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post #381 of 582
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I am kind of irritated right now guys. My dh, who was diagnosed adhd as a child, almost 20 years ago has a family that likes to make him feel ashamed when he doesnt remember a birthday.

Tonight, his mom called him and said 'your dad's waiting up to go to bed waiting for your call I think. (For his birthday)"

Sometimes his sister grudgingly reminds him of someones bday but usually like the day before and not enough time to actually do anything.

I am so pissed that mental illnesses are so inconvenient to people like we are just "lazy." or "uncaring" or"worthless"

I'd love to give his mother (who spent her whole life raising an adhd child and should know better) a piece of my mind. :
Dh's family has some of this, too. He has lived under the burden of this passive guilt-trip stuff for 34 years. He has major inadequacy issues as a result of having been cultivated as the "black sheep" who has "so much potential" which I hate hearing because the underlying implication is that he just isn't good enough... he could be, if only he would x y z. Ugh.

How do you support him in the face of their fundemental rejection of reality?
post #382 of 582
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I noticed a significant change in my focus right away. I feel slowed down, actually, which I still can't help finding somewhat humorous just because so many people I used to party with back in the day PAID for the stuff so they could get sped up and high. I find myself wondering if the way I feel/focus/etc while on Adderall is how "normals" feel?
Yes, I think so LOL

this is how I was convinced by a friend who is also a special ed teacher to try it initially - if that's what is needed it will work. immediately. if it isn't, it won't.

in fact, as you noted, it will produce the opposite effect since it *is* a stimulant
post #383 of 582
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that likes to make him feel ashamed

I am so pissed that mental illnesses are so inconvenient to people like we are just "lazy." or "uncaring" or"worthless"
Yes, exactly this. Although I do have trouble calling myself mentally ill, at least where my ADD is concerned. The depression, and anxiety, I have to be truthful with my self about, and call a spade a spade.

I have had trouble, especially with people I have to be responsible too, labeling me as lazy, or careless. I got careless written on my report card 5 or 6 times every single marking period. It kind of gets seared into your brain after a while, and you stop trying..

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Dh's family has some of this, too. He has lived under the burden of this passive guilt-trip stuff for 34 years. He has major inadequacy issues as a result of having been cultivated as the "black sheep" who has "so much potential" which I hate hearing because the underlying implication is that he just isn't good enough... he could be, if only he would x y z. Ugh.

How do you support him in the face of their fundemental rejection of reality?
Yup yup yup. . . My worst enemy is my own potential. It hangs over me like a black cloud and I know I'll never fulfill it. Not in this society anyway.


Here's an interesting quote,

"In my opinion, the ADD brain structure is not truly an abnormality. In fact I beleive a very good case can be made that it is not only normal, though in the minority, but may well be a superior brain structure. However, the talents of the person with ADD brain structure are not those rewarded by our society in it's current stage of development. In other words, the problems of the person with ADD are caused as much by the way we have our society, educational system, and the business methods organised as by other factors more directly related to the ADD itself."

Paul Elliot, M.D. (italics mine)

I know sometimes people have said to me, 'how do you remember all that stuff?'. I don't know, but I remember whatever it is at the expense of remembering where my car keys are, or compulsively buying things like butter, flour, paper towels, etc. . .

AAM- I had a very nice weekend, DH has been home, and we baked cookies on friday at my gram's house.
post #384 of 582
I'm a little stupefied.

Walked out of the house this morning to a Franklin Covey box on my doorstep. Had my name on it, paid in full, FULL of organizing supplies.

No card, no return address, nothin'.



I think it's from an aunt or something for my birthday (later this month), but I'm not sure. I'll have to ask around.

But now I have over $175 worth of planner and organizing material! :
post #385 of 582
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no shaft of light, no angels singing?



Boy am I jealous. To bad a secretary didn't accompany it, huh?
post #386 of 582
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no shaft of light, no angels singing?



Boy am I jealous. To bad a secretary didn't accompany it, huh?
I know! No burning bush!

Yup. A PA would be nice. Maybe HE could hold the baby while I go pee, because heaven knows DH doesn't see the point.

post #387 of 582
hey ya'll. I have my first therepy session tomorrow (officially for bi-polar and depression) but I am so excited to set some goals to help me function better.

What do you all wish you could get some tools to improve on?

Who has been dealing with ADHD for a long time and been through professional medical stuff to deal? What's the objective?

I belive there is a chance of me either having adhd and depression, OR bi-polar disorder. I just really really connect with all of ya'll and many many issues here.

As I am observing myself more for adhd like symptoms I am finding so many things from my childhood popping into my mind and thinking "It's so obvious! And it
s ALWAYS been there!"

Wish me luck.
post #388 of 582
mamas - can I ask here... do any of you who have your children on ritilan find they are waking up ridiculously early to eat? I think it has to do with the fact that the meds suppress his appetite but today he fell & broke part of the pantry at 5 am climbing up to get something off the top shelf. he could have been seriously hurt - plus he woke the whole house up...
post #389 of 582
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I know! No burning bush!

Yup. A PA would be nice. Maybe HE could hold the baby while I go pee, because heaven knows DH doesn't see the point.

'no burning bush!' :

As for your DH- maybe if you wet yourself, he'd take you seriously?

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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
hey ya'll. I have my first therepy session tomorrow (officially for bi-polar and depression) but I am so excited to set some goals to help me function better.

What do you all wish you could get some tools to improve on?

Who has been dealing with ADHD for a long time and been through professional medical stuff to deal? What's the objective?

I belive there is a chance of me either having adhd and depression, OR bi-polar disorder. I just really really connect with all of ya'll and many many issues here.

As I am observing myself more for adhd like symptoms I am finding so many things from my childhood popping into my mind and thinking "It's so obvious! And it
s ALWAYS been there!"

Wish me luck.
The objective is to control your symptoms, and work with you to develop strategies for functioning in everyday stuff.
Here's prayers for your journey of discovery. :

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Originally Posted by flminivanmama View Post
mamas - can I ask here... do any of you who have your children on ritilan find they are waking up ridiculously early to eat? I think it has to do with the fact that the meds suppress his appetite but today he fell & broke part of the pantry at 5 am climbing up to get something off the top shelf. he could have been seriously hurt - plus he woke the whole house up...
One of the PP on this thread mentioned something about ADD and chronic low blood sugar, maybe that has something to do with it? I know I would wake up starving in the middle of the night as a teenager, and sometimes it would happen in my sleep. I'd know because in the morning I'd find glasses of chocolate milk hidden in my closet. I wasn't on any meds at the time.
post #390 of 582
Re: the low blood sugar piece... I have a nasty case of hypoglycemia and have observed that my friends and family with ADHD also have issues with blood sugar. Sometime I wonder if our brains burn through complex sugars/protein faster...

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Originally Posted by transformed View Post
hey ya'll. I have my first therepy session tomorrow (officially for bi-polar and depression) but I am so excited to set some goals to help me function better.

What do you all wish you could get some tools to improve on?

Who has been dealing with ADHD for a long time and been through professional medical stuff to deal? What's the objective?

I belive there is a chance of me either having adhd and depression, OR bi-polar disorder. I just really really connect with all of ya'll and many many issues here.

As I am observing myself more for adhd like symptoms I am finding so many things from my childhood popping into my mind and thinking "It's so obvious! And it
s ALWAYS been there!"

Wish me luck.
My objectives throughout my life in therapy and self-directed behavior modification have always been the same: to own myself, be accountable, and manage my behavior and feelings in a way that will help my relationships and activities prosper. I HATE feeling out of control, and I feel that way often... I counter it by affirming to myself that I am lovable, kind, talented, intelligent, and capable. Then, if that fails to get over the hump of self-effacement, I reach out for support.
post #391 of 582
well, so much for the caffeine pill idea...it would apear that I'm pregnant.
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well, so much for the caffeine pill idea...it would apear that I'm pregnant.
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post #393 of 582
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well, so much for the caffeine pill idea...it would apear that I'm pregnant.

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post #394 of 582
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well, so much for the caffeine pill idea...it would apear that I'm pregnant.


Congratulations!!!!!! How far are you?







I'm hypoglycemic as well. Both parents have full-on diabetes, though, so not surprised.
post #395 of 582
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well, so much for the caffeine pill idea...it would apear that I'm pregnant.
Congratulations! :
post #396 of 582
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Found out what the Franklin Covey stuff was. Got an e-mail today from a friend.

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Sara - did you receive the package for (husband), yet? I saw on their webpage that it should have shipped 11/20. It should have been from Franklin Covey.


Thanks!!! :-D
So I just spent $60 buying a new one calendar pages set (because I'd started using it, assuming it was from my anal-retentive aunt who's always sending me that type of stuff) and getting it overnighted.





My friend got a good laugh out of it, though. "Maybe I should have asked you about it earlier or told you where the package was from, huh?"

post #397 of 582
Sara - so it was for your dh? are you going to use it now that you bought all these new pages?

congrats mamabohl!
post #398 of 582
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Sara - so it was for your dh? are you going to use it now that you bought all these new pages?

congrats mamabohl!
No, it was for HER DH. I had to buy a new set of pages (because I'd written on them) and thankfully I hadn't used the briefcase or binder, really.
post #399 of 582
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totally would have done the same thing.
post #400 of 582
OMG yeah I would totally do that
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