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post #101 of 311
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Since I have to have my baby in the hospital, I figured I'd better buy a nightgown. I usually just sleep in a t-shirt. Should I buy this nursing night gown or this plus size gown that buttons down the front. I wonder if the nursing gown is designed for small chest mamas. It would stink if my big boobs wouldn't fit thru the holes. What do you guys think?
I have large breasts and haven't had a problem getting them to fit through the slits. They were pretty generous. If they aren't big enough you can cut them bigger and put some No Fray on the edges.
post #102 of 311
Megan, I wouldn't worry about that too much. A lot of plus size mamas don't gain weight and some even lose. A lot of us gain too (sadly me). It's all good as long as you are eating well and eating enough.
post #103 of 311
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Megan, I wouldn't worry about that too much. A lot of plus size mamas don't gain weight and some even lose. A lot of us gain too (sadly me). It's all good as long as you are eating well and eating enough.
I'm unfortunately not. I've been really apathetic about food, almost nothing sounds good to me.
post #104 of 311
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Originally Posted by DBZ View Post
Since I have to have my baby in the hospital, I figured I'd better buy a nightgown. I usually just sleep in a t-shirt. Should I buy this nursing night gown or this plus size gown that buttons down the front. I wonder if the nursing gown is designed for small chest mamas. It would stink if my big boobs wouldn't fit thru the holes. What do you guys think?
I wouldn't worry about the slits being big enough, but in my experience, the slits have been large enough that my boobs expose occaisionally I'll have a little nipple poking out. LOL So if you're planning on wearing it to ahng around post partum in the hospital and expect visitors, I'd get a comfy robe to wear over. Otherwise the button down nightshirt might be best.
post #105 of 311
Someone gave me two of the nursing night gowns shown there. And they are quite large enough for me to fit in comfortably, however, I found that the slits were so large that they hung open all the time. I actually sewed them closed so I could wear them around now without having to worry about flashing my children. Even when nursing, if I were going to have anyone around, I would not be comfortable wearing it alone without a cover up or something.
post #106 of 311
Hello Ladies,

My name is Delma I'm 28 and mother of one son who is 7 and stepmother to two children a boy 12 who lives with SO and I and a 16 girl who lives in MI. I am pregnant with my second and have concerns because of my weight and was hoping joining here would ease my concerns a bit.
post #107 of 311
Welcome Chula13! Good to have you! You live in Vegas? I just moved from there a year ago... Are you using a CNM, OB or lay midwife? I know of a great CNM, if you aren't sure!

DBZ, I don't have that nursing gown, but one pretty similar. The slits are pretty big, and I think there'd be more of a boob exposure than a can't fit situation.

Dropped by to check in at 40w+1d. At work still and everyone's dissappointed there's no baby.: Whatcha gonna do? It's terribly cold here (last I saw it was like 5 degrees F before whindchill) and Mr Toona just called me to announce that our bathroom water pipes have frozen. Sheesh, at least he's a contractor, so he knows how to take care of it. Tomorrow's a winter storm warning, and I've been convinced this one will come during some stormy craziness, to maybe?: I'm taking off work tomorrow, regardless because I just have a fear of driving to or from work in a blizzard and having to call state highway patrol to have the baby in the car. blech.

My midwife says baby's engaged, I'm pretty sure that was as of Thursday/Friday. My bp's up a bit, but she's not worried, because it's a blood volume thing as far as she's concerned. She just told me to eat lotsa cucumbers and maybe up the calcium/magnesium. So, that's good. I'm getting some pineapple too, to help convince "Stewie" that it's time for her/him to come out!

Megan, I didn't gain any weight until week 16, so maybe you're one of those folks who doesn't either (though I was eating, didn't have any aversions/sickness). I have gained since then, so who knows. Everyone's so different and every pregnancy is, so I figure just eat healthy and all's well... Well I haven't been eating healthy the past week - all I've wanted is ice cream with hershey's dark chocolate syrup, so yeah I had it like every day last week... heh, ice cream in below freezing weather. Pregnancy will do that, I guess!
post #108 of 311
Hey there mamas!

So, I'm shopping for pants. I know that I can go no where and actually find them in a store . I've been looking at a couple places online. I got some shorts from Woman Within because I figured, at $5/pair on clearance, I can't go wrong. Well, I don't love the under-the-belly panel so much, but I will definitely wear them in summer. I'd prefer to find stuff with the big panel. They don't have any jeans like that on that site. Their jeans have elastic and a drawstring, and I'm hesitant to go with those. Lane Bryant has some gorgeous looking ones, but $50/pair And I won't even need pants for very long; most of this will be summertime for me. Ugh, I can't decide. If the fashion industry hates fat chicks, they really, really, really hate fat pregnant chicks.

So, tell me of what funky finds y'all are wearing?
post #109 of 311
Teeny, I hope you don't deliver on the side of a road during a storm. I doubt you would though. I think it's more likely that labor would stall or slow down.

paquerette, I bought my jeans at Motherhood maternity. In a real store. You can also order from JCpenny which makes returns easier.
post #110 of 311
Good to hear from you Teeny - had been thinking of you and wondering how you were doing. Thanks for checking in. Here's for a healthy winter storm baby!
post #111 of 311
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Megan, I wouldn't worry about that too much. A lot of plus size mamas don't gain weight and some even lose. A lot of us gain too (sadly me). It's all good as long as you are eating well and eating enough.
How much is enough?
My ob/gyn's nurse (the one doing measurements on our appointments) is giving me hard time because I don't gain any pounds (I lost 2 pounds in the beginning and am on that weight since).
And I feel I'm eating all the time.. most of the time I make smart choices, I include lots of fresh fruit and veggies in my meals and most of the time I don't feel hungry or restricted in any way.
post #112 of 311
Ug!
I wish that I really looked pregnant instead of just extra fat. :

I agree whole heartedly that the fashion industry really really really hates large pregnant women. I still haven't found a good fit in pants that aren't $50 or $60. I have 9 weeks to go and I am not about to shell out that kind of money for pants that I won't be able to wear in 3 months.

It doesn't help that I am rather tall and it seems that the majority of plus size maternity clothing is made for the average woman. I'm fed up with pants that are 3 inches too short. Especially in these sub zero temps and constant snow fall we have been having lately.

I did buy some plus size tall maternity clothing from a place online but when I got the clothes the shirt was completely wrong. They sent me a nursing shirt instead of just a regular t-shirt and I should have gotten the slacks a size larger. I have tried repeatedly to get in contact with them but all of the emails bounce back saying the mail box is full and I have called and left messages but I have heard nothing from them. So here I sit with clothes that I bought and can not wear. I told DH that I was just going to ship them back with a letter in hopes they'll either refund me or send me the right clothes, but he thinks that's bad business practices to send something back with out speaking to someone and letting them know that it is coming. *sigh*

As a last resort I went online and bought giant elastic waisted men's pants. They are a hideous turquoise color but you know what, they are tall enough, they have plenty of room in the waist, they were less expensive than women's clothing, AND they are better quality than some of the women's clothes I have purchased trying to accommodate my expanding belly, my ankles, and my thighs.

Anyway, I should probably see if I can convince DH to give me a massage. Maybe that will help improve my mood.
post #113 of 311
Have any of you tried ebay for maternity clothes? I've bought maternity clothes there for this pg and my last one five years ago. Also if you hate the idea of spending $50 on a pair of pants new from a store or website, you could plan to sell them on Ebay afterwards and get a portion of your money back. That's what I'm doing since this is my last baby. That's how I think of cloth diaper purchases too...I know I'll sell them after (not on Ebay anymore though for used) so I don't worry so much about the cost.
post #114 of 311
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My ob/gyn's nurse (the one doing measurements on our appointments) is giving me hard time because I don't gain any pounds (I lost 2 pounds in the beginning and am on that weight since).
And I feel I'm eating all the time.. most of the time I make smart choices, I include lots of fresh fruit and veggies in my meals and most of the time I don't feel hungry or restricted in any way.
Oh my goodness, the nurses at the clinic I go to would be cheering if I were staying the same weight the whole pregnancy, LOL! It's funny how no matter what you do, you can't please everyone. My understanding is that it's perfectly normal for someone who starts out fairly overweight to not gain or gain very little. It's not my experience, but I am not eating that well, either...I think if I were doing what you are doing (the smart thing, good for you! I wish I was so disciplined) I would probably stay around the same weight, too. Last pregnancy I saw a nutriotionist a couple of times, and when I was sticking to their recommended calorie intake (1800 calories a day - not much for a pregnant 220 pound woman!) I actually lost a little despite baby growing. They were thrilled (I was kinda like...hmm, losing seems extreme, and that was the end of that!).

As long as baby is growing, I don't think there's any worry...you are probably losing some of your fat stores as you gain baby-related weight, so you end up breaking even. Ah, my dream...maybe next pregnancy?
post #115 of 311
Hey ladies, can I join?

I'm 30, 14w with first pregnancy, and about 240 lbs. My normal pants are starting not to fit, and i'm sort of dreading finding maternity wear that fits! Fortunately I do have a plus-size friend who gave birth last fall, and she's said she'll loan me much of her clothing.
post #116 of 311
Hi everyone and nice to meet you all!

I'm Esper, I'm 23 yrs old and 7 months pregnant with my first. This has been a tough pregnancy for me, more than I expected. It's nice to have a place where I can just poor out my whole story, so sorry for the impending long post but I need to vent!

Ok, so. I live in a small apartment with my boyfriend, Joe. He is going to college to be an English teacher. He also works at office max, but I have no job because (alas) I don't know how to drive. I moved around too much during school and no one has ever had the time to teach me, though I do have my permit. I also get panic attacks when I get behind the wheel, which may or may not have something to do with the horrible car accident we got into last summer.

So before I got pregnant, I was the "good little house-wife," doing all the dishes, cooking and cleaning, basically waiting on Joe hand and foot. It wasn't that he pressured me into this, it just didn't get done if I didn't do it.
After I got pregnant, I couldn't do a damn thing. I laid in bed, Joe followed me around with a bucket in case I got sick, which I did, frequently. I was really worried about dehydration, I couldn't keep down anything. I had light and noise sensitivity and headaches. I had to sleep on the futon in the living room because I couldn't stand the scent of a man. Anytime someone walked over to me too fast I could feel my body starting to panic. I felt like a cornered animal. Joe was so supportive of me, he would do the dishes and cook and clean, and tell me how proud he was of me, and that I was doing a good job. This boy should be sainted.

His parents on the other hand : Liked to insinuate that somehow I was faking it, that I was lazy and taking advantage of him. His mom even came out and told me that she thought I was bad news for him because I was sick all the time and he would have to put up with that for the rest of his life. She choose this highly emotional time for me to tell me that I didn't clean good enough, that I somehow kept Joe up late at night because when he came home from work he looked so tired, and why weren't we married yet, I should start planning because the baby will be here sooner than you think. I ended up biting a huge chunk of the inside of my mouth clean off, to prevent myself from crying in front of her.

I should mention that his parents were living with us on and off and they were in fact the reason that we lived in an apartment that was too big for us and that we couldn't afford. They sell insurance and told us they needed an IL residence to be able to sell here and that they would pay half of our rent and utilities if we just kept that room open for them whenever they wanted to show up. At the time both of us were unemployed and living off of Joe's student loan so it seemed that that would be an ok proposition since they really hadn't been around that much before that.

So they moved all their office crap in there and proceeded to live with us for about 4 months, never giving us a dime. But they did our dishes, and they'd go out and buy steaks and all kinds of expensive food that we didn't want or need. They resumed treating Joe like a child (which he hates), like asking if he was hungry and him saying no, and them making him a sandwich anyway, and acting like he owed them something for it. They also left the lights on everywhere, the heat turned way up, their computers on when they left, and ordered extra channels on our cable by pretending to be us. If we brought up anything about the bills or what they owed us, it would result in a huge blow up. Joe and I are very quiet people, and they just yell and scream and get defensive, they fought with each other constantly. I would just lock the bedroom door and cry.

Eventually they moved back to their mom's house for awhile, still haven't given us a dime. As of now they owe us about 4 thousand dollars. I tried to talk to them about putting the baby stuff in "thier" room, ya know like a nursery? They told me I could just wait because they were going to get their own apartment, but they weren't sure when.

So by that time I'd gotten over the morning sickness but I had a new problem: my teeth hurt. A few years back I had got some pretty shotty fillings that had fallen out, and now my teeth hurt so bad that I couldn't eat or even leave the house I was in so much pain. We made an emergency appointment at a random dentist's office and I had to get four teeth removed, all the ones I chew with. I know it sounds vain but at least they were all in the back so you don't notice it when I smile. I had to drink ensure because I could take my vitamins, which had been giving me terrible stomach cramps anyway.

So since we do not have insurance and we are definately low income, the government is taking care of the cost of my checkups and delivery, I also get WIC and am applying for subsidized housing. I don't enjoy taking handouts and being so stuck under thier thumb as far as my choices, but it's kind of my only option. Joe's dad is oh so republican, so I'm afraid of even bringing it up around him. He's constantly giving Joe "the talk" and making him listen to rich dad, poor dad tapes while they are in the car together.

I went in to the Dr.'s to get a recent check up and I have lost 9 pounds since the begining of the pregnancy. I've been eating so much, it's all I do, I sit around and stuff my face 40 times a day and I am still losing weight. The nurses treat me like a criminal, "You shouldn't be on a diet," they say with a sneer while looking at my thighs. I'm ready to punch some body.

Ok thanks for letting me rant a bit, this was the condensed version, lol.
Anyway, I need a few friends, and this seems like a very nice place.

Ta Ta~
Ember
post #117 of 311
Whoever recommended the Tummy Sleeve... THANK YOU!!! It's going to save me money in the long run because I'll be able to wear my regular pants a bit longer.

I was thrilled to find plus sized maternity clothing at Motherhood, but I see that some of you have already discovered that.
post #118 of 311
I know that Motherhood is one of the only places you can get plus-size pregnancy clothes, so I don't want to rain on anyone's parade (and I am, in fact, wearing a pair of their jeans right now)...

BUT, they are an evil corporation. When I went there last (to buy said jeans) they ordered a subscription of Parenting magazine (without my permission) AND gave my credit card information to Parenting magazine, all without mentioning a thing. I started receiving the magazine in the mail, which I thought was strange, but I get so many magazines, I didn't think much of it, and then I got a charge on my credit card for the subscription. I called Parenting, and they said that I got the subscription at Motherhood Maternity.
To Parenting Magazine's credit, they refunded my money.

Since then, I have discovered that this is a common practice of theirs and their sister companies (they are owned by Mother Works which runs A Pea in the Pod, and Due Maternity?) They have had and lost at least 2 class action suits for this very thing, and they still continue the practice.

I filed a complaint with the BBB, but Mother Works never even bothered getting back to them.

I would prefer if people banned them, but I understand the lack of options, and they do make comfy jeans. So, instead, just please be careful. Preferably, don't pay with credit card, but with cash. If you must pay with credit card, make sure they are not sharing your information with anybody else or ordering anything for you that you do not want.
post #119 of 311
Thanks Snookler and DBZ! As it stands I stayed at home yesterday through the cold and snow, and still no baby. Heh 40+3 and no contractions or dilation sensations or well it feels like nothing's really crankin'. So I feel a little pouty. Especially with all the "are you still here?!?" People at work. meh.

Oh I SOOO agree with all the upsettedness over plus sized maternity. ANd the sheeeeerrr ridiculousness of what is out there. One of my pairs of pants has a crotch that is like 4 inches below where it needs to be, because um, plus-sized pregnant womens' crotches drop out or something? ANd yeah they don't make tops for plus-sized pregnant women, it's like we all start out with a cups and go to b cups only? umm yeah, and I don't like to get started on the bra rant, because well... I'm sure you all know!

Esper, welcome to the club!! I'm sorry it's such a rough go for you. It's not fair the way you're being treated by your in-laws... really crap. Some bigger mommas just lose weight during pregnancy, maybe your metabolism has shot up? Well, for one thing, I hope you're celebrating this pregnancy, because soon you will have a sweet baby and that's always a feeling!

Yikes, Khanni, I can't believe they did that to you! It's like they've got folks locked into a corner then they take advantage. Growl.
post #120 of 311
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Thanks Snookler and DBZ! As it stands I stayed at home yesterday through the cold and snow, and still no baby. Heh 40+3 and no contractions or dilation sensations or well it feels like nothing's really crankin'. So I feel a little pouty. Especially with all the "are you still here?!?" People at work. meh.
Are you still working?

I know this probably isn't comforting, but I thought I'd commiserate. With my first, I went to 42 weeks exactly. And, definitely, one of the most irritating things in the world is people calling and asking if the baby came yet. I went to pre-natal yoga 3x/week at the end, and even though ultimately it felt better going there and getting support, I dreaded their disappointed looks everytime I walked in. The nice thing was they were all pulling for me to have the baby, and I got to go there and cry out of my frustration.

One thing I found helped was acupuncture. It's supposed to help induce the baby, and who knows, she may have gone to 45 weeks on her own, but I don't really think it helped with that. What it did help with was taking the edge off. I would go there all anxious (the reason I was so anxious to have the baby, other than anticipation, of course, was because I was having a homebirth and didn't want to end up having to go to the hospital to get induced), and after the acupuncture treatment, I would feel really happy and even keeled. So, if nothing else, I recommend it for that.

Now, I will tell you the positive thing about having my daughter so late. For one thing, I was initially GBS+ and did not want to have antibiotics. I did a bunch of stuff to get rid of it, and it was gone vaginally, but not rectally. BUT, they say the bigger the baby is and the longer it stays in the womb, the less chance of it being a problem, to the point where it's miniscule by 42 weeks.

The other thing was that I ended up having severe low milk supply--I was never able to produce more than 1 oz per feeding, and that was after 4 months of trying everything under the sun to increase my milk supply. However, because my daughter was so healthy and strong, despite the fact that she got dehydrated and lost too much weight, she was still extremely healthy and alert and bounced back like a champ.

In the end, I am really grateful that she stayed in there as long as she did and came out so strong. She was 8lbs 10oz, 21 inches, and perfect!
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