Originally Posted by verde
I always thought the women's movement was about changing the system but Linda Hirshman wants us to be right in the belly of the beast. I refuse to do that and I think that many of us professional women recognize that the beast does not work for everyone. In fact, IMHO, the beast is not good for most people.
Take your time and figure out a way to make the job system work for you. It can be done if you reframe your thinking -- you'll find out you have more options than you realized.
I am 100% with what Verde posted.
I'm not sure I completely belong here (or anywhere!) but I left my corporate job last June after working full-time for the first 2 years of my DD's life. I was definitely on the "fast-track" but yet, I never seemed to actually get anywhere or anything more professionally than where I was at pre-baby. It was very disillusioning, because I was honestly, stellar at my job.
From the minute I had my DD I felt devalued at work, yet unable to stay home. Eventually, after a rejected proposal, trying to work out flex time, etc...I left and started my own consulting business. I am not getting a 401K right now, I am pretty much working PT (unless a big contract comes in) but the flexibility makes my life work FOR ME now, instead of me trying to fit my life in around my prior 7-7 job. I am really proud that in my first year, I was able to match my former salary, working 20 hours a week less.
I too, think the point of the woman's movement was for women to have choices, and to be able to write their own ticket and create the life they want--not what society tells them they can have.
And I think the only way we can change corporate America is to put as many different models of success out there as possible. There are a lot of people walking away from corporate America--men, too. I think many people feel we were sold a bill of goods in the 80's and the benefits of giving your heart and soul to a company are simply no longer there.
I feel pretty betwixt and between myself though--I have tons of great ideas of how I could build my business and make it something really great, but honestly, now is not the time to pursue them. I turn down work so that I have more time at home. Sometimes it worries me, but I have to believe that there will be another 20 years for me to work. SLOOWING down now feels right.
I find the lack of real choices for professional women here in the US disappointing--it feels like you're either in or out. I made my own compromise but that is so few and far-between out there. So, yes, I feel pretty screwed too!