I think I'll just do the anatomical as if it was a ds child they do often have heart issues(?) and stuff that would need to be prepared for ahead of time..[/QUOTE]
Popping in from my Mom's house...
40% of children with Ds have heart complications, not all are detected on u/s. My son has an ASD heart defect and it wasn't discovered until he was 3 weeks old. It is very small and hasn't required medication or surgery, just annual echo's to keep an eye on it.
It is a tough desicion. When he was dx, I immediatly was angry with myself for not doing the blood screening. I thought "I could of prepared myself! What if he would of had major health problems?" As time has gone by, I've realized that not knowing was a huge blessing. I had time to hold and love my baby as who he was before I had to look at him with different eyes that said "he has Down syndrome." When we first were told, it felt like the rug was pulled from under our feet, I suddenly looked at him like he was someone different. It took time to push aside the diagnosis and see the person, but I was grateful to have him and hold him as we grew to know each other.
Every parent I have met that knew prenatally has said that knowing put a great deal of stress on their pregnancy and made it difficult to celebrate the birth. They had so many fears to work through before they could have that time to love their child.
Honestly, they are babies first. They still need to nurse, sleep, get changed and be loved. Infancy gives you time to ease into the diagnosis. My 3 yr old is very much like other 3 yr olds. He gets into mischief, he plays silly games, he wrestles with his daddy and brother, he loves to play with his momma's hair while he snuggles. He teaches us more than we could ever teach him.