because she yelled at & spanked her kid in front of him.
I went to my cousins house on Saturday for her dd's 7th bday party. Everyone left and it was just me, my cousin, her dd (7) & ds (5), and my ds (5). The kids were in the boys room and were playing a game. The siblings were arguing about how to play the game. My cousin goes in there and gets involved in it saying "it doesn't matter" and getting angry b/c they are arguing. Then I hear the smack. She had spanked the girl b/c "she is the oldest and she should know better than to act like this" (her words).
I get up to go see how my ds is going to react to it (the last time he saw someone get hit he cried). He seemed ok so I let them continue to play. I did tell my cousin though that I was surprised that he did not cry b/c the last time he saw someone get hit he cried and he is not used to that. She said "well, when you have 2 so close in age you have to do something". Basically saying that since I only have one I could not possibly understand.
Later she was asking my ds when he was going to stay the night with them. (not gonna happen!) He said "no, I'm not going to stay the night with you". She asked him why and he said very matter of fact "b/c I don't like you". I was stunned and my jaw dropped open. I took him into the other room and said that it's ok to feel that way but we should probably not say those things out loud b/c we might hurt peoples feelings. I asked him if he would apologize to her and he gave her a very non heartfelt "sorry". I asked him privately why he doesn't like her and he said b/c she yelled at her kids. I asked him if it was b/c of what happened in the bedroom and he said yes. Then my cousin came in and asked him why and he told her b/c she yelled at her kids. I told her that actually I think it's b/c of when she spanked her dd. Her dd was standing right there and said "she didn't spank me". Cousin said "yes I did'. Her dd didn't even remember it so therefore obviously it doesn't do ANY good!!!!!
I talked to ds later and told him I was sorry that he saw her get hit and it's never ok to hit people. It's especially never ok for adults to hit kids. He said "that's why I don't like her".
I think it's funny actually and I don't know if it's wrong or not to be ok with him saying what he said. I'm thinking now that I should not have asked him if he would apologize. I just don't know.
What do you think?
I went to my cousins house on Saturday for her dd's 7th bday party. Everyone left and it was just me, my cousin, her dd (7) & ds (5), and my ds (5). The kids were in the boys room and were playing a game. The siblings were arguing about how to play the game. My cousin goes in there and gets involved in it saying "it doesn't matter" and getting angry b/c they are arguing. Then I hear the smack. She had spanked the girl b/c "she is the oldest and she should know better than to act like this" (her words).
I get up to go see how my ds is going to react to it (the last time he saw someone get hit he cried). He seemed ok so I let them continue to play. I did tell my cousin though that I was surprised that he did not cry b/c the last time he saw someone get hit he cried and he is not used to that. She said "well, when you have 2 so close in age you have to do something". Basically saying that since I only have one I could not possibly understand.
Later she was asking my ds when he was going to stay the night with them. (not gonna happen!) He said "no, I'm not going to stay the night with you". She asked him why and he said very matter of fact "b/c I don't like you". I was stunned and my jaw dropped open. I took him into the other room and said that it's ok to feel that way but we should probably not say those things out loud b/c we might hurt peoples feelings. I asked him if he would apologize to her and he gave her a very non heartfelt "sorry". I asked him privately why he doesn't like her and he said b/c she yelled at her kids. I asked him if it was b/c of what happened in the bedroom and he said yes. Then my cousin came in and asked him why and he told her b/c she yelled at her kids. I told her that actually I think it's b/c of when she spanked her dd. Her dd was standing right there and said "she didn't spank me". Cousin said "yes I did'. Her dd didn't even remember it so therefore obviously it doesn't do ANY good!!!!!
I talked to ds later and told him I was sorry that he saw her get hit and it's never ok to hit people. It's especially never ok for adults to hit kids. He said "that's why I don't like her".
I think it's funny actually and I don't know if it's wrong or not to be ok with him saying what he said. I'm thinking now that I should not have asked him if he would apologize. I just don't know.What do you think?
for your son!
LOL
