This thread has tested my ADHD... I didn't make it through the whole thing, but I WILL. Just wanted to post and get in on the talking, right away!
Originally Posted by heidirk
I find having ADD helpful in caring for kids. I remember vividly how being a kid was, so it's easy for me to look at him and say, OK...He's upset about X let's try THIS.
I also found a neat book, The Gift of ADHD. I recommend reading that while you still have brain cells left!
I'm looking into that book... I find my ADHD to be like a massive engine that propels me through my hectic schedule at break-neck speeds that would crush the average human will.
I semi-jokingly refer to my ADHD as my super-power.
Originally Posted by 636Jen
She could be very thankful that it's just not "HER" it's a chemical imbalance that is treatable. She could just be relieved. I know my oldest was!
The feeling that accompanied my diagnosis of ADHD 15 years ago (when I was about 18) is the same feeling that accompanied being diagnosed with asthma 7 years before that: "Oh, ok... well it explains a LOT, and I'm relieved. BUT, there is a certain view of people with this diagnosis, and that bugs me..."
I still feel the same way about both
Do any of you think about your diagnosis as you would a diagnosis of any other imbalance or ailment? So may folks still perceive ADHD as a defect... a defficiency (Attention Defficit), that it seems difficult for some to bridge the gap between imbalance and imperfection.
I'm for redefining ADHD as a 'divergent mind-set'... or even as a different skill-set
Originally Posted by annettemarie
Hi there! In the interest of limiting FYT to subjects not hosted elsewhere on the board, we have moved your tribe here. You're still a tribe, which means you're still support-only. If you have any questions about the move, please do not discuss it on the boards. Rather, contact an administrator or start a thread in Questions and Suggestions
. Thanks, and happy posting!
SO glad you all moved over here...
Originally Posted by Maggirayne
<snip> We were in tribes and got moved, here, which has been good because more mamas have found us.
.......And, had you not moved, I would NOT have found you, as I just don't go into the Tribes area much... never been much of a joiner, kwim?
I was pretty surprised when I saw this thread... I love this feeling, of having found my people... I have experienced it in a couple other threads, but it's a rarity, even here on MDC.
At the risk of getting long-winded (and I do get long-winded), I am anxious to share with you all, and look forward to your insights...
I have a pediatrician FIL who is a self-made, self-proclaimed expert on ADHD. He attends seminar after seminar, conference after conference; writes and speaks publicly on the topic extensively, (FIL has comented that experts in the field no longer differentiate between ADD and ADHD, and that ADHD is the preferred term, ADD being basically discarded by those in the profession... take that as you like) and has (in some ways) inspired me to follow my childhood dream (with a bit of amending) of being a pediatrician. I, too, am currently in school (in addition to the multitude of things I'm involved in), and pursuing a doctorate in pediatric clinical/developmental psychology. (Tho, I might go for IandO instead, more money!
) Dh jokes that my primary motivation for following this path is to take FIL to school...
Dh has ADHD as well... we have heard every joking reference to or inquiry regarding how life must be at our house with muted annoyance and some humor... but it gets old. I had to rein FIL in a bit around dd's 6th month, as he was pretty continuously referring to her as "double-gene-loaded," and openly
anticipating the imminent diagnosis of ADHD.
Dh and I illustrate 2 ends on a continuum... Both of us with the ADHD diagnosis; he was medicated (aggressively, and by his own father...) for much of his childhood and adolescence, while my mother yanked me from a therapist (I was 16) that pointed her in the direction of medicating me with Ritalin before a diagnosis had ever been given, or treatment options. I pursued a behavioral path in my own treatment around 18, which is when I was diagnosed, and have used conscious behavioral modification as a means to manage my ADHD symptoms ever since, with mostly success, and some rough patches. Dh was medicated and we both self-medicated
, illegally, when we got together. Then, while I was pregnant, there was no medicating of any
kind, for me, and dh chose to go off his meds, citing the aggression he felt while medicated as a primary reason to be off them. His family was not pleased, and has made issue of his "unmedicated ADHD" ever since, specifically his dad.
Recently, dh and I hit rough patch. It was becoming more and more apparent to me that dh was suffering severe depression and anxiety, and he was loathe to get any help (having been theraputically burned by one's dad could do that I think) but
we had reached critical mass. So he went to FIL and StepMIL to see if they might have colleagues to recommend (as they are both in the field). They did, he went, it was great. He's on Celexa (sp?) and quite proud of that... he tells everyone. "How you doing these days?" they ask... (for example his big sister); his reply: "GREAT! I'm on Celexa! And stuff that used to send me over the top just kind of bounces off, now... and I stopped hating myself!" He's had such a turn-around... It's like the man I married is back.
When asking after dh's "wellness" FIL and StepMIL constantly ask "So, what are you doing about the ADHD?" "When are you planning to treat the ADHD?" "What's his plan for the ADHD piece?"
He's GOOD. He might not ever
do anything about the ADHD piece!! It just makes my head wanna
And now, dh is doing the same crap to me...
I was a SAHM until 20 months ago when I went to school. I held down a small direct sales consultant biz, during that time, and was very active in our community.
I am in school full-time, with 16 credits this term, 3 classes, 4 days a week. (Psy202, Math243, and Speech) I work as a part-time home-blesser/house-cleaner for MDC moms in my area, 3 days a week. (SIL thinks I should name my biz "Play-Date Cleaning Service" because generally, dd comes along, and has a play-date while I clean.) I volunteer at dd's pre-school 1 day a week, teach-assist at Baha'i school on Sundays, volunteer for dd's ballet/tap school performances, and work in women's mentoring, guided meditation, Virtues Parenting, and spiritual consultation. Sometimes, especially the first few weeks of school, I get a little addle-brained and forget things, lock the keys in the car, etc... Dh has been on me, recently, saying he thinks I need to medicate (with totally awesome side-notes about how ADHD meds will "help with your weight, too"). I am trying to be understanding that he has found renewed faith in the mental-health industry and medication; that he just wants to share that with me, is enthusiastic about it (like a born-again). But, suddenly, I find myself in doubt... should
I medicate? Is there something wrong? And I feel like that adolescent girl again, suddenly unsure of my identity, tho I've felt such strong convictions regarding how I manage my ADHD for so long; wondering if I'm missing out on maximizing my potential via medication, or robbing dd of a more "together" mama........
I mean, I feel
pretty together (if fact FIL once tried to tell me that he didn't believe I had ADHD... he wanted to know who diagnosed me, what were her credentials, etc...
). But I do
forget things. The other day I had forgotten to grab dd's packed and ready lunch off the counter as we dashed out the door to school (she comes to my school and is in the on-site day-care, and they do sack lunch there). As we got out of the car I said "Whoops! I forgot your lunch! I guess I'll have to bring you one at lunch time." She says, "Mama, you've gotta stop being so forgetful
Can't I just have a bad day?? I mean 'normal' people have them, too!
Thoughts? On any of it...?
I'm very excited about this thread... I feel as tho I have found a treasure trove, and I look forward to conversations...
(now... back to reading this thread)