This might be more of a TAO but I'll put it here and it can get moved if it needs to be.
I'm a OB RN in a rural hospital. We have 3 CNM's, G., C., and S. G. & C. have been there for years; S. is a new midwife, new to the area, and a little rough around the edges. Personally, I like S. She's more of an advocate for natural birth. But she doed things a little differently, speaks differently, and is the "new kid" so some of the nurses haven't exactly taken to her. The patients seem to like her. Some of them really like her and request her and she'll come in on her time off to deliver them, as do G. and C. (who does it more than anyone). And some don't like her, to be expected.
The other day S. and I were taking care of a pre-termer. The patient's (slightly overbearing) mom asked who the midwife on-call was. When the patient told her who it was she said, "Oh yeah, that's the one that C. says no one likes!"
And I was instructed not to say anything to her and that "there was a whole story that went along with that."
WTF? Now I'm wondering if I should say anything to S. Her and I have the type of relationship that I'd be comfortable telling her, but I don't want to stir a pot that should be left alone, KWIM? I'm not worried about repurcusions to myself because I know she wouldn't let on who had told her and honestly I'm already looking for employment elsewhere (unrelated to this). I'm sure S. has a contract that she must fulfill, but I just think it's terribly wrong that her college(s) are saying these things behind her back. I know she already feels a little like the odd-man-out, but honestly I don't think she cares. She's just that type of person.
If it were me, I would want to know because I would want to address it. Respectivly of course but addressed for sure.
Opinions?
I'm a OB RN in a rural hospital. We have 3 CNM's, G., C., and S. G. & C. have been there for years; S. is a new midwife, new to the area, and a little rough around the edges. Personally, I like S. She's more of an advocate for natural birth. But she doed things a little differently, speaks differently, and is the "new kid" so some of the nurses haven't exactly taken to her. The patients seem to like her. Some of them really like her and request her and she'll come in on her time off to deliver them, as do G. and C. (who does it more than anyone). And some don't like her, to be expected.
The other day S. and I were taking care of a pre-termer. The patient's (slightly overbearing) mom asked who the midwife on-call was. When the patient told her who it was she said, "Oh yeah, that's the one that C. says no one likes!"
And I was instructed not to say anything to her and that "there was a whole story that went along with that."WTF? Now I'm wondering if I should say anything to S. Her and I have the type of relationship that I'd be comfortable telling her, but I don't want to stir a pot that should be left alone, KWIM? I'm not worried about repurcusions to myself because I know she wouldn't let on who had told her and honestly I'm already looking for employment elsewhere (unrelated to this). I'm sure S. has a contract that she must fulfill, but I just think it's terribly wrong that her college(s) are saying these things behind her back. I know she already feels a little like the odd-man-out, but honestly I don't think she cares. She's just that type of person.
If it were me, I would want to know because I would want to address it. Respectivly of course but addressed for sure.
Opinions?
