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post #1 of 15
1/9/08 at 12:06pm
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post #2 of 15
1/9/08 at 12:25pm
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My 18 mo. old is naked, won't put on clothes, cd or even underwear. She just peed on our black suede dining room chair and tried to stick a crayon up her yahoo....
I'd, uh, get her dressed.
post #3 of 15
1/9/08 at 12:36pm
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Originally Posted by waiflywaif View Post
I'd, uh, get her dressed.

Well, she is violently opposed to that idea right now and we like to practice non-coercive parenting... So, while I do have her tushie covered up now, the rest of her is au-naturelle!
post #4 of 15
1/9/08 at 12:46pm
I guess that's the choice you make, then! Personally I'm not cool with pee on the furniture.

I don't think getting dressed has to be coercive, especially with an 18-month-old. At that age they are just so little that it's super easy to make everything into a game and not a choice. When I say "not a choice" I don't mean "you will do as I say right now," I mean a cheerful "this is what we're doing together right now."
post #5 of 15
1/9/08 at 1:36pm
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Originally Posted by waiflywaif View Post
I guess that's the choice you make, then! Personally I'm not cool with pee on the furniture.

I don't think getting dressed has to be coercive, especially with an 18-month-old. At that age they are just so little that it's super easy to make everything into a game and not a choice. When I say "not a choice" I don't mean "you will do as I say right now," I mean a cheerful "this is what we're doing together right now."
Ditto, I've found lots of ways to get DS dressed when he doesn't want to be. Sometimes dressing/diapering a stuffed animal works. Sometimes "programming" him works: I tell him all the things we're going to do. "First we'll change your diaper, then we'll have some breakfast, then we'll go to the park, yadda yadda."
post #6 of 15
1/9/08 at 1:52pm
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Maybe the tone of my post didn't come through well...

I'm not complaining, per se, just finding it funny that we are having this crazy, toddler, stay at home all day kind of day I mean, nothing terribly productive about it, just being here together, doing what feels good! I guess this is what I feel being a SAHM is all about for me. Just being able to roll with it.

I end up loving days like this because something really funny always happens and some day soon this will all be a thing of the past and we will be on to new adventures that older kids have.

I could care less if any one gets dressed...I'm just happy we finally covered DD's tushie!
post #7 of 15
1/9/08 at 3:39pm
I had lots of days like this before going back to work full time, and we had a few over the holidays while I was off work. It was always nice to have a lazy day like that!
post #8 of 15
1/9/08 at 4:36pm
sorry--it's so hard to tell tone of voice online, whether you're looking for advice or just rolling with it, as you say...
post #9 of 15
1/9/08 at 5:35pm
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Originally Posted by waiflywaif View Post
I guess that's the choice you make, then! Personally I'm not cool with pee on the furniture.

I don't think getting dressed has to be coercive, especially with an 18-month-old. At that age they are just so little that it's super easy to make everything into a game and not a choice. When I say "not a choice" I don't mean "you will do as I say right now," I mean a cheerful "this is what we're doing together right now."
Obviously you haven't had a child who HATES to get dressed.

I have one. She's 13 months. I don't feel like dealing with it some days. If I get her dressed and we don't leave immediately - she will spend the next 20, 30, 60 minutes pulling at her clothes and screaming. We have snap cloth diapers which I will try to put on backwards as she runs aways from me. But she's getting good at getting even those off.

OP - I hear you. We have that kind of day once in a while.

DD isn't allowed free run of the house until she's peed in the potty. I time when I take off her diaper. Then I watch her carefully until the next time she pees. Then - I remember when I give her stuff to drink and offer her the potty at appropriate times. I never force her - but she's pretty happy to pee on the potty if I keep telling her that her other choice is to wear her diaper. She will also pull at her diaper/take it off when she wants to pee.
post #10 of 15
1/9/08 at 7:56pm
I'm right there with you! We had several days like that recently--except for the naked part. I don't do naked... too messy, messy, messy with my little one! But my kids, who are 3 1/2 (dd) and almost-2 (ds), love to spend the day in their pajamas; they seem to have learned that by not getting dressed it ensures that absolutely nothing can get done, except hanging around doing art projects, playing with new toys, and piling on snow clothes to play in the snow.

Today, in fact, I spent most of the morning trying to convince them to get dressed and get shoes on. I was trying to get them out of the house to go to The Children's Museum, for goodness sake! We finally got there around one in the afternoon. It's lucky I so rarely actually need to be somewhere!
post #11 of 15
1/9/08 at 8:44pm
We have many a day like this, our life can be very hectic. And I don't think that dressing an unwilling almost 2yo is as cut and dry as just slapping some clothes on them. It will just come right back off many times unless you are pulling out the duct tape.
post #12 of 15
1/9/08 at 11:58pm
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She's 13 months. I don't feel like dealing with it some days. If I get her dressed and we don't leave immediately - she will spend the next 20, 30, 60 minutes pulling at her clothes and screaming.
Yikes. Does she have other sensory issues?
post #13 of 15
1/10/08 at 12:02am
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Originally Posted by waiflywaif View Post
Yikes. Does she have other sensory issues?
Not that I know of. She's just VERY independent. She wants to be in control and make the decisions.

She's completely fine getting dressed if we leave and do something. But she doesn't like to give up her freedom without a good reason. If we have people over for a playdate - and I tell her that's why she's getting dressed - then she doesn't mind. She also doesn't mind PJs as part of getting ready for bed.

But for some reason she objects to putting on clothes just to hang around the house.

It seems pretty reasonable to me. I don't wear clothes around the house. But then again I can reliably us the toilet.
post #14 of 15
1/10/08 at 11:09am
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post #15 of 15
1/10/08 at 12:08pm
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Some days we need the downtime....it always means a few funny stories...like DS saying "HEY! I stuck my finger up her butt!"....now THAT got my attention!
Whoa, that is not funny. Crayons in the vagina and fingers in his sister's butt? I just can't find any humor in that.
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