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post #461 of 582

Don't even know where to begin

Just wanted to say ~Sooooo glad I found you!
post #462 of 582
Yay. Tomorrow I see the NP. She's either going to want to up my Ritalin again or pressure me to wean so we can try me on a different medication. I'm not sure I want to keep w/the Ritalin but I do want to try a different med w/o weaning.

Poo.

However I did go on a massive cleaning binge yesterday so the house is looking sparkly.

Next is being focused enough to actually get my driver's license. How sad is that? I'm 25 and I still don't have it.

I just wish DH would get up so I could shower in peace w/o a 2 and a half foot tall person banging on the door.
post #463 of 582
Well, I will reply to you later, sounds like a not-fun situation.

Soo, here's my list for tomorrow. I gotta get the living room walkable(meaning walk acrossable)

My List:
Call and find out about Gma's B-day
Call about getting coat exchanged
Call C
Laundry
Unload/load dishwasher
Clear kitchen table
Sort/fold clothes in bedroom

I don't want to get overwhelmed, I tend to get carried away making lists.

I'll cheer on anyone who make a list for tomorrow!
post #464 of 582
To Do:

Unload and reload the dishwasher
Do Laundry
Make Bed

I think that's it but there could be more.

Its too early for me to be thinking. LOL
post #465 of 582
ug, i have a lot to get done today and not enough time! My list

laundry, i must do SOME laundry!
dishes, didn't do any yesterday so now i at least want to get a load going before i leave
leave at 10 for homeschool co-op (yeah right, I'm never on time)
get dressed, eat breakfast
figure out what to make for dinner
put away Christmas lights
return overdue library books (d'oh!)
write the grocery list so i can send dh to the store with it (we discovered that he doesn't buy all the impulse buys like i do...oops!)

I think I'll stick with that, even though there's a desperate need for picking up around here, those are more important...
post #466 of 582
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Originally Posted by KurumiSophia View Post
DH tries as best he can. (We think he has a processing disorder of some kind but don't have the wherewithal to find out what sort(s))



Nothing else really I do w/my diet. Its a good day if I remember to eat more than 1x/day.



Not terribly much. I'm at home pretty much all the time. If I'm not procrastinating on housework, I'm doing housework, taking care of my kiddo, or sleeping. I cross stitch but I'm not sure that counts.

It's hard if you don't have a lot of support, but you can do it mama!

A big thing that helped me when I didn't have a lot of help was stashing half the kids toys so it can't get so messy, making meals double so I can save half in the freezer for another time, and just in general trying not to get to worked up about the house. If I get too upset I totally can't clean and get anything done.

Eating and exercising are big things too. Maybe if you can have more snack type stuff around so you do't forget to eat. How old are you lo's? I know it can be tough to remember to eat, but you have to so you can function.

I try to keep some protein type stuff around so if I forget to eat, I can quick pop something in the microwave or whip up a sandwhich real quick. Another thing that has helped a lot is to make sure I am getting really good fat in my diet. Avocados, olive oil, coconut oil. I also take CLO daily.

As for an easy supplement(I am horrible at remembering to take them) I keep emergen-c packets in the house. Somehow I manage to remember those once a day.

I also have my BIG notebook I keep my lists in. It's a 5 subject one, so I can keep various lists going at once, but it really helps if I write stuff down. I may not even check back at the notebook, but writing it down seems to help a lot.

And I think the biggest thing that is helping me is to manage my expectations. I apparently think I can get the work down of 10 people in one day so I make a big to do list, and then at the end of the day I end up really disappointed in what I got done because it's maybe one or two items on the list. I had to get real about how long it takes to get a project done. That's helps a lot.

I also have come to the realization that this is how I work. How my brain works. I know there are many things I can do that other people can't and that's great, but I had to stop feeling bad because there are other things people do really well that I am terrible at.

We all have different brains for different reasons and there is nothing wrong with that. I don't necessarily want to fix my brain anymore, I just want to figure out how to manage and navigate this kind of time demand culture where you are practically required to have a blackberry to keep your life organized we got so much going on.
post #467 of 582

To Do

  • pick up office
  • finish laundry
  • purge kitchen
  • work on biz stuff for an hour
  • bone broth, finish putting turkey away
post #468 of 582
WEll, I haven't gotten started. I need to plan to throw a load of laundry in before I turn my computer on. and I should put breakfast on my list.

You go mamas! We can get two thing done on our lists today!
post #469 of 582
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Originally Posted by mamabohl View Post
ug, i have a lot to get done today and not enough time! My list

laundry, i must do SOME laundry!
dishes, didn't do any yesterday so now i at least want to get a load going before i leave
leave at 10 for homeschool co-op (yeah right, I'm never on time)
get dressed, eat breakfast
figure out what to make for dinner
put away Christmas lights
return overdue library books (d'oh!)
write the grocery list so i can send dh to the store with it (we discovered that he doesn't buy all the impulse buys like i do...oops!)

I think I'll stick with that, even though there's a desperate need for picking up around here, those are more important...



Ok, i got out of the house on time, which was good...but i didn't drop off the library books or do anything else on my list. (except getting dressed and eating breakfast) We only just got home, we have to leave in an hour to pick up dh, and I still have to do lunch for all of us, plan dinner, do dishes, do laundry and write the grocery list...yeah right, lol. Oh wait, i know what to make for dinner but i'm not sure if i have everything for it....
post #470 of 582
I'm moving back to Florida. In 2 days. My dh's income here in CO is going to leave us homeless so we are going home!

Its alot to process. Thank GOD for Depakote.
post #471 of 582
oh and I am on that "last 2 days" part where everything left is random. amd its driving me nuts but luckily i get to leave it behind for dh to deal with. He will be coming when we get our tax return.
post #472 of 582
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Originally Posted by KurumiSophia View Post
Yay. Tomorrow I see the NP. She's either going to want to up my Ritalin again or pressure me to wean so we can try me on a different medication. I'm not sure I want to keep w/the Ritalin but I do want to try a different med w/o weaning.

Poo.

However I did go on a massive cleaning binge yesterday so the house is looking sparkly.

Next is being focused enough to actually get my driver's license. How sad is that? I'm 25 and I still don't have it.

I just wish DH would get up so I could shower in peace w/o a 2 and a half foot tall person banging on the door.
It's not sad that you don't have your license. It's more common than you think. Plenty of people go years without one. Don't beat yourself up about it.

Your previous posts make it sound as thought you're in a parent-child relationship with your husband and MIL, you as the child. They're sitting down with you and telling you what you're doing wrong, and what you should do instead. I feel this way with my husband sometimes, too, because, well, I'm not on top of things. But it's really bad for the relationship, and it's bad for your ego. You start seeing yourself as deserving to be at the bottom of the pecking order, seeing yourself as childish and incompetent, needing to be told what to do.

Nursing: you need to do a cost-benefit analysis. Nursing has been very satisfying and useful. Could taking a medication (find a better one, for one thing) provide you with the state of mind so that you could find ways to help your daughter that doesn't require nursing? Would going to school provide you with a mental burst of energy, a boost to your ego? I'm not telling you that what YOU should do is wean your child and take medicine. But I'm speaking from my bias. That's exactly what I chose to do when ds was 17 months old: quit nursing so I could go on medication. The medication provided unanticipated solutions.

Yes, we all have responsibilities around the house (including husbands and work-at-home MILs) but don't get stuck thinking the only thing you deserve to do is keep the house clean.
post #473 of 582
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Originally Posted by Maggirayne View Post
Soo, here's my list for tomorrow9hsoulda siad this week! ). I gotta get the living room walkable(meaning walk acrossable)

My List:
Call and find out about Gma's B-day
Call about getting coat exchanged
Call C
Done!
Laundry Two loads done, well, 2nd is in washer
Unload/load dishwasher
Clear kitchen table
Sort/fold clothes in bedroom
Soo, I have gotten more than I thought done, but not as much as I planned for Monday, hehe. But then I am 2nd trimester pg and trying to figure out what to do about DD's teeth (she has ECC DH is saying nightwean). and reading on nightweaning, I am so tired and get crabby when she wakes me more than once. And I want to research about safe mattresses. I wish we could get an organic twin, but $700? I don't think I can get that past DH. I wish. But I want DD moved to a twin bed right beside us before baby comes. I think that would help her sleep longer too. Yeah, wanna knows what's weird? She slept longer, woke less while we were traveling. Well, she did nap less, but in new places (floor, hotel, different house every couple of nights), she did great sleeping.

Oh, and I have napped some, er rested the last two days. I get so crabby when I'm tired. I did make a really yummy salad for myself.
post #474 of 582
Thread Starter 
How's everybody?

Roll Call!! (not really)

Well, taking care of another tiny one in additions to my 2 ds's is actually going better than I thought it would. But maybe I should reassess in another week!

It's forcing me to be more organized, at home anyway. But the proverbial excrement is going to hit the fan when my Pastor/mentor finds out!
post #475 of 582
So Monday I managed to get almost nothing done 'cause I landed in the ER due to a freakishly heavy post partum period. (No, they still don't know why I'm soaking a tampon an hour but can't find anything wrong w/me so I got sent home) As a result, the NP appointment is moved to waaay too early on a Fri. morning so between now and than I'm out of medication. Joy.


Today is a bit better day. I've tackled more laundry and helped hubby w/the job hunt.

Journeymom, I tend to be more submissive towards my husband having been my mother's caretaker for many many years. It's a result of being in charge when I shouldn't have been, so now I relinquish a lot of control to him. Even before I met my husband, I've always viewed myself at the bottom of the pecking order. The needs of others have ALWAYS come before my own.
post #476 of 582
Thread Starter 
KurumiSophia
post #477 of 582
here! I drove across 3 states today. colorado, new mexico, and texas. And then we had to go back to NM to get a camp site. Now that I know about adhd and add and bipolar, I think everyone has it. My parents ESPECIALLY. Its really hard to travel with them.

Embrace the maddness. : Dont deny it.

So yeah. I am in New Mexico. Which Rocks. I have always wanted to see Texas.

post #478 of 582
Can i join in? I'm not sure if i have ADD or bipolar, but I am having a hard hard time right now with my mom (I live with her) and being able to get things done.I get these short bursts of energy and run around like a madwoman cleaning up and then sit slumped in front of the computer like a slug. I never manage to clean the whole house and she is perpetually angry. Ugh.....anyway, I stumbled on this thread and after reading through it I feel a little better that I'm not the only one who can't keep it together. I have a precription for abilify and I don't mind taking it; I just keep forgetting to start taking the pills every day. Yes, i suck. I am reminded on a regualr basis...
post #479 of 582
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Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy View Post
Can i join in? I'm not sure if i have ADD or bipolar, but I am having a hard hard time right now with my mom (I live with her) and being able to get things done.I get these short bursts of energy and run around like a madwoman cleaning up and then sit slumped in front of the computer like a slug. I never manage to clean the whole house and she is perpetually angry. Ugh.....anyway, I stumbled on this thread and after reading through it I feel a little better that I'm not the only one who can't keep it together. I have a precription for abilify and I don't mind taking it; I just keep forgetting to start taking the pills every day. Yes, i suck. I am reminded on a regualr basis...

You don't suck and no one should be telling you that. I do the same thing with short bursts of cleaning (during which i get a lot done in a short time), but mostly just sitting doing who knows what. It is really frustrating. Taking pills every day is SO hard to remember for me too! I've actually been doing really well with my prenatals lately...but my 6yo has been reminding me a lot, lol.
post #480 of 582
Well, I managed to get all the Christmas stuff put away in the last two days, and i picked up the downstairs area finally. It was really aweful, lol. Upstairs is still a disaster area....but oh well. I did a couple loads of laundry on tuesday, but the left them sitting in the washer and dryer all day yesterday. oops. Today i need to

plan dinner
finish the dishes
do more laundry
do a litle math with ds
maybe get some picking up done in the toy room?
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