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post #21 of 42
My cousin, who turns 29 Monday, still sucks hers
post #22 of 42
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I'm glad my initial reaction was reinforced by you guys The relationship the girls have is pretty typical of teenage girls - lots of giggling and hilarity. Right now they're baking a cake here. I have every intention of ignoring my mother this time! (but having them wash their hands while they work in the kitchen!)
post #23 of 42
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Originally Posted by BedHead View Post
the fact she hangs out with my daughter who is over a year and half younger is another sign she's immature
Just wanted to throw in my two cents. The only time in life when we're segregated to a group of people who are only our age is in school. It's not "natural".:
post #24 of 42
I saw this...reminded me of my sister...she's 24 and still sucks her thumb. She's not developmentally delayed or anything, and she bf'd till she was 3. IMHO, immaturity has nothing to do with it. If your dd's friend is still sucking her thumb, it's probably a comfort thing, not at all related to maturity. My sister does it when she feels insecure or stressed...these days she will catch herself in public but we just ignore it! So don't worry about it...The friend probably gets enough grief at school, props to your dd for still being friends with her despite the obvious social ostracism that must ensue.
post #25 of 42
My best friend from high school STILL sucks her thumb at night sometimes - and she's 31!! And trust me, she's not immature, nor does she have any 'issues'. It's just a security thing, I guess - I don't think she even realizes she's doing it half the time. Oh, and her teeth are fine.
post #26 of 42
This thread has made me think about my own kids' thumbsucking.
DD used to suck her thumb. She quit the day she lost her first tooth. She still puts foreign objects in her mouth and is very orally oriented. BTW, she self weaned at 4 1/2. I sometimes wish she still sucked her thumb so she wasn't putting things like quarters, game pieces and hair ties in her mouth. At least a thumb has no choking potential. 6yo DS loves his thumb and I've been on him to quit. Perhaps I'll lay off.
post #27 of 42
My sister sucked her finger when stressed until well into her 30s. For all I know she's still doing it! I think your Mom is off the mark on this one.
post #28 of 42
I saw this thread and had to post.

I'm not a habitual thumb-sucker by any means, but I have resorted to it a few times recently (at 27!) when I've been severely ill or in pain.
post #29 of 42
this thread caught my eye since my 33yo SIL still sucks here thumb. And my nephew, her son, sucks his fingers and he's 12! :
post #30 of 42
I will admit it.

I think it's weird. I would be very unhappy if my own teenager had a habit that is associated with pre-schoolers.

I dated a guy once (a LOOOOOOONG time ago) and we were watching a video (before DVD) He fell asleep and was sucking his thumb. I instantly decided I would never date him again. He instantly went from a really cool young man, to a weird creepy thumb sucker. I never told anybody til now, but it changed how I saw him.

However, even though I think it's weird, I wouldn't even consider that there was anything wrong with a teenager who still sucked her/his thumb. I wouldn't even begin to worry about my own child hanging out with this friend.

I can think of many things that would concern me, but thumb sucking isn't one of them.

BTW, my mom thought that my dd was posessed because she had an imaginary friend at age two.
post #31 of 42
Well I wasnt an adult thumb sucker, but I was an adult blankie lover..lol.. well, I still have it..

Its more about comfort than anything else... and my ds was a thumb sucker and quit on his own, i think when he was four or turned 5. I had told him pretty soon he was going to start losing teeth and his dentist was going to tell him he would need to stop so that his teeth would come in straight and he stopped all on his own a couple of months after that.... And i NEVER ONCE before that mentioned his thumb, shamed his thumb or made any comments what so ever about it being bad, gross, etc..

HOWEVER, I was teased constantly as a child by my dad that he was going to through my blanky away, that he burned it in the woodstove, etc.... and I think that was what made my attachment sooo strong, and I was a sensitive kid, a little insecure.... and so, I still have it..
post #32 of 42
One of my girlfriends sucks her thumb at night when she sleeps. I think it's just like biting nails- a habit. If it were me i wouldn't worry.
post #33 of 42
Oops! Double post!
post #34 of 42
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Originally Posted by Smalls181 View Post
I have heard a lot of professionals state that if a young child is constant bothered to not suck their thumb, it reinforces the need/habit to do so. But if left alone about it, they outgrow it by around the 3rd grade. (I think I got that right.)
Wow. I think this is what happened to me. My parents harassed me, threatented me, bribed me...

All right, I'll be the oldest admitted thumbsucker on the board. I still do it. And I'm 27 years old. And at this point I don't think about it much, and don't really "plan" to stop. And when I was 15 most of my friends were 14 too. I don't think that I'm dangerously or unstable.

My DF's older sister still sucks her's too, and she's 34 (I think)

(I actually was thumb sucking while reading this initially...)
post #35 of 42
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Originally Posted by Twinklefae View Post
Wow. I think this is what happened to me. My parents harassed me, threatented me, bribed me...

All right, I'll be the oldest admitted thumbsucker on the board. I still do it. And I'm 27 years old. And at this point I don't think about it much, and don't really "plan" to stop. And when I was 15 most of my friends were 14 too. I don't think that I'm dangerously or unstable.

My DF's older sister still sucks her's too, and she's 34 (I think)

(I actually was thumb sucking while reading this initially...)

Sorry actually I'm older than you, I'm 29 and I still suck my thumb
I have a friend with a phd, making 6 figures and she does too
I am a migraine thumb sucker, if I have a headache my finger is most certainly going into my mouth, lol
post #36 of 42
I never was a thumb sucker but I still do the same "comfort thing" I did as a child...I twirl my hair around my fingers and sometimes i brush my hair on my face to feel the softness or i'll smell it.
post #37 of 42
I'm 26 and still suck mine. It is a comfort thing.

I am totally normal (well....what is normal anyway?) and never suffered any because I sucked my thumb. I don't ever do it in public though and haven't since I was probably 4-5 years old.
post #38 of 42
as a sensory seeking adult, i still suck my thumb sometimes in stressful/uncomfortable times. Forget about what your mom said and let your dd pick her freinds.
post #39 of 42
I'm not sure if thumb sucking is hereditary or what but both my girls sucked their thumbs until about 12 or 13 and they are both well adjusted so I sure don't see it as a big deal. My 15 yr old smokes cigarettes now ughhh and I've often told her I'd rather she sucked her thumb. There are alot worse habits to have than thumb sucking. Good luck, Barb
post #40 of 42
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the fact she hangs out with my daughter who is over a year and half younger is another sign she's immature[/B]
Wow, how sad that kids are being so age segregated now. There is nothing immature or abnormal about 2 kids hanging out with an 18 month age difference. My dd was friends of a wide variety of ages growing up I think it's an awesome thing for all kids to have that. It's also completely NORMAL.


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Originally Posted by milkmommie View Post
Just wanted to throw in my two cents. The only time in life when we're segregated to a group of people who are only our age is in school. It's not "natural".:
Exactly.
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