I'm so sorry you are having such a crappy experience. I'm sure if there were other options you probably would have explored them by now.. so I would make it super clear to this lady that you expect her to adhere to the RIGHT of informed consent in every single step of your care and to present her with a birth plan at your next appt. I hope you can get the experience you want.
As for me, 40w 4 days and counting. I had a midwife appt that was rather exciting today. Ive been having some really big movement which is totally uncharacteristic for my lazy baby. When the midwife checked the heartbeat we werent able to get it via doppler or fetoscope at its normal position, baby was moving during the whole time.. so I wasnt worried. However, we did finally get it up at the top of my uterus, which as pretty concerning that the heart had somehow migrated to baby's butt.
Since Im planning a homebirth and live a bit away from the hospital we decided to go ahead and do a u/s. Thank God baby is still head down and everything looks great. Fluid, size.. yay. The prospect of a C-section was not amusing to me at all.