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post #501 of 582

Organizing my brain

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Originally Posted by heidirk View Post
So far so good, then. I hope you have the book you need.
Here, this is for all of us. Someone told me to check out www.motivatedmoms.com
it's pretty cool.
I've used the Motivated Moms system before... like all things though, my issue is long term follow-through. I am considering a GIANT organizing area for my kitchen. Like a tack strip for school papers, an extra large calendar, and a bulletin board for menus, Motivated Mom's list, 2 kids chore charts & a shopping list. What is stopping me is that it'll look like I-don't know-what.. I like the kitchen to be visually clutter free (ha, I said I like it, not that it's *always* that way!) so it pains me to put up a bunch of visual clutter. The idea is that if it is right there, ugly and all, that I will see it and remember to do it everyday. Think it'll work?

Here's a tip for Motivated Moms: You can print the FREE 2002 calendar, use the daily chore list which isn't dated and just shift a few dates around to follow the weekly chores.

I've tried FlyLady before and was overwhelmed by the sheer mass of emails and the zones, besides her emphasis on shoes, which is just wierd imo. I mean, I live in FL and if you can't go barefoot in FL, what's the point?

Right now, we let it get messier and messier until either A) we can't stand it anymore and everyone is out of laundry or B) we have a party or play date to clean up for. Not a good system.

Anyway, these are my only ideas for taming my chore list and tackling the clutter, dust, laundry and toys. I really really want to be able to invite a neighbor in for coffee or for when a friend calls and is "in the neighborhood" not to disolve into total panic. I know they will still love me if they are my real friends, but I want that stress to be gone!
post #502 of 582
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Froggie- that's my defualt system, too, apparently! Maybe I should check out Flylady- I do love shoes.
post #503 of 582
Sheesh, I WISH it could find itself. Talk about technology!
post #504 of 582
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I mean, we have cars that can parallel park themselves, why don't we have self-finding Keys?
post #505 of 582
Hehe, if you need help cleaning house, all you just need is a older neighbor to come fold your laundry. My loveseat was full. We live in the same apt building and visit, and I've gotten kinda like, well,this is my house, this is the way it is. She helped and the loveseat is empty, but it was interesting. I've got a friend who's great, and I don't care if she comes, but she doesn't tell me to put the stuff away. But the living room looks better. Ya take whatcha get sometimes.

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Originally Posted by Mom2Ian View Post
I was diagnosed with ADHD in my early 20's and had a lot of problems in high school and college. I tested out at "gifted" so everyone seemed to think that I wasn't trying hard enough, and after a while I did stop "trying" and was content to just get through and not do my best in high school. My "academic" self-esteem really took a beating. College was a little better (but not much) and now that I am in grad school I'm doing okay but still really fight some maladaptive behaviors (really bad with procrastinating, have a lot of confidence issues related to school). I will be so happy when I graduate

And I could have written the following post right down to the clinical social worker part...how interesting! I will be PMing you LOL I didn't know I had a long-lost twin

I have trouble maintaining female relationships too and often choose to not have people over to my house because of "the laundry on the couch" I do have some really good friends, but anyone who stays in my life for any length of time is the type of person who does not take it personally when I don't call them on their b-day or talk to them for a couple of months. Between being an attentive Mom, school and internship (plus doing the obligatory laundry and dishes daily to keep SOME of the chaos in my house away) I often feel like I don't have any energy left for a social life anyway LOL
laundry on the couch, yesterday when my DH came home, he was like, "Oh my, I'd forgotten what the loveseat looked like!" He was teasing. And it was funny to me.
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Now, can it FIND itself when you lose it? That would make it REALLY useful!

It was a happy/sad time for us, too. But I had already nursed for 18 mos, and I figured, hey, way to go, me! It was nice to have uninterrupted sleep for 6 mos before the baby came!

Change my options to 100 per page, huh. . . don't know if I can handle that, my attention wanders after five posts or so.
Yeah, I'm hoping to have a few months of sleep. Heh, just in time to get used to it. Oh well. But I slept while DD nursed more when she was little, I think. but then she used to nurse for 3-5 minutes on one side and be done. The hard part having enough light to see to change diapers without waking her up.

Yeah, I keep some long ones open for a couple of days. Read a bit, go to something else, come back, etc. Gotta love the tabs in Firefox.
post #506 of 582
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Just after Milo was born, a friend of mine came over for the day, and helped me fold the clean laundry that had built up. But she drew the line at foldng my hubby's underpants! (and who can blame her?)


I MUST go to Office Max and get a new calendar for my organiser book. Twice this week, I double scheduled myself for something. It actually all worked out. But boy did I feel silly.
post #507 of 582
Heh, I wish she'd drawn the line at underwear. I grabbed DH's but she'd hold mine up and ask, "Are these yours?" They sure aren't my 20 mo's! It was funny but embarrassing. and I'd moved some to a different pile of laundry and folded them, and she grabbed those and refolded them
post #508 of 582
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post #509 of 582
Yeah, I was like, why on earth is she asking?

And she matched our socks, I had a box for each of mine and DH's. And she kept saying, "There isn't a match for all of these" worriedly. And I would say, "There's some more in the laundry or the bedroom."

Except it was like she didn't hear me, so I wish I'd counted how many times I did say it, andI was getting frustrated so I quit. Heheh. But it was pretty easy to get my living room cleaned up for my midwife appt. today. We heard the heartbeat! :
post #510 of 582
Yeah, I was like, why on earth is she asking?

And she matched our socks, I had a box for each of mine and DH's. And she kept saying, "There isn't a match for all of these" worriedly. And I would say, "There's some more in the laundry or the bedroom."

Except it was like she didn't hear me, so I wish I'd counted how many times I did say it, andI was getting frustrated so I quit. Heheh. But it was pretty easy to get my living room cleaned up for my midwife appt. today. We heard the heartbeat! :
post #511 of 582
So I'm on my 2nd week of Adderall. It's starting to make a difference, I think. I've got my whole week planned out for homework doing bits each night so I don't procrastinate and overwhelm myself.

This week's schedule looks like this:

Mon.
Algebra: Notes on R.2 and R.3
English: Read Chapter One. Done
English: Take Plagiarism Quiz Done

Tues.
Algebra: Notes on R.4 and R.5
English: Read Chapter 2
English: Writer's FAQS, Sections 11, 13-16. Pg 269 and 279
History: Initial DB Response

Wed.
English: Powerpoint Presentation
English: Mod 2 Blog
History: Read and take notes on Chapter 2, Breaching the Atlantic
History: Respond to at least 1 other classmate's DB post

Thurs. English Mod 2 is due
Algebra: Take notes on 1.1 and 1.2
History: Read and take notes on Chapter 2, Spanish Conquest of America

Fri.
Algebra: Notes on 1.3 and 1.4
History: Read and take notes on Chapter 2, England looks West
English: Read Chapter 3
English: Mod 3 Blog

Sat.
Algebra: MML Homework, 1.1-1.4
History: Read and takes notes on Chapter 2, African Bondage and Conclusion.
English: Review SW introduction to the Narrative
English: View Powerpoint Presentation
English: Start on Narrative Paper

Sunday. Math, Week 2 and History Week 2 are due.
History: Chapter 2 quiz.
English: Continue on Narrative Paper


I'm adding this to my daily to-do list of chores as well so I can get stuff done and not be overwhelmed.

My daily list is starting to look something like this:

Take Medicine (way important)
Laundry
Unload/reload dishwasher
pick up room
make bed
vacuum (every other day)
mop(every other day)
carpet clean (once a week)

Sorry this is so long, I didn't realize that it would turn out that way.
post #512 of 582
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Kurumi- you're so funny. we understand, post away! That looks a lot like what I had to do to get my online classwork completed on time. I always worked ahead, too, which we weren't supposed to do. I start a class on Feb 23rd!!!!!!



Maggirayne : Yay!!!! It's so exciting! I almost wish we could do it again soon, too! I must be crazy!



on a side note- I just misspelled 'almost' and it came out 'amlost' Now there's a Freudian slip.
post #513 of 582
Yeah, I got baby bug, oh, after she was a year, I think. Maybe not.

Yay, Kurumi! Is it working for you?

I need to do some chores daily. Poor DH. He asked if we could move out and leave everything. I could do some serious decluttering.
post #514 of 582
Yeah, I got baby bug, oh, after she was a year, I think. Maybe not.

Yay, Kurumi! Is it working for you?

I need to do some chores daily. Poor DH. He asked if we could move out and leave everything. I could do some serious decluttering.
post #515 of 582
Okay, MDC and Firefox must not like each other. It does this to me and it won't let me edit either. Sigh.
post #516 of 582
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OK, I have GOT to stop inviting people to my house, and not writing it down! I mean, this is embarrassing! :


Oy, I am just so braindead tonight!
post #517 of 582
Can I join you ladies? I'm casually diagnosed (read: a psych saying, "Well you certainly describe enough symptoms that you'd qualify for an ADD diagnosis," but nothing beyond that ), unmedicated. Probably moderate-ish.

I'm trying out Motivated Moms. Also tried Flylady but was massively overwhelmed.

I'm Sara, by the way.
post #518 of 582
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Originally Posted by heidirk View Post
OK, I have GOT to stop inviting people to my house, and not writing it down! I mean, this is embarrassing! :


Oy, I am just so braindead tonight!
I feel the same! I had an appointment w/my home visitor today and spaced it, instead going shopping for workout clothes and getting ready to go to the Y.

:

At least she understood.

Welcome Blizzard_Babe. Grab some coffee and pull up a chair.
post #519 of 582
Hi, I'm new to this discussion. I've got ADHD, primarily attention deficit, and I'm currently unmedicated. I'd always thought that I had attention problems, but convinced myself that ADHD was a made-up diagnosis. After all, if I could get a master's degree and halfway through a Ph.D. program without a diagnosis or meds, there's nothing wrong. This past semester made me realize that something was terribly wrong. Having a baby and procrastinating with schoolwork does not work. My husband would give me 2 hours each morning to work on schoolwork. He'd take the baby and I'd go shut myself in the office to work. I found it impossible to work. I just couldn't concentrate and I'd end up doing maybe 10 minutes of work in 2 hours. I went to my doctor and was prescribed Strattera which worked like a charm. I don't think I would have made it through the semester without it. I went off of it after the semester ended, though, because it made me incredibly grouchy and short tempered. I'm hoping this semester I won't need any medication (it will be a much less demanding semester than last semester).
post #520 of 582
Hi Shannon and Blizzard_Babe! Welcome to the group!
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