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Originally Posted by perspective  Ok, I wanted to respond to everyone. Greg kinda talked a little about what I wanted to say. But I guess I get very defensive when I hear about wives asking their husbands to restore. For me the worst part of circumcision is the idea that someone altered your body for THEIR benefit. All of you talk about sensation, and nerves and I will never know the difference, so thats not why I am against circumcision.
So a wife trying to get her husband to restore, seems almost as bad as the circumcision itself. So I guess what I really was "saying" is "I hope he is doing this because this is something HE really wants, and not just something he has been guilted into or just a sacrifice he is making for her. Not that couples should not sacrifice for each other at times, its just circumcised men have already sacrificed so much freedom down there already.
I hope at least some of you can understand where I am coming from when I say all of this.
Blooming- The only reason I would restore, would be to feel whole again. To try and get what I never really had, a foreskin, and restore it to the way nature made the male body. Honestly I have no problems with how much sensation I have (although I know I would probably have more with a foreskin). So I would not restore because of that.
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My husband and I have forum for restoring men, and I have seen several men that are circ'ed and not restoring have the same attitude that you have. Very defensive about their penis. Very offended at the idea of a wife bringing up the idea. Every single one of those men abrubtly changed (including my husband) once they started restoring and realized the extend of the feeling that was lost.
It happens in stages:
1) Offended at the idea that something about their penis could be "fixed" could be "better"
2) Reading up on info, educating themselves on the function of the forskin towards their own body during sex, as well as toward the body of the female, becoming curious...becoming convinced, albeit skeptical
3) Trying out the idea with no expectation of any changes or success
4) Regaining a large amount of sensitivity, even just around the corona, which leads to shock at the realization of the sensations possible
5) For some, as restoring continues, and more and more sensitivity emerges, becoming extremely angry about the part of them was stolen by people who had absolutely nothing to do with their sex life
6) Becoming avid intactivists and supporters of others wishing to restore.
It sounds like to me that you have no idea what the sensations could be like. Nor do you have any idea of the grave impact that a husband's circumcision can have on the woman's body. Many problems that women complain to other women about in the bedroom have to do with the man's circumcision. (Figure out why KY jelly is booming in here in the States but doesn't sell anywhere near as well in uncirc places such as England...)Years of consistant monogamous intercourse between a woman and a man with a more aggressive circumcision can cause a woman's body enough symptoms and damage to warrant surgery.
Considering those facts, I do not think it's unfair that a woman should just let her man (who may have otherwise had no idea about the possibilities of restoration) know that the option is out there, and let him do the educating of himself (about the impact of circumcision on both his AND his woman's body). Of course, not force him, not MAKE him do it, NEVER. THAT, as you say, WOULD be akin to ric.
What I DO think would be unfair, would be for a woman to suffer in silence for years KNOWING about the possibly of restoration, with a partner who is otherwise unknowing of the sexual issues his circ is causing, or know, but not know that there is any way of relief, in the effort to "not to insult his penis"..... (sorry, starting to ramble, so I'll stop there...)
(Jumping off of soapbox...)
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