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post #41 of 55
Up until yesterday at my baby shower, the only comment that had gotten to me was "You don't look big enough to be xxx months along." At first, it made me feel bad/scared, like I wasn't eating enough protein for my baby. But then, at every prenatal appt, I found out I'm measuring right on schedule. So I've started responding to that with "My midwife says I'm measuring perfectly for xxx months." Pretty much shuts people up.

But at my baby shower yesterday, I got the most bizarre comment yet. A co-worker was saying good-bye at the end of the shower, and we were talking about when I'm due.

She scrunched up her shoulders and got a really nervous/anxious look on her face and said "I hope everything goes okay..."

All I could say in response was "Yeah, me too!"

What a weird thing to say. This woman is pretty weird in general, so I shouldn't be surprised. I can only guess that she meant I don't die in labor or something horrible like that? Jeez.
post #42 of 55
I used to think it was the hormones that made pregnant women cranky.
post #43 of 55
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Originally Posted by bigeyes View Post
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How the hell did they get Rory from Lorelai? I guess that makes even less sense than Meg for Margaret.

that would make a funny ddddc if only people wouldn't misinterpret it.


Yeah, according to her Rory is short for Lorelai. She claims that's "common knowledge" so even if I'm not a fan of Gilmore Girls, I should know. I couldn't find any name etymology websites that have Rory as the shortened from of Loreali. Someone I know who's a huge GG fan said that even in the show they don't claim it is- the girl's name is Lorelai, like her mom, but as a toddler she couldn't say it and it came out sounding like Rory, so she ended up with that as a nickname.

So yeah. SHE doesn't even know what she's talking about, but I'm supposed to!

Of course, same "friend" also gossips about me behind my back all the time and is very anti-Catholic and anti-homeschooling (and thinks we're irresponsible with our money and about to lose our house, neither of which is even remotely true) so it's not much of a loss, honestly. She's pretty two-faced. :
post #44 of 55
I dont go out much so I dont hear anything too often, but the "wow you look huge" doesnt bother me a bit, i think because i havent gained any weight...

The one thing i do get, is people often ask me "How much have you gained?" like, would you ask a NON pregnant person that? lol! Then they get a SHOCKED look on their face when i say 4 pounds, and since my grandfather is usually around at the point (family gatherings) he will pipe in with "Yeah and she eats like a HORSE! Big Macs and fries every day" well yeah, i did when you were buying me lunch, but i dont now that i dont have a JOB, lol!

but i think it doesnt bother me because i havent gained anything that i know all my hugeness is baby, lol.
post #45 of 55
I got one today for the first time from DH. It was "Boy that dress makes you look huge from the side". Well anything makes me look huge from the side.
post #46 of 55
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Originally Posted by snozzberry View Post
She scrunched up her shoulders and got a really nervous/anxious look on her face and said "I hope everything goes okay..."

All I could say in response was "Yeah, me too!"

What a weird thing to say. This woman is pretty weird in general, so I shouldn't be surprised. I can only guess that she meant I don't die in labor or something horrible like that? Jeez.

I got a comment like this from a coworker too. This coworker's wife had a c/s for a failed induction and it was probably scary for both of them. I just assume it is part of the birth is dangerous mindset.
post #47 of 55
"Wow, you're really huge!"
Gee, thanks, I've gained all of 20 lbs...how huge did you think I was before I got pregnant??

"Are you sure you aren't having twins?"
Ya know, it is possible that we just completely missed one on the ultrasound...but I don't think so...

"I don't care what your doctor said, you're definitely having that baby any day now!"

...that last comment is my personal favorite, because at the time I still had 10 weeks left to go. And I happen to BE a doctor, and it was a patient who was insisting that my dates were off. Um, no - not that it's any of your business, lady, but we practice FAM and I know the day I ovulated and the day of implantation. So I'm actually extremely confident of my dates...but why on earth would you assume that YOUR OWN DOCTOR is too stupid to figure out when her baby is due?? :
post #48 of 55
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So I'm actually extremely confident of my dates...but why on earth would you assume that YOUR OWN DOCTOR is too stupid to figure out when her baby is due?? :
My doc kept insisting my baby was due several weeks later than he was. I knew the instant I got pregnant, and I delivered exactly 40 weeks from that night. I had a second OB who made the same mistake, because they don't believe you could possibly have a clue yourself. Most doctors don't listen to their patients all that well in my experience.

I don't think anyone should assume that anyone else has no clue about when they are due, yk?
post #49 of 55
Oh! Doctormom! I misread your post. I thought you said you didn't understand why anyone would think your doctor wouldn't know when you were due!
post #50 of 55
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My doc kept insisting my baby was due several weeks later than he was. I knew the instant I got pregnant, and I delivered exactly 40 weeks from that night. I had a second OB who made the same mistake, because they don't believe you could possibly have a clue yourself. Most doctors don't listen to their patients all that well in my experience.

I don't think anyone should assume that anyone else has no clue about when they are due, yk?
I've had that too...kind've...I know exactly when we conceived this baby, cause we don't DTD all that frequently, we were TTC, so I was taking OPTs daily...I know the exact date and time, to the minute, when this baby was conceived. I also know my cycle length for the 3 prior cycles, and it wasn't 28 days.

I've still had to argue with my doctors at EVERY APPOINTMENT about my dates, even though I'm measuring DEAD on for *MY* date, and *big* for THEIR dates.

The first time this happened, actually, I had just gotten through saying that I knew TO THE MINUTE when this baby was conceived, and the doctor told me I needed to schedule an ultrasound to get an accurate due date. Because, you know, I wasn't THERE when I got pregnant!!!!
post #51 of 55
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I've had that too...kind've...I know exactly when we conceived this baby, cause we don't DTD all that frequently, we were TTC, so I was taking OPTs daily...I know the exact date and time, to the minute, when this baby was conceived. I also know my cycle length for the 3 prior cycles, and it wasn't 28 days.

I've still had to argue with my doctors at EVERY APPOINTMENT about my dates, even though I'm measuring DEAD on for *MY* date, and *big* for THEIR dates.

The first time this happened, actually, I had just gotten through saying that I knew TO THE MINUTE when this baby was conceived, and the doctor told me I needed to schedule an ultrasound to get an accurate due date. Because, you know, I wasn't THERE when I got pregnant!!!!


exactly. nobody ever believes anything you say when it comes to sex, I've found. In my case, I had just broken up with a live in bf, and had literally not had sex for months when I got pregnant. The second time I dtd with bio-dad I got a psychic flash that said I just got pregnant, and exactly 30 days later the doc hooked up the sonogram without a pregnancy test, yet at the next appointment he estimated me several weeks further along than I could possibly be. :

Yeah, cuz I was gettin' it so often I forgot.
post #52 of 55
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I used to think it was the hormones that made pregnant women cranky.


My sister (who I totally jive with) asked me at dinner, in front of my husband and her boyfriend: "How much weight have you gained?" I laughed at her and said she shouldn't ever, ever ask another pregnant woman that question, especially in the company we were in. Silly.

Trin.
post #53 of 55
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exactly. nobody ever believes anything you say when it comes to sex, I've found. In my case, I had just broken up with a live in bf, and had literally not had sex for months when I got pregnant. The second time I dtd with bio-dad I got a psychic flash that said I just got pregnant, and exactly 30 days later the doc hooked up the sonogram without a pregnancy test, yet at the next appointment he estimated me several weeks further along than I could possibly be. :

Yeah, cuz I was gettin' it so often I forgot.
The same with me! My doctor just WOULD NOT believe I could possibly know my dates. I knew the moment I conceived. I had had an ovarian pregnancy, so while I was being treated, I didn't have sex even once for three months. Then, I went in for one last ultrasound to make sure everything was out of my womb. It was empty. Two days later I TTC and that was the ONLY time I had sex those months. One week later, got a negative preg test. Two weeks later and still no more sex, I got a positive. Ten weeks later I was trying to convince my doctor I was exactly 12 weeks pregnant. He didn't believe me and even accused me of lying because I wouldn't let him give me an ultrasound! :
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post #55 of 55
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Originally Posted by amberskyfire View Post
The same with me! My doctor just WOULD NOT believe I could possibly know my dates. I knew the moment I conceived. I had had an ovarian pregnancy, so while I was being treated, I didn't have sex even once for three months. Then, I went in for one last ultrasound to make sure everything was out of my womb. It was empty. Two days later I TTC and that was the ONLY time I had sex those months. One week later, got a negative preg test. Two weeks later and still no more sex, I got a positive. Ten weeks later I was trying to convince my doctor I was exactly 12 weeks pregnant. He didn't believe me and even accused me of lying because I wouldn't let him give me an ultrasound! :
And people, if they do believe you, will think you are a loon. I had been told I was sterile something like 14 years previous, so I freaked. Bio-dad had no clue why I was acting so weird until years later when I told him about it. I couldn't wait to call my clairvoyant friend to ask if I was imagining things. It wasn't quite like this: Go home, I have to make an important call!
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