Daily Check-In for 1/10 - Page 3

[MAMARabbitt]

Originally Posted by MamaJamie

I will definitely not be having a baby anywhere near this place again!
She said there was absolutely no reason why I should try to breastfeed. It'd be easier on the baby and me if I just let her have formula from day one.

OMG!!! This woman seriously freaks me out!!! How can she even be pretending to be helping you. Anyone who tells you it's best to not try is either crazy or stupid...
I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this I'd say try as hard as you can to get another provider, almost anything sounds better than this one.

[Surfacing]

MamaJamie PLEASE try to find another caregiver. That woman sounds AWFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not listening to you or respecting you AT ALL. Frightening. (shudder)

What DO you think about the possibility of trying to find someone else this late in the game? If the prospect is too overwhelming, is there someone who might help you like your dh or a friend/family member?

[Dov'sMom]

Originally Posted by MamaJamie

I will definitely not be having a baby anywhere near this place again! I went in today for my checkup (39w4d). I had my 3 yo ds with me. After waiting 40 minutes I asked to reschedule and was told that was not a possibility. Either I wait for the doctor or they wouldn't schedule me any more appointments. That sounded kinda nice, but it'd been a few weeks since I'd been so I wanted to check on kiddo's heart rate. We waited another hour before being seen by a new doctor. Apparently my doctor has left--for good. So glad someone told me.

I'm honestly not sure this woman has ever delivered a baby (either herself or as a doctor). I'm not entirely comfortable with that. I know everyone has to start somewhere, but she and I just do not agree on anything. I've only gained ten pounds this pregnancy and she insisted that was too many and I should really be exercising more (I'm not hugely obese, 5'4" 185, but definitely not small either). I understand the importance of exercise, but geez, I obviously have been and have been eating semi-well or I would have gained more weight, right?

Then she said she was going to do an internal and I told her I didn't want one. She insisted that it would "help speed things up." She completely did not understand when I told her I wasn't trying to speed anything up that the baby would come when SHE was ready not when I was. Then she told me that since I had an epidural with my last labor I had to have one with this one. WTF???? I don't see how one affects the other and plan to do this as naturally as possible. So she did the internal anyway and holy cow was it freaking painful! Luckily I had my son to concentrate on or I probably would have cried. I have no idea what in the world she was doing in there (probably "accidentally" stripping my membraned) then when she was done she said "I tried as hard as I could but I could only squeeze about one finger in there." Um, remember when I said I wasn't trying to have this baby until she's ready? Why are you trying to squeeze anything in anywhere!

Then came the worst part (IMO). I've got a depression issue and have been on meds for it for a couple years now. I did as much research as I could when I became pregnant and decided to remail on my meds during pregnancy and then try switching to Zoloft after birth as it is the least contraindicated in breastfeeding. Well, she said she refused to switch my meds. I obviously don't know what I'm talking about. She said there was absolutely no reason why I should try to breastfeed. It'd be easier on the baby and me if I just let her have formula from day one. Right. I understand it's as important to address my health issues as it is the baby's, but IMO this is going way overboard. So, I've decided to wean myself from the meds between now and when the baby is born (slowly and safely, don't worry!--I won't be done before she's born but will be soon after) in order to breastfeed. I've done the freaking research. My dh and I are very aware of my problem and what has happened to me in the past when unmedicated. I know after I recover from the birth that exercise will really, really help. I just wish I could have the support from the medical community that I need.

SO SORRY this ended up being so long! Thanks for the opportunity to rant. Let's have some healthy happy January babies!

Start making phone calls to other OBs NOW! Get recs from the Tribal Areas board, and find someone else. The whole practice sounds messed up.

[HypnoMama]

MamaJaime,
I'm so sorry you are having such a crappy experience. I'm sure if there were other options you probably would have explored them by now.. so I would make it super clear to this lady that you expect her to adhere to the RIGHT of informed consent in every single step of your care and to present her with a birth plan at your next appt. I hope you can get the experience you want.


As for me, 40w 4 days and counting. I had a midwife appt that was rather exciting today. Ive been having some really big movement which is totally uncharacteristic for my lazy baby. When the midwife checked the heartbeat we werent able to get it via doppler or fetoscope at its normal position, baby was moving during the whole time.. so I wasnt worried. However, we did finally get it up at the top of my uterus, which as pretty concerning that the heart had somehow migrated to baby's butt.

Since Im planning a homebirth and live a bit away from the hospital we decided to go ahead and do a u/s. Thank God baby is still head down and everything looks great. Fluid, size.. yay. The prospect of a C-section was not amusing to me at all.

[southernmommie]

I'm ready to lie down!

On good side... I just got my shipment that had my cloth diapers and my laundry detergent for them! Yay! I love cloth diapers!! Especially these! My DD is a HEAVY wetter during the night and can easily go through 2 regular disposable diapers in one night. I had one of these on her and she made it through the whole night without her butt being wet or the bed! Yay! I'm hooked on these now!

I am also expecting 2 more boxes through UPS from Amazon. I bought like 5 books and a movie! I'm so impatient! I ordered them the other day for today's delivery! I want something to read or watch!!

I'm hoping that tonights labor will either 1-> get going into the active labor stage, or 2-> not happen at all. Let's do one or the other. I'm tired of it coming and going. But I guess after reading some of the comments, I would rather have this labor and a fast delivery than the other way around! So I change that. 3-> Let it be mild enough so I can still sleep through it!!

[carmelnap]

So just a little update! Everything is fine... it wasn't my water breaking, just me having a little accident. In fact the baby is doing great. She is still head down, HR 150 bpm. So I am glad!! I would rather have her bake some more than be outside just yet.

On the other hand I have finally started feeling these braxton hicks contractions especially when I walk, and I am not liking them to much.

[ollineeba]

MamaJaime- find another care provider NOW. Seriously.. it's not too late and this woman sounds like an inept moron. Keep us posted!

[ollineeba]

38w4d here. Nothing new to report.. baby is LOA and is engaged in my pelvis (yay!). Saw the mw today and everything looks good.
She gave me some WishGarden Late Pregnancy tonic- it smells horrible so I'm not sure that I'm going to try it, but I'll think about it at least.
I'm pretty sure it's going to be at least another week or so here, but that's ok. DH and I are going on a date tomorrow night and I'm really looking forward to that. I don't know when it will happen again!

[desert_mommi]

My mom arrived today, I got my diaper pail liners yesterday, and my order for nursing tops came from motherwear today! Yippee.
Now, all I need is a baby.
38wks 2 days today.
I am feeling really uncomfortable and saw the midwife today. She reassured me that third kid is different from kid one and kid two, everything is perfectly normal. She even told me that if walking doesn't feel good right now that is okay to just listen to my body. I think I really needed to hear that one. I walked everyday with the other two and right now, sometimes walking across the house I have to stop and rest or get down on my hands and knees for a minute to get the babe off some nerve or other.
I was sort of freaking that the kid was in a bad position but we're good to go. Yay.
She said now that grandma is here we should go out and have some alone time together. Sounds good to me!~ My mom even said she'd pay for us to go to dinner. She rocks!

Chris

[amandamac]

Hello, new to this, but due Jan 08

Hello, Everyone,

I've enjoyed reading your messages. I am due January 22, 2008, and have been a big fan of Mothering magazine for the past 4 years...learned a lot. I'm looking forward to a natural birth and attachement parenting. I can't wait to log in a read the updates, and will post when our little one arrives. I wish you all the best!!!

It's so nice to be able to connect with other mamas

Warmest Wishes,



Amanda&BabyMac

ps. Hello Leah!!!

[othersomethings]

Originally Posted by amandamac

ps. Hello Leah!!!

ha ha...see, I knew you'd find me somewhere!

Don't lurk any more, start posting! Check out the belly pics thread and the birth announcements (some of them have pictures already, it's awesome!)

[a22lamia]

Todays my due date!

MamaJamie I will be thinking of you, hopefully things will work out so she is not the person attending your birth.

All in all I'm feeling pretty well. I definitely am still in the process of losing my mucous plug. In addition I've had painless, irregular contractions all day - here's hoping they turn into something more substantial soon! I can't wait to meet this little one.

Its nice to read all of the updates.

[southernmommie]

All I can say is OUCH!! I went to get on to one of my dogs for being somewhere where she shouldn't have been and I pulled a groin muscle for barely lifting my leg!! I can't walk now and it hurts to crawl! UGH!! OWIE!!

[Demeter_shima]

Originally Posted by MamaJamie

I'm honestly not sure this woman has ever delivered a baby (either herself or as a doctor). I'm not entirely comfortable with that. I know everyone has to start somewhere, but she and I just do not agree on anything. I've only gained ten pounds this pregnancy and she insisted that was too many and I should really be exercising more (I'm not hugely obese, 5'4" 185, but definitely not small either). I understand the importance of exercise, but geez, I obviously have been and have been eating semi-well or I would have gained more weight, right?

Just to coment on the weight thing; I was somewhere like, 170 (at 5'4") before pregnancy...and I've gained almost 40 lbs. I honestly don't know where other than baby...some in my legs and chest..but I'm not any fatter to anyone else. Some people don't get that weight is about fat ratio more than "weight". At 165 my doctor told me I should loose 5 lbs...and I'd be fine. That was a lot better than the 35+lbs Cosmo would have me loose! I'm not flabby and I have a lot of muscle too. ANYWAY...my midwife has made no inclination that I am "over" what I "should" be, even though I was told by a previous physisian that I should try not to gain more than 25lbs in pregnancy. I was not about to be neurotic when a baby's life is more important. I followed cravings and I am MORE active than my hubby would have me be.
At 10lbs...you are FINE...in fact I'm surprise they didn't show concearn for too LITTLE wieght! I LOST almost 10 lbs in month one and then gained it back in the growth.
BEST OF LUCK!

[my kidlets and me]

Ugh, MamaJamie - get the heck out of there.

[Surfacing]

Originally Posted by Demeter_shima

Just to coment on the weight thing; I was somewhere like, 170 (at 5'4") before pregnancy...and I've gained almost 40 lbs. I honestly don't know where other than baby...some in my legs and chest..but I'm not any fatter to anyone else. Some people don't get that weight is about fat ratio more than "weight". At 165 my doctor told me I should loose 5 lbs...and I'd be fine. That was a lot better than the 35+lbs Cosmo would have me loose! I'm not flabby and I have a lot of muscle too. [...]
At 10lbs...you are FINE...in fact I'm surprise they didn't show concearn for too LITTLE wieght!

I was going to comment on the same thing but forgot.
MamaJamie - I too am 5'4" and started this PG at 162 lbs. My MW wrote I have a normal BMI. I am up to 210 lbs. now. My midwife who is the same height as me told me she went waaaay over 210 lbs. with her pregnancies. I too am surprised the doctor didn't register CONCERN over your gaining too little weight! Don't worry Mama, you're in fine company!
Demeter Shima - I KWYM about being above your BMI but being muscular etc. I danced for 25 yrs before dd was born and had always been at the top of the range of "normal"...or a little over... but believe me, I could kick some serious cardio and endurance @$$, and had always been muscular. (Notice how I put that in the past tense now. )

[Surfacing]

Originally Posted by HypnoMama

When the midwife checked the heartbeat we werent able to get it via doppler or fetoscope at its normal position, baby was moving during the whole time.. so I wasnt worried. However, we did finally get it up at the top of my uterus, which as pretty concerning that the heart had somehow migrated to baby's butt.

Do you think what you heard was the heartrate through the umbilical cord?

[HardCoreMom]

yay for me. i got my new pfs and doublers prepped today. now all i have to do is wash my used KL0s a few times, and i think they'll be ready to go. gotta lanolize soakers.

and still have to pack for the hospital. aargh. i'm SO dragging my feet on that.

for now- sleep...

hope everyone gets a good night's rest, and that any babies out there sit tight till the morning, when we have more energy to birth them!

thinking of you all!
hcm

[hadassah]

I have been feeling "off" for two days now. I can't quite explain it. Today I feel very frustrated with everyone. I see my house as a place where I cannot have the baby in because it is too cluttered (although really truly it isn't THAT bad), so I have been cleaning like mad which is so hard due to bending over. Now on top of everything I am so very emotional and really need to go cry.

Sometimes I feel very alone.....well I guess we are alone in preparing our minds before going into labor. Anyways that is how I feel, like I have so much to do and I am doing it alone.....and yet I know I am not, it just feels that way....am I making sense? I always have a point where I get very emotional during labor.

So I am thinking I am very very close...........I am 39wks today.