Originally Posted by transformed
that likes to make him feel ashamed
I am so pissed that mental illnesses are so inconvenient to people like we are just "lazy." or "uncaring" or"worthless"
Yes, exactly this. Although I do have trouble calling myself mentally ill, at least where my ADD is concerned. The depression, and anxiety, I have to be truthful with my self about, and call a spade a spade.
I have had trouble, especially with people I have to be responsible too, labeling me as lazy, or careless. I got careless written on my report card 5 or 6 times every single marking period. It kind of gets seared into your brain after a while, and you stop trying..
Originally Posted by PrennaMama
Dh's family has some of this, too. He has lived under the burden of this passive guilt-trip stuff for 34 years. He has major inadequacy issues as a result of having been cultivated as the "black sheep" who has "so much potential" which I hate hearing because the underlying implication is that he just isn't good enough... he could be, if only he would x y z. Ugh.
How do you support him in the face of their fundemental rejection of reality?
Yup yup yup. . . My worst enemy is my own potential. It hangs over me like a black cloud and I know I'll never fulfill it. Not in this society anyway.
Here's an interesting quote,
"In my opinion, the ADD brain structure is not truly an abnormality. In fact I beleive a very good case can be made that it is not only normal, though in the minority, but may well be a superior
brain structure. However, the talents of the person with ADD brain structure are not those rewarded by our society in it's current stage of development. In other words, the problems of the person with ADD are caused as much by the way we have our society, educational system, and the business methods organised as by other factors more directly related to the ADD itself."
Paul Elliot, M.D. (italics mine)
I know sometimes people have said to me, 'how do you remember all that stuff?'. I don't know, but I remember whatever it is at the expense of remembering where my car keys are, or compulsively buying things like butter, flour, paper towels, etc. . .
AAM- I had a very nice weekend, DH has been home, and we baked cookies on friday at my gram's house.