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post #141 of 311
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Congrats! Both my bugs were around 7lbs too. I kinda would like this one to be a chunker!
post #142 of 311

Midwife told me lose weight : /

Ok well so for financial reasons we're planning a waterbirth at a hospital with a midwife. I've met with the Dr. and really liked him but he doesn't do waterbirths so I have to continue with the midwife in the office, which was fine...

So first appointment with Dr. we frankly talked about my weight, I'm well aware of the risks, etc. and I appreciated that we could have an intelligent conversation. This time I met with the midwife and holy cow it was like I was the student she was the teacher and she was going to make sure I knew that I should lose weight, how to do it and not do it. I gained a lot with my first son, mostly lost it, got pregnant again and gained very very little, and then gained after her (go figure) and now yes I am very very heavy, but crap it's not like I don't know why I'm fat, how I got this way or how to fix it.. Do I appear to be an idiot or what! She went on and on and on about what I should and shouldn't be eating. I just think it's depressing! A lot more was said, but dangit I was really looking forward to having a great midwife and this one just pissed me off.

Changing Dr/midwife of course is an option, but hopefully this was just her one time unloading and next time will be normal..

better be!!!
post #143 of 311

newly pregnant

Hallo,

Just thought I would introduce myself. I'm a 32-yo grad student in North Carolina, and my partner and I are expecting our first baby in October. I'm finishing my degree in library & info science in late summer, a couple of months before the baby is due. I'm about 8 weeks pregnant now, and although I've been tired and very emotional, the nausea has been fairly manageable. I think the biggest challenges so far are questions about how my relationship will change and adapt to another person in the house (make that a tiny 860 s.f. condo), and about how to best ensure my partner's connection to the child in a legal sense (we're a lesbian couple). I know that all of that is going to take time and money, and some luck.

I'm also not exactly sure how to weigh my options as far as delivering in a birth center or the hospital. My school health insurance is pretty comprehensive if I see the OB/GYN on campus and deliver at the hospital, but I suffer from anxiety & panic attacks (since the age of 5!) and think that a birth center birth might be more relaxed and better for me psychologically.

I'm overweight for my height if you go by BMI charts, but have been relatively healthy, and I'm hoping I don't develop any blood sugar problems during the pregnancy. I've been walking, doing yoga, and trying to eat non-processed food, so hopefully that will help!

I'm looking forward to reading everyone's stories on the site

cheers,
heddybee
post #144 of 311
Hi Everyone! Now just why was this thread all the way on page 8? Come on, lets get this moving!

Anyway, I'm here at about 26 weeks with baby #3. Feeling good, and still wearing regular clothes, but they are getting tight and some shirts are too short. I'm definitely one of those pregnant mamas who don't look preggo! At this point, I've gotten used to it, I guess. Most people who see me even at 9 months will probably think, hmm, is that just a big stomach or is she maybe a couple of months pregnant? Anyway, I was cruising the internet for clothes and found this: http://lanebryant.charmingshoppes.co...653&pagesize=3

First of all, I didn't know Lane Bryant had a maternity line, but this shirt just takes the cake.

Otherwise, to heddybee posting right above me--I'm in NC, too, and will be at the Birth Center. So far I really like it. I can't say the care has been drastically different than my OB from the previous two, but I think the birth will be a different story. Interestingly enough, my OB made almost no mention of my weight, but it has been an issue at the BC....I think because they are so into making sure they keep to low risk. That's really been my only issue, wanting me to have an early glucose test. Also, I've lost throughout this pregnancy. 15 lbs to start, and have gained 5 back--probably due to the mass quantities of ice cream I've been eating.

So how's everyone else doing?
post #145 of 311
Oh wow! I think I want that top!

I've been having trouble finding cute maternity clothes in my size, even at Motherhood, so maybe this site will work for me. I wish they had these in their stores though.
post #146 of 311

NC birth center

Well -- I just found out that the NC Birth Center doew "risk out" women with BMI over 35, and mine is 36.1. I haven't talked with any of the providers there to see what they think, but I'm kind of expecting now to use UNC hospitals. It's kind of a disappointment, but I think the primary issues for me are having a relaxing environment and making sure that the midwife or doctor that I see for prenatal care is the one who is there for the delivery. With anxiety/panic disorder, it's best for me to have predictability and a sense of safety.
post #147 of 311
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Oh wow! I think I want that top!

I've been having trouble finding cute maternity clothes in my size, even at Motherhood, so maybe this site will work for me. I wish they had these in their stores though.
If you order in store you'll get free shipping. You have to write down the item numbers though as they do not have internet access to look them up for you. Still free shipping is good!
post #148 of 311
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If you order in store you'll get free shipping. You have to write down the item numbers though as they do not have internet access to look them up for you. Still free shipping is good!
Ah, thanks! Every little dollar saved right now really helps.

I'm worried about how we're going to do financially after this one comes. We bought a house last year, not anticipating any "little additions" to the household.
post #149 of 311
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Dov:
I think the Fitball company sells balls that can hold up to 500-600lbs. Worth looking into, we sell them were I work as Birth Balls. It's been awhile since I looked at the box though. Good Luck!
Dov: I have one that I use all the time...It's so wonderful, esp. at work with bad back pain from my stupid office chair that's far too small and underpadded...
post #150 of 311
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Does anybody else feel like their pregnancy is invisible?

I'm almost 32 weeks now, and to me and those who know I'm pregnant, clearly showing. Yet, I wonder if other people notice. Noone EVER gets up and offers me a seat on crowded buses (I know people also don't have any manners). And sometimes, to like people in stores or whatever, I say I'm pregnant for whatever reason, and they say "Oh, congratulations!" like they didn't notice before, though some see me quite often.

I realize that they could just think they're being polite, but I also know that it can sometimes be hard to tell on larger women whether or not they're pregnant. I find it frustrating. Yet, at the same time, I guess it would be weird if people just exclaimed "oh, you're pregnant" out of the blue without me saying anything, so I don't really know what I expect...
I just had my first real hormonal crying outburst because of this. I was in my DDC looking at a baby belly pics thread and just burst into tears. I'm 15+ weeks and don't even have a slight indication that I'm pregnant. My best friend was plus size when she was pregnant and didn't start showing until 7 months along. I was so upset that I'm probably going to be the same way. It still bugs me a bit, but I'm a bit more calm about it. I just wish I looked pregnant, not just fat!!
post #151 of 311
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Hello mamas!

I got my blood pressure taken and it was high-ish and I felt like saying that's only cause I'm nervous! Which was true and can make your numbers high but I had the fear of "no you're just fat" happening. I know no one would say it, at least I would hope not.
I have what is called "white coat syndrome", abnormally high bp when in a dr's office. I have a backup midwife in case I have to deliver at the nearby hospital rather than at the farther off birth center. When I got a bp reading of 130/110 on my first visit, I explained that I have this '"syndrome". She told me that she believed me but that if I had any proof of a normal bp to bring it in to my next appt. I've been getting my bp and weight monitored by the nurse here at work every week since July, when I went off my BCpills. I brought in my record book and she was like "wow, I didn't really think that white coat syndrome was real, but you've definitely proven it is".

Funny thing is, I don't get high bp readings at my primary midwife's birth center....having proof is always a good thing when you're dealing with people who are a bit on the fat-phobic side...
post #152 of 311
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Well -- I just found out that the NC Birth Center doew "risk out" women with BMI over 35, and mine is 36.1. I haven't talked with any of the providers there to see what they think, but I'm kind of expecting now to use UNC hospitals. It's kind of a disappointment, but I think the primary issues for me are having a relaxing environment and making sure that the midwife or doctor that I see for prenatal care is the one who is there for the delivery. With anxiety/panic disorder, it's best for me to have predictability and a sense of safety.
Where did you get that info? Just wondering, since I'm *ahem* a bit over the 35 limit myself.....but I have two fairly uncomplicated pregnancies behind me, so maybe that made a difference. She did do my BMI at my first visit, and that was the reason for the concern, besides family history (grandmother with type 2 diabetes.)
But anyway, I'd still call and make an appt--it's surely worth a try if that's what you want, and I'm sure you've found out how extremely difficult it is to get a midwife for a homebirth in NC, so if you don't want UNC hosp, go ahead and schedule an appt with the Birth Center. Good Luck!
post #153 of 311
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I have what is called "white coat syndrome", abnormally high bp when in a dr's office. I have a backup midwife in case I have to deliver at the nearby hospital rather than at the farther off birth center. When I got a bp reading of 130/110 on my first visit, I explained that I have this '"syndrome". She told me that she believed me but that if I had any proof of a normal bp to bring it in to my next appt. I've been getting my bp and weight monitored by the nurse here at work every week since July, when I went off my BCpills. I brought in my record book and she was like "wow, I didn't really think that white coat syndrome was real, but you've definitely proven it is".

Funny thing is, I don't get high bp readings at my primary midwife's birth center....having proof is always a good thing when you're dealing with people who are a bit on the fat-phobic side...
Are they using a large blood pressure cuff where you're getting the high blood pressure readings? If they use a normal blood pressure cuff for me, my blood pressure reads like 150/100 or something. But with a large blood pressure cuff, I'm usually around 110/65....waaaaaaayy lower. This is a major issue for plus-size women. Make sure they are using the proper cuff!
post #154 of 311

nc birth center & bmi

Noell, I was just looking at their FAQ on their website:

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Some conditions make out of hospital birth potentially unsafe, or the extra support of a hospital preferable or necessary for some women. They following is a partial list of common medical conditions that would "risk out" a woman from the birth center:

* Uncontrolled hypertension or high blood pressure
* Diabetes requiring insulin or medication
* Prior surgery on the uterus
* A new patient with a prior Cesarean birth planning on a vaginal birth with a subsequent pregancy, or VBAC.
* At this time we can only offer VBAC's to our established patients whose prior pregnancy under our care ended with a Cesarean birth
* Bleeding, or blood-clotting disorders
* With a first pregnancy, being very overweight with a BMI higher than 35
* History of a blood clot
* Smoking more than 1 pack per day

You will be asked about your health history on you intake screening phone call, and any question will be discussed with the midwife and decided on an case by case basis.
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I'll give them a call, though, and see what they say!
post #155 of 311
Popping back in to say hi. I'm 37 weeks now, so in the home stretch.

I've been having some major problems with my asthma, and it's gotten serious enough that I decided to go back to a hospital birth instead of a home birth. The hospital has 6 rotating midwives, but I have been making my appointments with one who knew about my hb plans and who has been very helpful at getting around some of the hospital red tape. Even if she's not the one who attends the birth, she has given me a heads-up on how the other midwives practice and how to make sure my wishes are respected. So, I'm feeling pretty good about things.

I'm getting pretty awkward and sore, but I started seeing a chiropractor around 32 weeks and still feel much better than I did before. I've got some serious heartburn and am losing some bladder control, and I'm always tired---basically, pregnant. I guess I'm getting pretty big because a lady stopped me this weekend and said, "Whoa! When are you due?"

A photographer friend is going to take some belly pictures this week, but here are some generic pregnancy pictures my DH took last week, at 36.5 weeks.
post #156 of 311
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Originally Posted by khanni View Post
Are they using a large blood pressure cuff where you're getting the high blood pressure readings? If they use a normal blood pressure cuff for me, my blood pressure reads like 150/100 or something. But with a large blood pressure cuff, I'm usually around 110/65....waaaaaaayy lower. This is a major issue for plus-size women. Make sure they are using the proper cuff!
They do use the larger cuff. I usually have to tell them to use it, but they do use it. I just get very anxious and nervous in dr.'s offices. I think it's the waiting room that really gets me going. That, or just the fact that I don't like doctors in general. I've yet to find one that I feel comfortable with.
post #157 of 311
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Have any of you used a belly support? My lower pooch is starting to hang down from my belly and while it is creating pain for my lower back it also looks terrible. I'd like something like a hammock to sort of lift up the whole area not just a band like some of the others I've seen.

I'd be willing to sew it myself too if you've seen a pattern.
post #158 of 311
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I think I've got everyone added. Let me know if I missed you. When you PM me please write it like this to make it easier for me:

Username, Baby #?, Age (if you want)

If you've had your baby and want me to list is please PM me with the stats if you want to list them. Also tell me what month you were due.
post #159 of 311
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Have any of you used a belly support? My lower pooch is starting to hang down from my belly and while it is creating pain for my lower back it also looks terrible. I'd like something like a hammock to sort of lift up the whole area not just a band like some of the others I've seen.

I'd be willing to sew it myself too if you've seen a pattern.
I've used the Gabrialla Maternity Support Belt. http://www.fitmaternity.com/maternit...hes/ga003.html
post #160 of 311
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I've used the Gabrialla Maternity Support Belt. http://www.fitmaternity.com/maternit...hes/ga003.html
Did you find that it helped? I tried using a maternity support belt with my first and found that it was more hassle than helpful (plus it made me a whole lot warmer than I wanted to be).
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