I have had it up to HERE...

[mytwogirls]

Well today is not going so good. In fact the past few weeks have not been good. My soon to be two year old has been on my last nerve for awhile and I completely lost it with her today. She won't take a nap, won't sleep past 5:30 a.m. (she goes to sleep at 8 p.m.) and she yells, kicks, screams, shrieks and does whatever the hell it takes to make noise so my six month old can't take naps. Therefore I have two screaming kids on my hands most of the day. I stay at home and right now the weather has been so crappy I can't get out. I am stuck home ALL day and ALL night and it is driving me completely out of my mind. My husband put the icing on the cake when he just couldn't understand why I had to yell at her . I told him I had listened to her cry, tried everything under the sun to help her and I had had enough. I do not like yelling, but my God, I have my limits. So now that I have my two year old and my husband ticked off at me, I just feel like crap. I am still recovering from a hysterectomy due to placenta accreta so I am trying to deal with that on top of a very difficult toddler. Why, why why does she have to be so damn difficult ALLLLLLLL the time. I swear she waits until I put the youngest one down for a nap, just so she can start screaming ( I know she is not really doing it on purpose, but it sure feels that way sometimes.) I guess I just need to vent.

[cmom80]

Mine has been doing that lately, and it turned out she had an ear infection!

Maybe she just needs some one on one time with mama? (Not implying that you haven't tried that... just a suggestion)

[tylerdylan]

Sounds like you need a few hours to yourself!!! When I've had a bad day (mine are 6 months old and almost 3) my husband will take the kids over to his parents house and I get some me time. My DH fully admits he cannot handle the kids on his own (which is why he takes them to his parents to deal with) and is surprised at how well I keep my cool with them. I think maybe your DH needs to spend more time on his own taking care of your kids so he can understand better what you go through in a day and be more supportive. Go shopping or something for a few hours and let him deal with them. Believe me a few hours break helps you refuel so you can handle them again with a clear head.

[WannabeaFarmer]

Originally Posted by tylerdylan

Sounds like you need a few hours to yourself!!! When I've had a bad day (mine are 6 months old and almost 3) my husband will take the kids over to his parents house and I get some me time. My DH fully admits he cannot handle the kids on his own (which is why he takes them to his parents to deal with) and is surprised at how well I keep my cool with them. I think maybe your DH needs to spend more time on his own taking care of your kids so he can understand better what you go through in a day and be more supportive. Go shopping or something for a few hours and let him deal with them. Believe me a few hours break helps you refuel so you can handle them again with a clear head.

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Exactly my thought. We were both kinda strung out so we did hire a sitter and left the house for dinner out-just the two of us. But I agree about maybe having your DH take the kids out for awhile so you can relax a bit. Even if its just for a short time....I started out by asking DP to take his "turn" for 30minutes and he took DD out for a walk. Then we grew to a routine from there where he would take her once a week out so I could get some "me" time. I am a much better person now because of it.

[mytwogirls]

I think I might have my DH do just that. He doesn't understand what goes on in this house all day while he is at work. I love him to death and he is a great husband and father, but seriously it just gets tiring after a while. Both girls are attached at the hip to me so I feel really really bad leaving them because they throw such a fit, but I guess I need to do something because I HATE snapping at them, especially my oldest. Both are teething at the same time (woo hoo!) so they are extra crabby and it just gets to me sometimes. Glad I am not the only one.

[mytwogirls]

UPDATE: Ok, last night when my husband got home, he told me to get outta the house and take some time off, Yeah me! I was gone for about an hour or so. When I got back all hell had broken loose! The girls were going crazy and he looked as if he had been through a tornado. I calmed everyone down, nursed the youngest and put her to sleep and then finally had time to take a shower. When I got out of the shower, my husband said, "Now I know what you are talking about. They can be a challenge!" (DUH!) At least he now knows what goes on. He is very understanding anyway, and helps out a lot, but it feels good to know he realizes what I go through during the day. I just wanted to share with you all.

[pbjmama]

I'm glad you got some time for yourself, you deserve it. Maybe you can schedule regular time - an hour a week isn't much to ask. I'm glad your dh got the idea of what you are going through too. Take care of yourself, mama. We put ourselves last too often.

[Seedlings]

I am so sorry your going thru this.

My youngest ds was not a napper or sleeper. Could you go for a car ride around her nap time to see if she will fall asleep? I am in Illinois so it is cold here too. But could you bundle them up and walk around outside for a bit to tire her out? I do this even now and my kids love it. No one else may be out but we just do it .

I remember how hard it was for me when I had a baby and a toddler so : for you all to get thru this winter. Try to show your older dd lots of love and affection.

[forest~mama]

mama!
I hear you on this! I'm glad you got out. That's what helps me when I'm so overwhelmed.

[D_McG]

sounds like a vicious circle. If your 2 year old is only sleeping 9.5 hours with no nap then she must be frazzled and overtired which is probably the source of the behavioral issues. : I hope it passes soon.

[mytwogirls]

Yes, she needs a nap. The problem is she WON'T take one. And you can lead a toddler to a bed, but you can't make her sleep. I just wish we could get along better. I feel like all I do is re-direct her away from everything. She is teething which plays a HUGE roll in her attitude lately. I know one thing..it was great to get out last night..it has been a LOOOONNNGG time since I got some me time. I just need to take a deep breath and try to stay calm while dealing with her.

[chfriend]

"Sleepless in America" has a chapter on toddlers.