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post #21 of 29
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Originally Posted by ~Megan~ View Post
It was a feeling akin to throwing up but the other direction. Just waves of intensity.
This is exactly how I felt but I've never heard anyone else say it! :grin
post #22 of 29
I apologize if someone else has already mentioned this...

It might help to try and figure out what specifically scares you?

Is it the pain of laboring?
Is it transition?
Is it actual delivering pain? or pushing?
Is it tearing/episiotomy?
Is it recovery afterwards?
Is it feeling out of control?
Is it thinking that you might not be able to give birth vaginally?

These are all real fears and should be addressed. If you can figure out what you're afraid of and focus on alleviating or coming to grips with that particular fear, that might help. Even if you're afraid of it all, putting down specifics may help you to address them all one by one. The books are all good choices too- and stay away from too many horror stories! :grin
post #23 of 29
No advice here, but you're not the only one. I am absolutely terrified, either way.

I am so scared I am bawling as I am reading this thread
post #24 of 29
Thread Starter 
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Is it the pain of laboring?
Is it transition?
Is it actual delivering pain? or pushing?
Is it tearing/episiotomy?
Is it recovery afterwards?
Is it feeling out of control?
Is it thinking that you might not be able to give birth vaginally?
It's all of this, and probably more, with the possible exception of recovery, which is almost certain to be easier after a vaginal birth than a c-section.

post #25 of 29

I wanted to be a midwife

About 20 years ago, I wanted to be a midwife. When my friends had babies with midwives, I begged to go along (I promise I won't interfere). In the end, I actually got to help and comfort women and family members.

When I got pregnant I knew the range of behavior I might go through because I had seen so many natural births. I do feel that familiarizing yourself with NORMAL natural birth would be a great idea. NOT TYPICAL births (like the sensationalized traumatic births on TV). Birth is primal... and we could be a village. I would say to you, surround yourself with people who know natural birth, and can support you 150% Read as many natural birth stories as possible... and educate yourself on options for birth in your birth place of choice. At least there won't be any surprises. I might say more...
post #26 of 29
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Originally Posted by goldfinch View Post
It's all of this, and probably more, with the possible exception of recovery, which is almost certain to be easier after a vaginal birth than a c-section.

You might be interested in the "How do you know when to push?" thread over in the UC forum.

Near as I can tell, from reading tons of birth stories, the keys to a non-traumatic birth (that is one with no bad pain) are patience and the woman listening to her body.
post #27 of 29
I would highly recommend "Birthing from Within" - I read it when I was pg last time and it's geered more towards women who didn't have their "ideal" birth the first time around, but are trying for a better go. It had a lot of techniques for getting in tune with your body and conquering fears.

I have to say that the childbirth class I went to at the hospital really helped me mainly w/ breathing techniques. The rest was kind of crap, but the breathing is what kept me going and made it possible to have an unmedicated birth w/ DS (among other things!). I'm sure you'll do great - just read as much as you can, and learn relaxation & breathing techniques. Birth can be scary - but it's a natural process that women have been doing forever! Your body will know what to do, you just need to listen to it
post #28 of 29
I think what helped me was realizing the age of our species. Humans have been around for a long time and we all have come into this world the same way. I just remembered that when I got scared during labor I though "wow if this worked for millions of years for billions of people no matter how awful and scary this is right now this really just must be NORMAL and NECESSARY ". I still was scared cause the sensations were painful and new but it helped sooth my mind when the self doubt would creep in and I would think "I really can't do this". I did it in the end and it was an amazing high, I felt like I was the most powerful amazing woman on the face of the planet!
post #29 of 29
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
You might be interested in the "How do you know when to push?" thread over in the UC forum.
Just read this thread - very worth the 5 minutes! One particular post - about #18 and long - is VERY worth your time! Gotta check it out. It'll give you more confidence in your body.
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