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post #221 of 582
Subbing.
I am self-diagnosed ADD (Inattentive). I took the test in Healing the Six Types of ADD. My husband is in strong agreement with the results, and it has helped us function better as a couple and as parents. Still, it is a bumpy road and I don't always utilize the coping skills I've learned. I often feel like I'm not doing a good enough job as a mother and wife, and not trying hard enough to improve.
Still, my husband is supportive and tries his best to be understanding when I am late, take too long running errands, can't seem to stay on task, etc. The poor guy often comes home after 10 hours of manual labor and zips around tidying and what I call "rescuing me." I expect a certain amount of the housework load to fall on my partner's shoulders, but often it is far more than he deserves.

Anyway, hello everyone! I look forward to reading more posts from this thread - I can relate to so much of what I have read already!
post #222 of 582
No, there's only 3 in my whole state. I had a decent (unmedicated) but fairly normal 9baby taken to nursery for hours)hospital birth experience that I have no desire to repeat.

Hi, Jenny! What a sweet husband you have. One thing that's helped me is my husband will help me pick one task to focus on when he leaves for work.
post #223 of 582
Thread Starter 
Hi BennyPai!! Welcome to the Funhouse!!

I need a lot more from DH than other moms I know do, and it gets to me sometimes, too. In reality though, we should take for granted that our partners will need us, and we them, not take our independance for granted. I think that's what makes a lot of relationships tense, YK?

Maggirayne- Congratulations! Keep us posted!
post #224 of 582
I'm a diagnoised ADD (no hyper activity)

Deanna
post #225 of 582
Oh I'm not on medication I was put on Ritilan as a child I remember how horrible it made me feel. Like I couldn't move couldn't respond like i was helpless to react to anything.

Deanna
post #226 of 582
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The actual bathroom wasn';t that bad, it was the two disadter areas we ahad to walk through to get to the bathroom!


But it's not all my fault, DH doesn't put ANYTHING away, at all! I told him last night, that the next diaperwrap I find laying around with a wet cloth diaper festering inside, would be placed inside his pillowcase! : Surprisingly enough, he didn't get angry, he just walked around gathering up all the wraps he'd left laying around, and took them down to the diaper pail! :
This made me smile.. I've realized lately how DH and I complement each other. I'm the miminalist I hate having a lot of anything I want just enough to function enough clothes to last the week a towel per person ect but I could care less about tons of books lots of clothes ect.. BUT... I'm also the absent minded person I'm the one who comes inside drops my keys in a cup left on the kitchen counter kicks my shoes off in the middle of the living room opens a granola bar tosses the paper on the table.... ect
Dh however wants to keep collect everything when I met him he had a collection of national Geographics clear back to the 1920s all in mint condition he will hang on to everything cause it might come in handy but he will also find my keys and hang them up put my shoes on the rack he makes sure the dishes never totally pile up. He helps keep tract of me I keep the cluter at bay...

Deanna
post #227 of 582
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I'm a diagnoised ADD (no hyper activity)

Deanna
Hi!
post #228 of 582
Hey, what do you think about ADD and diet? What has helped/not helped? What do you think about the supplement suggestion at the bottom of this article?
post #229 of 582
I have the Nutrition Solution book, never got into it. My ADD hasn't been such an issue in the more recent years. But, I've been taking fish oil and using olive oil for cooking and on prenatals for oh, 3 years?
post #230 of 582

Add/hd

Just saw this post. Yes, ADD (with a real fidgety nature) I am pregnant now. I am worried. I can barley take care of things now! My husband helps with things like dishes and trash but he doesn't have a clue about organization. Me I can plan anything I just can follow through with the plan. I spend lots of time really disliking myself for not doing stuff. We also just moved and I am really struggling putting things together. AND I am overwellmed right now with my itchy impulsiveness to move to back "home" (we just moved 20 minutes away). That has been one of the hardest things for me to deal with-always wanting to be somewhere else.

And now I am trying to balance what to buy for baby/not buy etc

I did read about the FLY LADY in some ADD book or something. Check out her website. Don't get overwellmed by all the info. As she says "baby steps" It really is a great method etc. It is the ONLY thing that has ever given me hope about having a functional home life.

katharine
post #231 of 582
I am positive I have ADD. My friend just finished her nursing relationship a couple of months ago and started taking Adirol (sp?) and said it worked wonders. I really am so tired of going in circles, starting something only two minutes later to run off to do soemthing else just as important and having a depressingly cluttered messy dirty house that I just can't get my mind even remotely wrapped around. Since I plan to unschool it's really important to get this under control. Oh yea and we plan to add one more little one to our family if things go right so that's another incentive.
post #232 of 582
sapphos, I get ya. I hope you get the help you need.

Soooooooooooooooo went to a therapist on Thursday, and she was VERY cool about this - said an actual diagnosis is going to take more than one session ( $$$$$$$$$$$), but I have all the classic signs.

She thinks I have Generalized Anxiety Disorder as well, so it's probably a few different things.

I'll keep you guys updated.
post #233 of 582
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post
Hey, what do you think about ADD and diet? What has helped/not helped? What do you think about the supplement suggestion at the bottom of this article?
That's really neat! It sort of describes all the changes that I've sort of organically made over time to my diet and lifestyle. And here I thought my Hypoglycemia and my ADD were separate phenomena! It also explains why I did so well on an Atkins style diet! :

kfillmore- You sound exactly like my dad in wanting to always be somewhere else! And home for me is only ever my house, right here. If we ever move, ooohhhh I'll be in sorry shape! I spent 3/4 of my childhood moving(what a way to wack out an ADD brain, anyway! : ) and I still have dreams about not being able to find a bathroom in the middle of the night! I wet the bed for a long time, and I think it had a lot to do with A. always being in a new house, B. having terrible eyesight, especially at night, C. and not being allowed out of bed at night, except to pee.

Sapphos- I am seriously reconsidering my intention to homeschool, simply because I cannot get my shtuff organized! How on Earth am I supposed to homeschool?
post #234 of 582
Thread Starter 
Just a general vent. How many times have you said/done something that seemed completely innocent at the time, only to have someone tell you later, it was a gross error on your part, and you should have known better?

I doubt myself enough already, and I CANNOT always guage other people's reactions. I drove my self crazy as a child trying very hard never to offend anyone, and what ended up happening is that I just never talked at all in certain circumstances.

AAGGHHHHH!!!!!! Balance! Where is Balance?


On a lighter note, I had a very nice time at a new friend's house last evening, and my two YO who was VERY impressed by their pets, keeps saying today, "yeah momma, mouw (meow) woof dog!"


What oh what shall I do with this beautiful day today? Maybe, if I'm lucky I can get a shower!!! :
post #235 of 582
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Just a general vent. How many times have you said/done something that seemed completely innocent at the time, only to have someone tell you later, it was a gross error on your part, and you should have known better?

I doubt myself enough already, and I CANNOT always guage other people's reactions. I drove my self crazy as a child trying very hard never to offend anyone, and what ended up happening is that I just never talked at all in certain circumstances.

AAGGHHHHH!!!!!! Balance! Where is Balance?
You know, I've decided that I try to be nice and not make jokes that will come across wrong, and if someone takes it wrong, then they do have some responsibility not to be offended by everything out there, does that make sense?
But, it is no fun being taken wrongly.
post #236 of 582
help mamas im going nuts. im add and my meds are no longer working. i have tried a bunch of different kinds and nothing works!! i dont know what to do to help myself. im not getting anything done. we just moved and the house is a shambles. i need to get it together but im totally at a loss. is there anything i can do? when i got diagnosed at 19 and started meds it changed my life tremendously for the better. now i just dont know what to do.
post #237 of 582
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Originally Posted by Maggirayne View Post
You know, I've decided that I try to be nice and not make jokes that will come across wrong, and if someone takes it wrong, then they do have some responsibility not to be offended by everything out there, does that make sense?
But, it is no fun being taken wrongly.
Y'know, that's just it, I wasn't even joking, I was just expressing my very personal hurt. : Thxs for the hugs!

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help mamas im going nuts. im add and my meds are no longer working. i have tried a bunch of different kinds and nothing works!! i dont know what to do to help myself. im not getting anything done. we just moved and the house is a shambles. i need to get it together but im totally at a loss. is there anything i can do? when i got diagnosed at 19 and started meds it changed my life tremendously for the better. now i just dont know what to do.
Hi 1littlebit! First, I think I know how you feel. At times of unusual stress (or pregnancy! :P ) my supplements lose their 'power'. I do find it necessary to add, adjust, or experiment to find my equilibrium again. The only advice I can offer is to give yourself a little time to get used to your new surroundings. It takes me a minimum of a year to get settled into a new house!
post #238 of 582
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Originally Posted by heidirk View Post
On a lighter note, I had a very nice time at a new friend's house last evening, and my two YO who was VERY impressed by their pets, keeps saying today, "yeah momma, mouw (meow) woof dog!"


I know a dog who spent the morning trying to get a baby to chase her around the house. Poor dog doesn't get that she'll have to wait a bit.

1littlebit, . Maybe just give yourself one thing to do in the morning and one thing in the afternoon. I find getting started is the hardest when things are so messy.
post #239 of 582
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Y'know, that's just it, I wasn't even joking, I was just expressing my very personal hurt. : Thxs for the hugs!
Good grief. That makes really upset for you. I hate it when people are weird like that anyway and when you're expressing hurt and wanting empathy, that's just insulting! Man!

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Originally Posted by 1littlebit View Post
help mamas im going nuts. im add and my meds are no longer working. i have tried a bunch of different kinds and nothing works!! i dont know what to do to help myself. im not getting anything done. we just moved and the house is a shambles. i need to get it together but im totally at a loss. is there anything i can do? when i got diagnosed at 19 and started meds it changed my life tremendously for the better. now i just dont know what to do.
Set a timer for 15 minutes and do one thing and don't let yourself get distracted. Hehe, now if I could just do that! It's not easy.
post #240 of 582
was trying to figure out the best place to talk about this, and I think it goes here.

I'm having a really difficult time trying to figure out how to take care of my own children at once. It's really extremely difficult for me. It's not just about taking care of them, but how to relate to both of them at once. I have a pretty typical one-track AD/hd mind, I can only handle one thing at a time to the exclusion of everything else, so I'm finding handling my 2week old and my 3yo together to be daunting.

I'm on Zoloft for postpartum depression. My mom had been helping me a lot with my 3yo over the past couple of weeks while I heal up and stuff.

I also feel like I have to emotionally ready myself to deal with both boys. The last few times I had my two children alone together, I felt some extreme anxiety. Not just teary, or unsure, but like, my heart was racing, and I really felt like I was freaking out. Meanwhile both of my boys are sitting there looking at me like, and each other, like whats her problem.

I felt like I really needed to get a handle on myself and let my meds really kick in.

Well tonight, I really thought I had a handle on myself. My mom drops my 3yo off today, my husband goes to work. He is off tomorrow. So it's like, to me, I just have to really make it through his one 8 hour shift tonight and then he's around all day tomorrow to help and most of the day friday. Things are good.

I took my kid to mcdonalds to play indoors since it was raining. Nursed the baby while I was there. Took him to the store afterwards to replace a special little car that he'd lost and had been asking about for weeks so he'd have something special to play with when we got home and I was occupied with the baby. Things are ok.

...or so I thought. This is how I know I didn't have quite have the handle on my anxiety that I thought I did.

We get home, my 3yo wants a bath. That's fine. All I have to do is put the baby in the carseat and screw the stopper down in the bathtub so it can be filling up. So I put the baby down...

I fiddle with the stopper. And fiddle. And fiddle. The stupid thing will absolutely NOT screw down. It's old and rusty but Im usually easily able to get it to screw down. I. just. can't. My 3yo is axiously beside me ready for his bath, asking me the same questions over and over again. "U fix it mommy? It's broke? U fix it? U fix it? U fix it?"

Finally I annoyedly tell him to hush..

The baby starts crying. I'm freaking out. I finally stop and go to comfort him.

I calm him down, my 3yo is on my heels everywhere I go cause he wants to take a bath with his new toy.

Eventually I try putting the baby down again. I try to screw the stopper down again. It stilll won't. The 3yo is getting excited. The baby eventually starts screaming again. This time really bad. So I"m getting extremely frustrated with the stopper. It takes me a while to calm the baby down this time. My 3yo is starting to do stuff he knows annoys me to get attention from me, basically in defiance because he wants his bath and I haven't had a chance to get it together for him yet..

I try calling my husband like 3 times with no answer to get him to explain to me if there is something he's done with the stopper or broke it or something and I not know about it. FINALLY i reach him, he's like no, just screw it down.

So finally, I put the baby down one more time. I pull his bucket seat in with me so he can watch us. He sits in it and starts to doze off.

And a novel idea hits me. What if I tried screwing the stopper in the opposite direction? I do this. Quick as a flash, the stopper screws down.

big whopping moment for me. All that time I was screwing the stopper the wrong way and was too busy freaking out to notice. Ugh.

so...I guess my brain hasn't quite calmed itself down being wrapped around the notion of caring for two children as well as I thought it had. only some one with anxiety plus add would understand
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