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post #21 of 40
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Michellyn, that's not too much info, but exactly what I am looking for. These inside, in-depth things help me prepare. What I am seeing is that I need to just be prepared to be flexible. I'm hoping my experience with Izzy (hated the sling and would.not.be.put.down for the first 3 months) was good preparation for constant twin holding!

One of the things I think will be obstacle to me nursing both at the same time is that I get overstimulated nursing ONE child. I usually have to do some deep breathing during let down. I wonder if that won't completely overwhelm me with both sides going? It's good to know that I can do it one at a time if that's what I need to do.
post #22 of 40
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Originally Posted by Chantelhayes View Post
One of the things I think will be obstacle to me nursing both at the same time is that I get overstimulated nursing ONE child. I usually have to do some deep breathing during let down. I wonder if that won't completely overwhelm me with both sides going? It's good to know that I can do it one at a time if that's what I need to do.
I also get overstimulated, and to be honest I never enjoyed tandeming my twins. I got used to it though, and it really was a lifesaver in those early weeks. Once they were 3-4 months old, and I could put one in a bouncy seat or under the play gym, I mostly nursed them individually.

Distraction was how I dealt with the overstimulation. I watched lots of bad daytime TV during my twins early months. And there is something to be said for looking down and seeing this: My sweet boys
post #23 of 40
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I also get overstimulated, and to be honest I never enjoyed tandeming my twins. I got used to it though, and it really was a lifesaver in those early weeks. Once they were 3-4 months old, and I could put one in a bouncy seat or under the play gym, I mostly nursed them individually.

Distraction was how I dealt with the overstimulation. I watched lots of bad daytime TV during my twins early months. And there is something to be said for looking down and seeing this: My sweet boys
Oh, aren't they PRECIOUS!

I think I need to get cable again!
post #24 of 40
I get overstimulated when tandem feeding... big hormone surge and I suddenly feel like crying, every single time!
post #25 of 40
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Oh, aren't they PRECIOUS!

I think I need to get cable again!
Thanks! And ftr, we are a no TV family now, and were for years before the boys were born, but I was an unapologetic TV watcher during those months!
post #26 of 40
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I get overstimulated when tandem feeding... big hormone surge and I suddenly feel like crying, every single time!
MamaRabbit! I totally remember those hormone surges.
post #27 of 40
I actually had the opposite experience tandem nursing them as babies. I tandem nursed them all the time until they were too big to fit on the nursing pillow. I thought it felt good to be evened out somehow-just to have both breasts emptied at once was comfortable. But now that they are toddlers I hate tandem nursing. Way too much stimulation, especially since they flop around, smack each other, switch sides, etc.
post #28 of 40
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I get overstimulated when tandem feeding... big hormone surge and I suddenly feel like crying, every single time!
Well crud, that doesn't bode well for me. I had anxiety attacks for the first 3 months while nursing my two singleton nurslings.
post #29 of 40
No, no, no, no, no, no! It is SO not true! It *is* a possiblity - SOME women run into it (just like with singletons), but it is by no means an absolute. I had a couple of obstacles in the beginning that I did not encounter with my 2 singletons: one of my babies was a sleepy nurser AND had a short frenulum - both issues were overcome w/the help of a good LLL Leader-friend, and we dealt with higher-than-you'd-like-to-see jaundice levels with both boys but I nursed them like crazy and even expressed some milk and gave them that to help clear the jaundice from their systems. I was told to give them formula to help clear up the jaundice but I knew that was bad advice so that's why I expressed more milk and just gave that to them instead. Anyhoo, co-sleeping and nursing twins were my 2 greatest fears but both things have actually been quite easy for me! My twins will be 2 in March and there is absolutely no end to nursing in sight. I plan on letting them do child-led weaning. I expect that at least one of them will nurse until he's 3 or more (the other just isn't as interested in general so he might not). My main piece of advice is to not think that any one of us has the answer for you (should you need help along the way). It's different for every mom and set of babies. You have to just experiment your heart out until you find the right setup that works for you. Everyone told me how I'd have to tandem nurse OR ELSE and that's just not what ended up working best for me in the first 6-8 months (try as I did!). So you just can't know! I also wasn't in love with my ez-2-nurse pillow. It was OKAY but that was it. I preferred regular pillows! See - so you just never know. I'm just glad that I had sense enough to be flexible and not think that b/c what I *heard* should work didn't that that didn't mean I couldn't find a way that does. Did that make sense?
post #30 of 40
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Makes perfect sense! So much of this is just like my singletons. Each brought their own specific set of needs, as I am sure these babies will each have their own. We'll just stay flexible, be prepared, and take it as it comes.....

I'm just so glad to hear so many moms did it without formula. That's tricky for us because our kids have milk protein intolerance and I don't like soy in that amount. That leaves us with breast milk or neocate. I was fixin to call up my lactating buddies and have them start pumping!
post #31 of 40
Just one more mama chiming in to say it's totally possible. My girls are EBF and are almost 6 months old (next tueday!).
post #32 of 40
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Makes perfect sense! So much of this is just like my singletons. Each brought their own specific set of needs, as I am sure these babies will each have their own. We'll just stay flexible, be prepared, and take it as it comes.....

I'm just so glad to hear so many moms did it without formula. That's tricky for us because our kids have milk protein intolerance and I don't like soy in that amount. That leaves us with breast milk or neocate. I was fixin to call up my lactating buddies and have them start pumping!
hey chantel! i saw this in new posts so i'm chiming in
my mom exclusively nursed me and my twin sister for 7 months, she says it was a lot of work but she didn't have any other options so she did it.
if you end up needing milk you know you can always call me, i make enough for everybody
post #33 of 40
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hey chantel! i saw this in new posts so i'm chiming in
my mom exclusively nursed me and my twin sister for 7 months, she says it was a lot of work but she didn't have any other options so she did it.
if you end up needing milk you know you can always call me, i make enough for everybody
You and Lyndsey were the first people I thought of!
post #34 of 40
Just another voice of reason saying, "will have to" supplement is a bunch of bunk!

My twins are now 13.5-months-old. They still nurse. I've been back to work full-time for 3 weeks. It's all good.

Here's a snap-shot of my nursing history:

Nursed the three older singletons for a year each with no supply issues. All were 9-11lb at birth and grew very quickly 90th-percentile and over.

Birthed healthy, happy, full-term twins and assumed that while they were smaller (ie. average: 7.5 and 6lb15oz) that they would be "racing out of the blocks" and grow very quickly after birth - catching up with their singleton siblings (as we assumed was their genetic predisposition). BIG, BAD, MISTAKE!

This led to us becoming completely perplexed that our content, perfect little twins should be examined by public health nurse and lactation consultant at 2.5 weeks old. They had slow/stalled weight gain for the first month-ish. We just couldn't understand why they seemed awake enough, sleepy enough, content, healthy, proper diapers, etc, etc but weren't growing bigger. REPEAT: EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT, every child is different (even if your other 3 have been the same).

Then we were in it: a hoopla of nursing, weighing, pumping and supplementing expressed breast milk, ya-da, ya-da, ya-da. It wasn't until I was told at 7 weeks to go on Domperidone (by the lactation consultant, who had previously agreed that there was no supply issue) that we put our feet down and jumped off the "silly train". In retrospect, it was just self-imposed insanity. . . and who needs that when you've just had twins!

The public health nurse was very pushy about supplementing with formula, saying we wouldn't "have to" do it for long and that she didn't "need it" for very long with her own twins. Too quick to assume that "did it" was equal to "needed to do it". It wasn't until we finally were able to see a family doctor we quite like, when the boys were 2.5-months-old, that he said "Some kids just won't follow the growth chart. End of story. As long as there aren't other concerns in concert with the lack of weight gain, it's a non-issue".

The whole ridiculous matter resulted in us weighing our babies like crazy over the first year to document their growth as information for other twin parents. They started out 1/2lb apart. This got as wide as 1.5lb apart. Now at 13.5 months, they are 200gr apart (7oz). As we've gotten to know them, it has become obvious that this difference is personality-based. The squirmier, more sociable one is lighter - no time to eat, Mom!

I think the idea of parenting twins seems so burdensome and overwhelming to many other people that they just can't imagine you doing it successfully without their "help". Good-hearted or not, sometimes it's just a bunch of hooey. You'll know the difference. You can do it. You will do it.
post #35 of 40
I haven't read the whole thread yet so forgive any repeating.

I don't know if I would have survived without the EZ2Nurse Twins pillow. It was a godsend. Allowed me to tandem (I did nurse them separately on occasion) with ease.

I didn't have to supplement (also had oversupply with my first) and honestly had a much easier time nursing two than I did one! I nursed until they self-weaned at 13 and 15 months. Neither took a bottle and at times I felt like a human pacifier.
post #36 of 40
I don't feel so much like a human pacifier as I feel like a filling station All 3 clamoring at once... at least the oldest understands he has to wait in line.
post #37 of 40
Mine are 8 months now. I had over-supply issues with my first 3 children. No problem with supply now with the twins. Sometimes they nurse together, sometimes they don't. I just go with the flow. I will say the weight loss has been fabulous! I never lost my baby weight so quickly as I have after the twins were born I am so glad I was able to keep them in until almost 40 weeks. It was sooooo hard at the end, but made nursing so much easier I am convinced.
post #38 of 40
Wow, I actually struggle to stay awake when I am nursing both. It relaxes me waaayyyyy too much.
post #39 of 40
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Originally Posted by MamaRabbit View Post
Yes you can do it! I read all of those woeful stories as well and in defiance did not go out any buy any bottles! My girls will be 6mo tomorrow and have nursed for 6mo w/no issues at all. I'm even nursing their big brother as well. I always had over-supply issues and still have enough milk for another if I had to!

As for after the 1st baby is born, it depends on how long before the second one comes out! I had no time between their births to nurse the 1st one. I heavily relied on my EZ2nurse pillow and still do at times. Even though they were born at almost 38 weeks, I did have one of them still a little weak at latching and sucking, so know that it may take some work.

I feel the most proud of myself when I realize that I'm nursing two little babies and they're thriving!
Did you buy your EZ2Nurse pillow before you had your babies, or afterwards?? I'm thinking about looking around for one.
post #40 of 40
I bought it before they were born and used it from the first time I fed them together and on.
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