582
I've lost my marbles.

Can some one please tell me that I'm not the only one who gets her brains cells sucked out of her in the last days of pregnancy?

Ok, so most people do this maybe...hence the joke that goes around...

but I seem to be doing it to the nth degree. I am SO absent minded, SO forgetful, and completely and incontrolably can't pay attention to details. My posts have become horrid as I edit and edit and edit for little careless mistakes and errors that change the whole meaning of my post.

It's getting ridiculous. I want my brain back.
post #179 of 582
Thread Starter 
No, you're not the only one. I lost my brain about oh. . . 9 months ago!


Hang in there, we don't have too much longer to wait!
post #180 of 582
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No, you're not the only one. I lost my brain about oh. . . 9 months ago!


Hang in there, we don't have too much longer to wait!

So your, ad/hdishness got worse with pregnancy too? Ok, at least I'm not alone.
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