Originally Posted by alegna
Eh. I care if they're ignorant. And I simply don't have the patience or emotional energy to work on a relationship with a ped. who thinks I'm an idiot for my choices.... And if the whole point is to have a relationship with them....
See I think I just wasn't clear enough.
I'm not saying I'm willing to accept a doc who thinks I'm an idiot. I think:
1) Doc should think that parents know their children best
2) Doc should have a certain level of understanding and education as well as continuing education in medicine
3) Doc should have a significant level of curiosity in medicine and be able to think outside the box, accept other "alternative" or "complementary" therapies
4) Doc should be willing to say let's do this AND this.
5) Doc should have their own ideas, but never reject outright the ideas/knowledge of the parent
What I meant previously was this. Lemme give a vax example cuz I've got a thousand of them.
I don't really care what docs think about my vaccine choice as long as it doesn't impact the care they give.
We had one doc who harassed us to no end. Said ridiculous things.
We had one doc who could never remember that my kids weren't vaccinated. And while this was great for most of the time, it meant that she wasn't willing to check my son's titers for mumps when we thought he had it.
We had one doc who said that he had no problem, but told us ONE scary story. THEN he started writing on all our paper work NO where the nurse had written YES. THEN he stated when confused about an issue that "it could be anything because after all, he's not vaccinated." (Which I don't think I need to tell you that this is a ridiculous statement.)
We also have had 2 docs who said, Yes or No? Is he or isn't he? And then followed by, I don't care one way or the other, I just need to know. These docs required NO waiver to sign. They truly just wanted to know. They never brought it up later, except for one to tell us that he had flu vax for my son if we wanted it since he was in a high risk category.
The thing similar about these two doctors is that they were evangelicals. I'm sure for instance that they both would not activists in any way. But they are both smart doctors who understand that some things just aren't their business. AND they were willing to work with me where I was, not try to bother, harangue, "guide", "direct", or harass me into cooperating with them.
I personally have found some correlations with these doctors that I didn't know would be relevant.
But I'm going on and on.