I keep forgetting to drag out our little portable swing. Ds2 didnt like it, but I think dd2 might, and it would be such a relief to me to have some place--other than ON ME--that she'd be willing to stay for a few minutes! So count me in as one of the "neglect-o-matic" proponents, LOL! And totally guilt-free about it, too!
Karen, have you tried colic tablets? I don't have much else to offer in the way of advice...our babies haven't really been fussy, just not interested in sleeping when I really need them to, KWIM?
But a friend of mine had major issues with 2 of her dds and the colic tablets (along with slinging, vacuum noise, and many other desperate measures!) were helpful according to her. Didn't solve the fussiness, but brought it down a notch, KWIM? Which, you know, might be the best you can hope for sometimes....
I don't mean that in a discouraging way, just that there may not be a magic pill, so finding some things that help a bit (and a big one here is making sure you get a break once in awhile, to save your sanity!), and then focusing on that tiny bit of relief might help you to deal with things a bit more.
I dunno if that makes sense...I just know that I'm desperate for sleep right now (I have 3 other kids for heaven's sake--doesn't she understand that??
), and the only thing that's getting me through the days is focusing on the positive--she slept a half hour in her crib this morning, and the other kids slept in, so that was 30 blessed minutes that I was able to get real, refreshing sleep! Every little bit helps, yk?
Anyway, you should be able to find hyland's colic tablets at any HFS, and I've seen them at walgreens/cvs/etc. here lately.