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post #81 of 110
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shamelessly bumping my own thread...thanks everybody. I did a google search about weddings on a shoestring and they all listed tuxes and wedding gowns and caterers as "must-haves" okay then...

so you guys have been my only creative source plus indiebride. Thanks for all the suggestions and if you have any more i would greatly appreciate them.

Cheers
post #82 of 110
oh of course they did, they have sponsers who advertise and those just happen to be those types of companys!

dh never had a tux, he used a suit he had. My gown was a waste of time and i wish I had never got it, we just finished paying the debt off on it. It wasnt "the one" and it was far to expensive. I think i woud have been happier in a nice dressy dress i could have got at the store.

and catering, thats in the eye of the beholder.... imo doing your own food is catering and the pizza delivery guy is your caterer
post #83 of 110
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imo doing your own food is catering and the pizza delivery guy is your caterer
and we are doing pick-up..it'll save us $5...:
post #84 of 110
Wow, this is our plan: stop by the court house on his lunch break. Then, celebrate with our respective families seperately whenever we see them next.

We are so NOT romantic, lol. And my post was probably so unhelpful. But, hey, our way is VERY cost effective.

Our only other idea (again, we're not romantic or sentimental at all) was to go to the court house with his parents and my mom. Then go out to a local restaurant to celebrate. And, obviously, no one would let the newlyweds pay. Then, dessert back at home (I love to bake). Honeymoon in our bedroom that night, lol.
post #85 of 110
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Wow, this is our plan: stop by the court house on his lunch break. Then, celebrate with our respective families seperately whenever we see them next.

We are so NOT romantic, lol. And my post was probably so unhelpful. But, hey, our way is VERY cost effective.

Our only other idea (again, we're not romantic or sentimental at all) was to go to the court house with his parents and my mom. Then go out to a local restaurant to celebrate. And, obviously, no one would let the newlyweds pay. Then, dessert back at home (I love to bake). Honeymoon in our bedroom that night, lol.
Sounds like a plan

We are a "bit" romantic. But practical too. We just don't want to spend money on a "wedding' but we want to have a celebration.

Dh and I haven't finalized anything because he's away so much. We may put this off until the fall.

But it's fun planning!
post #86 of 110
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Honeymoon in our bedroom that night, lol.
oh yeah, we had our honeymoon at home as well, we did book a hotel for the day after christmas, but it seemed stupid to spend hundreds of dollars at a local hotel when we could do that at home in our bed. so we used our money more wisely on a nice trip to gameworks
post #87 of 110
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oh yeah, we had our honeymoon at home as well, we did book a hotel for the day after christmas, but it seemed stupid to spend hundreds of dollars at a local hotel when we could do that at home in our bed. so we used our money more wisely on a nice trip to gameworks
I am kind of hoping someone offers...but we are not going to pay for a night out alone...plus...dunno if I could leave the little one although she doesn't nurse at night anymore. Maybe at the Inn down the street.

We have been together almost 7 years...have had one night in a hotel together alone when his cousin got married. It was kinda fun.

We are travelling to our home province this summer..I hope we get a bit of time alone there...all the grandparents and siblings will be available to babysit.
post #88 of 110
We had our wedding at a place nearby that is an indoor butterfly garden. It was pretty cheap and since it was a garden I didn't have to worry about decorating. My parents' friend took the pictures. I wanted to bake the cake but my mom insisted on buying me one from a professional.
Also I have the cookbook Horn of the Moon and in the back it has ideas for planning the food for a wedding.
post #89 of 110
we did our own photos, and we got 2 cakes from the store, one chocolate round one for cutting, we added our own decorations, and a sheet cake that we also decorated.
post #90 of 110
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I'm gonna do my own cake too...that cake looks so yummy! it's really nice!
post #91 of 110
my favorite budget wedding that I attended we call "the surprise wedding."
Our next door neighbors invited us to a picnic at the park and asked us to bring our croquet set. They had other people bring other things, had collected mismatched champagne flutes from thrift stores and after we'd all been there awhile and eaten and played announced that they were getting married. They had the licence and someone to officiate and did it right then. None of the guest knew it was going to be a wedding!! It was a lot of fun and very relaxed.
post #92 of 110
Just want to add some comment about wedding rings. Plain bands are reasonably priced. The problem is usually white metal. If you're a white metal girl and don't want to pay for platinum bands, beware that almost all white gold ones out there are plated. So the shiny white color would wear off and the ring would start to look yellow. Lots of people don't like a semi-yellow band and get it replated every year or two. It doesn't cost too much, but can add up over the years. White gold might also contain nickel. I recently discovered palladium rings are as white as platinum, hypoallergenic, and as cheap as gold rings. They're worth considering if you like white metals.
post #93 of 110
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Just want to add some comment about wedding rings. Plain bands are reasonably priced. The problem is usually white metal. If you're a white metal girl and don't want to pay for platinum bands, beware that almost all white gold ones out there are plated. So the shiny white color would wear off and the ring would start to look yellow. Lots of people don't like a semi-yellow band and get it replated every year or two. It doesn't cost too much, but can add up over the years. White gold might also contain nickel. I recently discovered palladium rings are as white as platinum, hypoallergenic, and as cheap as gold rings. They're worth considering if you like white metals.
Thanks for the tip. good point.

I think gold colour gold can also contain nickel...I can't wear 10k but can wear 14k. I am getting yellow gold bands. They are 14k. My ring I am getting set with the ruby is 14k yellow gold.

I ordered a 14k white gold ring of ebay that has an aquamarine in it...the white is still white..guess I got lucky!

I like the look of titanium and stainless steel too. But I think we are going with the standard yellow gold rings. Plain flat bands.

I do love white gold and most of my current jewellry is white so it might be nice to have something different for the wedding rings.

I have noticed that every wedding/engagement ring I see now seems to be white gold or platinum..must be a trend.
post #94 of 110
First, Congratulations!!!!
We did a traditional, formal, but small (~50 guests, all family) wedding in a resort town far away from where we were living for about $10,000. That included a sit down meal, my wedding dress, DJ, and lodging for a weekend - all the trappings the Wedding Industrial Complex says you need. We had to take some serious shortcuts to reach that budget, a few things that we did:
1. Make your own invitations - I bought really nice handmade paper with wildflower seeds in it, cut it to size and printed out the invitations on vellum, attached it all with the same ribbon that we used for the favors. It sounds like you are going the make your own invites route already, have fun getting creative with it. There is a ton you can do with a hole punch, ribbon, and vellum. It was fun!
2. This is the one I think you might be interested in...I bought a bunch of fabric, I choose raw silk, but you can do whatever, and made big table runners, then I used the same fabric to make curtains and a pillow out of later. It was really easy, I just tacked up the edges. And now I have a piece of my wedding in my house.
3. We found a local winery and bought in bulk, we got a 10% discount, plus the discount just from buying direct. We did the same for sparkling wine, but we got married near wine country, so it was available. I know you're in Canada, so ymmv.
4. Candles!!!!! Candles make great decorations, and you can use them later. They are super cheap. If you have an import store nearby, you can find some a couple extra special items to dress them up, but we used simple tea light candles in plane votive holders. I think Micheal's craft stores sells them for less than 50 cents each.

We did lots of other things with favors and the ceremony location, but I see that you have already decided on those items.
Enjoy planning it all with you soon to be DH, it is really fun!
post #95 of 110
While our reception was somewhat traditional, we didn't have a cake or flowers. No one noticed or remembers. Instead of a cake, we had popcorn and cotton candy (carnival theme). I don't care much for cut flowers and couldn't imagine myself carrying around a bouquet all night. We had balloons to decorate instead. Flowers are really one of the most expensive parts of a wedding, and at least at my wedding, no one noticed they weren't there!
post #96 of 110
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Originally Posted by Poddi View Post
Just want to add some comment about wedding rings. Plain bands are reasonably priced. The problem is usually white metal. If you're a white metal girl and don't want to pay for platinum bands, beware that almost all white gold ones out there are plated. So the shiny white color would wear off and the ring would start to look yellow. Lots of people don't like a semi-yellow band and get it replated every year or two. It doesn't cost too much, but can add up over the years. White gold might also contain nickel. I recently discovered palladium rings are as white as platinum, hypoallergenic, and as cheap as gold rings. They're worth considering if you like white metals.
I have a palladium engagement ring and I love it It's a little bit of a softer metal than platinum or white gold, but it's affordable and it doesn't need re-coating like white gold!
post #97 of 110
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palladium..where did you get that? I see titanium and stainless steel. Off to google
post #98 of 110
(Warning: longer than it should be!)

I haven't read all of the replies, so forgive me if I repeat anything :

*We used very few flowers. My bouquet was made of white and green carnations, which I put together the morning of the ceremony. The only other flowers we used were irises from the yard. Those were given to our mothers and grandmothers during the ceremony. Total: <$15

*We made our own cake. 3-layer, columns, all of that. We really didn't need such a big thing, and I wish we has just kept it at 2 layers. We could have made a 2-layer one for probably $30. The biggest thing to get "the professional look" is to freeze the cake before icing it, so that little flecks of cake don't get into the white frosting. The was especially true for us, since we colored our cake emerald green. Total: about $50 and a lot of time. Trust me and don't try the 3rd layer.

*For the cake topper, we chose one of those Willow Tree figures. It actually looks nice on the shelf at home, and fit our theme better than a white-plastic-and-lace thing.

*We got married at my aunt's house, on her deck in March. All of our ceremony decorations (a white metal arch and a lattice backdrop) were borrowed. For the receptions (indoors), we borrowed 3 tables and white tablecloths (borrowing was the key, lol). The central table was for the cake, another was for the punch, snacks, and favors, and the 3rd was filled with photos of us. My aunt also decorated her fireplace mantle, and total indoors I think we spent maybe $20, mostly on white candles. The rest of the decorations were photos we already owned (in our own or borrowed frames) and small items my grandmother lent us (like green glass candleholders she had received for her wedding 50 years ago).

*I did buy a dress that was way too expensive. Originally, I had bought a white prom dress on clearance ($20), but it barely fit when I bought it, and then I gained about 5 lbs. It was enough weight to make the dress fit poorly, and I ended up spending (eek!) $350 on a dress. It was totally not worth it, and my biggest regret about the entire thing.

*Tuxes seemed too formal for us, so DH wore dress pants and a homemade shirt. It was made with a man's dress shirt pattern, but we added turned-back cuffs and his grandmother made a panel so that the buttons were hidden. It was made of crinkled white fabric trimmed in gold-and-green trim we bought online, worn untucked. I LOVED it. Total cost (including shoes): about $60.

*We had an afternoon ceremony so no one expected a meal. We served cake, punch, ranch crackers (soup crackers flavored with ranch mix), and chocolates we melted and poured into themed molds. Molds can be bought on ebay for about $2-4 each. We used Celtic knots and Claddagh rings, but you could get flowers, doves, etc.

*Our rings are sterling silver. I have hated yellow gold since I was 12, and white gold was too pricey. We settled on silver, and I am so glad we did. I don't know why people assume wedding rings *must* be gold? There are a lot of "poesy" rings availible online, with love-sayings in Irish Gaelic, Latin, Hebrew, etc, which are meaningful and inexpensive. I love ours. Total cost: about $100 for both rings.

That's all I can think of right now... I think our wedding totaled about $1,000 including rings, dress, paying the officiant, purchasing books to help us write the ceremony, etc. I really wish I had just made a dress, and cut the guest list from 50 down to around 30. We could have easily squeezed by for $500 that way.
post #99 of 110
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palladium..where did you get that? I see titanium and stainless steel. Off to google
I got mine at our local jewelry store. They offered it as an option then tried to discourage me from it, as it *is* a bit softer and may not wear quite as well over time. But if it does wear out in 20, 30, 40 years, we'll just have my stones re-set in something else. I did not want the price of platinum, or to have to constantly recoat a white gold ring
post #100 of 110
My wedding was split between Really Expensive and Really Not. All of the Really Expensive portions were possible because of my parents-in-law & their connections.

Here's where I scrimped:

1) We got married on a bridge in the rainforest in Puerto Rico. No fee for using the site, but we couldn't set up anything and we couldn't disallow other people from being in the area. No problem! A group of about 12 sightseers watched our ceremony from a respectful distance. They actually outnumbered our invited family members!

2) On that note, we kept it small--immediate family only.

3) My dress was $99 from David's Bridal. I'm not a David's Bridal kind of girl as a general rule, but struck out when I tried to get a non-bridal cute white dress in my size (which was about an 18 at the time).

4) We skipped decorations because the rainforest was beautiful without augmentation.

5) We took our 10 guests out to supper at a fancy-schmancy restaurant, which was spendy but much, much less so than renting an equivalently-nice reception space and hiring caterers (plus hidden costs of renting dishes and the like). We also skipped having a cake.

So, yeah, my suggestions would be to find a lovely outdoor space (free or cheap), keep things small, and making a large reservation for supper rather than having a conventional reception.
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