Good morning, I feel wonderful this morning. We went to bed early last night and DTD, then I woke up about 4:30 and could not go back to sleep, so we got up at a little after 5 and dh decided to go into work a little early so we had a nice shower together, then actually got to spent 30 min with out kids this morning! I made coffee and blueberry muffins before school and got dd#1 out the door. All we have today is story time.
Now onto the stressful part
. I have had my last 2 babies early (38 and 36.5 weeks) so we kinda planned the same for this one. DH planned his Jan work plans so he could take a week or so off anytime in Jan. Well, now my EDD is sat and it does not appear that I am anywhere close. I am trying to VBAC, but they are not very comfortable (and i am not sure if I am) going to far past my EDD. Right now my c-sec is scheduled for the 24th, but i am thinking about pushing it back until the 29th or 31. The problem with that being that DH has several projects he can not miss in Feb (pushed everything for jan and feb to Feb), including a training he is putting on for software he helped write the 3-5th. I really don't know if I will be ready to stay home by myself for 3 days with 4 kids and a few day old baby. Plus we have found it is really helpful for him and the other girls to bond if he is able to take that time off and babymoon together.
Plus to add to that I depend/use my MIL to watch my girls often. She lives an hour away, but in town, where the Dr is, where we shop, etc. I often just leave my girls and spend the afternoon getting all my things done and everyone loves it. Well my SIL who is 21 is having some kind of nervous breakdown/depression/bi polar - some type of mental problem (this has all happened in the last 2 weeks) , so she is home from college and basically on 24 hour suicide watch at their house. Mil and FIL are totally stressed over it (as you can imagine). MIL is basically not sleeping, because she is watching SIL all night, because she gets up and wonders around all night long, plus she can do nothing during the day because she is babysitting SIL. So I am not real comfortable leaving my girls right now (which is making MIL sad because she thinks we don't trust her to keep them safe), and SIL even more upset, because "people are treating her differently". Plus she is supposed to come stay at our house for the couple of days we are in the hospital. We talked to them yesterday and they think they just want to bring SIL down with them to stay here - it would be good for her. This scares the CRAP out of DH and I. I am not comfortable having that in my space right now, plus I worry about the girls being taken good enough care of my girls, house animals, plus SIL. My other SIL lives a couple of mile from us, but has a 6 month old and gets stressed out watching my 3 plus hers for more than a few hours, so I have no idea what we are going to do :cry
3 months ago, we had tons of people always willing to watch our kids (more than we wanted) MIL is almost always available and my mom and dad lived about an hour away and my dad works from home so he could too. Now my parents just moved 12 hours away to be closer to my grandparents (had an opportunity they could not turn down) and we have no one
Sorry this got long and ranty - I have none IRL to talk about this to
Good luck to those that need ELV and welcome and enjoy to all the new babies!