breastfeeding...past 12 month issues..

[kibba]

I searched for a thred but cant find it. My daughter is 13 months old and we're still nursing. My family is coming for a visit...(actually driving here right now... from the airport)...


Well my sister is pretty much "EWWW GROSS" and my mom just ...doesnt believe in past a year, I think I was only nursed a few months.

I was planning to hide it but not sure how easy this is going to be..

[turtlewomyn]

Well, are they here yet?
It gets to be pretty hard to hide it, when your child comes up to you and starts trying to tug up your shirt. My in-laws are freaked out about it, and my parents think it is cute. Neither one of them ever was supportive of breastfeeding past a year. I think you have to just do what you think is right and be confident about it. When they can see how much your little one is still thriving on mama's milk, hopefully they will smarten up.

[dani76]

It's your house and your child. You shouldn't try to hide feeding your child.

[baby_baby_mommy]

Remind them that the World Health Organization recommends 2 years, as does the American Academy of Pediatrics (they say at least one year, recommend two).

Best of luck!

[PatioGardener]

Just wanted to wish you good luck.

If it helps (if you need it at any point) you can blame your doctor. The major medical organisations in north america all agree that babies need nothing but mother's milk until at least 6 months, then no other milk but mother's milk until 1 year old, and then to continue breatfeeding after one year, with health benefits documented until at least 2 years of age (that isn't saying that the benefits stop at 2, they just agree that there are benefits that go well into the 2nd year.) Times change, and 2 years is now seen as the minimum time for breastfeeding.

Also, remember the bean dip. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv...d/?msg=69364.2

(and more help at kellymom: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/criticism.html#comebacks)

[Pumpkin_Pie]

Originally Posted by PatioGardener

Just wanted to wish you good luck.

If it helps (if you need it at any point) you can blame your doctor. The major medical organisations in north america all agree that babies need nothing but mother's milk until at least 6 months, then no other milk but mother's milk until 1 year old, and then to continue breatfeeding after one year, with health benefits documented until at least 2 years of age (that isn't saying that the benefits stop at 2, they just agree that there are benefits that go well into the 2nd year.) Times change, and 2 years is now seen as the minimum time for breastfeeding.

Also, remember the bean dip. http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv...d/?msg=69364.2

(and more help at kellymom: http://www.kellymom.com/bf/criticism.html#comebacks)

I am so going to use this:
"Finally, look them in the eye and say simply "I want us to have a good relationship. I want you to *enjoy* the baby. I'll parent the baby - you enjoy them. Let's not discuss this anymore. If you bring it up, I will leave the room."

[rmzbm]

No way would I hide, ESPECIALLY in my own home! Nurse your child...proudly. If they are rude enough to say anything tell them to butt out.

[kibba]

Thanks everyone, Today worked out okay. The arrived as she was napping and I stressed that they needed to be calm(haven't seen her in months they were really excited) so when I(alone) got her from nap she had a dry diaper so I took that time to nurse her before taking her downstairs to see them.... then at bed time I just said hubby and I hang out with her in our bedroom and listen to music at bedtime...(which is true..) and I nursed her again then, that is our normal nursing secedule too so it was fine.. I think it will be easier then I thought, if it comes to it I won't hide it. I just prefer to because I hate confrontation and I'm a pretty sensitive person... Thanks again all!!! Your words really helped!!