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post #521 of 582
Had to do the whirlwind clean this morning because our regular babysitter (whose house we take DS to) is sick, so we had to use our back-up (who comes to our house).

BUT... I did my Motivated Moms chores yesterday. The kitchen floor, she be mopped. Not sure how long it's been since that happened. I'm such a perfectionist in some ways... I have a hard time doing just PART of a task like cleaning the house. I'm hoping I can stick to the MM calendar. I have a bit of a history of starting these things, getting overwhelmed by a minor setback, and then quitting because the mountain looks too high, so to speak. I have a feeling some of you ladies know what I'm talking about.
post #522 of 582

Wow do I!

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Originally Posted by blizzard_babe View Post
......... I have a bit of a history of starting these things, getting overwhelmed by a minor setback, and then quitting because the mountain looks too high, so to speak. I have a feeling some of you ladies know what I'm talking about.
OMG Blizzard - I sooo know what you mean! The mountain always looks so high and then I don't know why I procrastinate like I do. If I can remember to break something down into mini-tasks and put them on my to-do list, I have a better time acomplishing the whole thing.

I've been considering medication lately since I have a hard time remembering to do things like pay bills on time and we will be adding a second business to our primary Work At Home business. It's not good when you are the book keeper and you forget to keep the books.
post #523 of 582
I've been debating looking into medication... but I hate to even start down that path. I just feel like I COULD do so much better. I'm "not working to my full potential," in teacher lingo. I look at a large group of objects (all the stuff on my desk, for example), and can't visually pick out the one object I need. I look at my house, see that it's messy, but can't start just one aspect of cleaning. I start to clean the table off, but then put something away in the bathroom and notice that the bathroom is disorganized, so I start doing that... go to put something away in the bedroom and notice that the top of the dresser is cluttered... and it goes on and on. It's hard to explain how those two issues are related, but they are. It's a serious case of can't see the forest for the trees.

But I don't want to spend a lifetime on medication. In some ways, my "big picture" thinking suits me well. I'm a great "Idea Woman." I'm not sure if medication would suppress that, you know?

Maybe it's not either-or. I don't know.
post #524 of 582
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Had to do the whirlwind clean this morning because our regular babysitter (whose house we take DS to) is sick, so we had to use our back-up (who comes to our house).

BUT... I did my Motivated Moms chores yesterday. The kitchen floor, she be mopped. Not sure how long it's been since that happened. I'm such a perfectionist in some ways... I have a hard time doing just PART of a task like cleaning the house. I'm hoping I can stick to the MM calendar. I have a bit of a history of starting these things, getting overwhelmed by a minor setback, and then quitting because the mountain looks too high, so to speak. I have a feeling some of you ladies know what I'm talking about.
Yarr! Avast! You've much to be proud of there, Lassie. Now go swab the deck!

Sorry, I'm a little punchy today. My plate is so full I'm gagging. I will be so ready for bed tonight.
post #525 of 582
Yarr! Be it pirate day?

Every year on "talk like a pirate day," I read the book "How I Became a Pirate" to my class, and we work on map skills and go on a treasure hunt around school.
post #526 of 582
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Originally Posted by blizzard_babe View Post
I look at a large group of objects (all the stuff on my desk, for example), and can't visually pick out the one object I need. I look at my house, see that it's messy, but can't start just one aspect of cleaning. I start to clean the table off, but then put something away in the bathroom and notice that the bathroom is disorganized, so I start doing that... go to put something away in the bedroom and notice that the top of the dresser is cluttered... and it goes on and on. It's hard to explain how those two issues are related, but they are. It's a serious case of can't see the forest for the trees.

But I don't want to spend a lifetime on medication. In some ways, my "big picture" thinking suits me well. I'm a great "Idea Woman." I'm not sure if medication would suppress that, you know?
ITU!!!! I don't do much house stuff because I have such a hard time even figuring out where to start. Folding laundry doesn't get me very far because I can't get to the dressers for the piles in our bedroom. Which are seasonal clothes, which I packed up last spring/summer in the tub and left in front of the dresser. :doh I have too many clothes. I just got Let Go of Clutter. I think it will be good. I have a hard time getting rid of stuff with sentimental attachment or that my mom is attached to and gives to me (to keep). I need a panicking smilie. Oh yeah,

It's really had because there are books that she's collected for me like John Holt books, that I don't need yet, but I don't have a really good place to store them. We spend out visits sorting stuff from her. I'm getting really tired of it.

Anyway, I will collect a handful of things from the table for the bathroom and pile them on the counter, I don't even turn the light on so I don't get distracted in there. Right now my beading stuff is on at least half the table. and DH's pile of papers, well, what didn't fall in the floor. Grrr.

I realized, I'm not the only one who lives here. He can't blame all this on me. Of course, neither one of have an organized system. And with morning sickness, I've been thrilled he's doing the dishes.

But I totally get not wanting to have to live my whole life on medication. I always feel behind. Hehe, FlyLady's hotspots, eh, that's my whole house, it feels like.

I did like Julie Morgenstern's Organiziation from the Inside out and Time Management. I made a snazzy schedule/spreadsheet of all the things I needed to clean and had time to focus on each hotspot once a week or something like that. And never used it. But it would be similar to our apt here, just adding some things.

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Yarr! Be it pirate day?

Every year on "talk like a pirate day," I read the book "How I Became a Pirate" to my class, and we work on map skills and go on a treasure hunt around school.
Cool! I love Talk like a Pirate Day!
post #527 of 582
I just had to vent here because yet again my life is falling apart....it seems to cycle between everything being great and being a totally stressful disaster. Dh and I found an apartment, but we're behind on our car payment and it's a rent-to-own thing where we pay weekly to build our credit, so as of tomorrow we'll be 2 weeks behind and they are probably going to come after us for the car, but we have no other way to get to work.

FIL won't loan us money for the car payment but will give us 1,000 to buy a beater...the problem is that I bought the car in VA and now we live in PA so I have no idea how I'd get back after dropping the car off. And I started a new job this week and today, the 4th day, ds got a double ear infection with 103 degree temp, so we're home not making money and everything is a mess and i JUST.CANT.THINK.

I'm sick of it. I want to take my medicine (i've been off it for like a week) so I can think again but i can't find it. And I'm too overwhelmed to do anything at all. I don't even want to get up. I'm just totally and completely overwhelmed.
post #528 of 582
Sorry you're having a rough time... your situation sounds tough. Big ol' hugs.
post #529 of 582
Oh man, I'm sorry. Praying for you and sending hugs.
post #530 of 582
thanks...this morning I found out that the list for child care subsidy is about 6 months....i'm starting to think we will never get out of my IL;s house. I HATE having all 3 of us in a 10 x 12 room. Ourstuff just doesn't fit. It's always a mess; I can't keep it together.
post #531 of 582
((HUGS)) it sounds like life is really hard for you right now. I'm so sorry.
post #532 of 582
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thanks...this morning I found out that the list for child care subsidy is about 6 months....i'm starting to think we will never get out of my IL;s house. I HATE having all 3 of us in a 10 x 12 room. Ourstuff just doesn't fit. It's always a mess; I can't keep it together.
I know you do not know me, but i understand what you are going through. i have adhd too, and when things get stressful the symptoms get worse.HUGS!

I was a single mom for a decade with 3 children, one of which has down syndrome, and i had no family support, or time for authentic friendship. I was in university for much of that time too, so i really really understand stress hun.

I want you to remember that this is only a season in your life, with your intention, you can and will change things. I know then you will find it easier to cope and maybe it will be easier not to misplace your meds. I did that once, it took me 6 months to find them. I did get a refill tho, could you get one?

Have you looked into maybe swapping childcare? Perhaps there are connections at a local church or something to that effect?

I am not on meds and my life is pretty messy too, but i am working it out.

peace
post #533 of 582
Hi...I don't know if I should be here or not yet as I haven't been diagnosed ADD. I never, EVER suspected that I had it until LAST NIGHT. I was reading something about adult ADD and it fit me to a T. I have been diagnosed with OCD in the past but I've wondered if that was accurate. Now that I am looking into ADD it seems like my OCD behaviors could fit in with that, too. I took an online ADD quiz (I know, online tests are in no way a diagnosis!) and it scored me as having a VERY HIGH possibility to having ADD.
My indicators:
I am VERY spacy. I am a horrible, horrible procrastinator. I am highly unorganized, highly stressed all the time. Very forgetful. I can forget something that someone is saying AS I am speaking to them. I tune things out. I have lots of problems with my short term memory.

There are lots of other things, too. I never knew that these things pointed to ADD, honestly.

Where do I go from here?
post #534 of 582
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Where do I go from here?
Take your time. Check out some books from the library.

You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy? is a classic and is friendly.

Driven to Distraction is also another 'must read'.

Disorders that have symptoms that overlap with adhd: bipolar II, Aspergers, dyspraxia/apraxia, ocd and more, I'm sure.

Check out http://www.psycheducation.org/

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Edited to say, specifically at the link above, see this: http://www.psycheducation.org/PCP/handouts/ADHD.htm for a good side-by-side comparison of adhd and bipolar II.
post #535 of 582
I was cut off and meant to post more yesterday.

SquishyBuggles (did I really just type that? ) don't rush to any conclusions. If you can, make an appointment with a psychologist who specializes in adhd, and ask to be tested. Be specific and ask how much experience they have with adult adhd. An adhd 'test' can be as simple as a short questionnaire like you'd find in a magazine, or it can be several pages long, or the doctor might question you face to face. Be open to different conclusions. Like I said, above, adhd can look like other conditions. And you can have more than one condition concurrently.

Have an open mind, and be patient. This is a life-long process. Be willing to try a few different therapists before you find one you are comfortable. You might take medication, you might not. There are different kinds of therapies and diets to consider, as well. My understanding is that while medication can go a long way towards helping a person focus, people who use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy along with medication have much better success and longer lasting success, than those who use medication alone.

Some supportive and informative web sites:

http://www.add.org/

http://www.livingwithadd.com/

And one more book, The Girls' Guide To AD/HD: Don't Lose This Book!

I got this one for my daughter, and for course read it myself. I thought it was very helpful for ME. It described a lot of my childhood and teen experiences with adhd, and it's soooooo nice to read about adhd from a girl's perspective. Adhd literature is still heavily weighted towards boys.
post #536 of 582
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post #537 of 582
Hey blizzard_babe!!

How's your LO? Can you believe they're so old already?

(we were DDC buddies)
post #538 of 582
I've been so-so on Motivated Moms lately. BUT, and this is the important part, when I missed a few days, I just folded that page down and started fresh this week. This is a big deal for me.

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Hey blizzard_babe!!

How's your LO? Can you believe they're so old already?

(we were DDC buddies)
HI HI HI! How the heck are ya?
post #539 of 582
Oh, you know.

Here, barely holding it together. As usual.

Life's good.
post #540 of 582
Thread Starter 
Hi everybody.

sorry I haven't been around. Taking care of a child(baby) in my home has entirely eaten up my world. But starting next week, I'll only have him three days a week, which will be a vast improvement.

I was getting so completely stressed, I was thinking about going back on meds again even though I sadi I wouldn't until I was done nursing, but when my sister looked up all the meds in her PDR, they're all Class C! I have always tried to change my life style when my world gets too stressful, instead of medicating, but I was ready to throw the baby out a window. That's bad, especially when it's not your baby.

So get this! I got the Motivated Mom's thing, and I CAN"T FIND IT! I mean I got the PDF download, and I can't find it! How did I lose a DOWNLOAD???????????

And I was so excited.

waiting2Bmommy, how are you doing?

Maggirayne, how's the babe?
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