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post #21 of 44
Aaron and I decided a few months ago that we want at least one more, and we've talked about it casually a few times since then. I told my mom that and she said, "That's great, but maybe you should consider getting married before you have another baby?"
The whole experience, from pregnancy to birth to post-partum, has been incredibly positive and really ridiculously easy on me. But I think being pregnant or having a newborn with a toddler underfoot would be biting off more than I care to chew. I'm 28 and Aaron's 31, so I figure we have a little bit of time and aren't in a huge rush. I'd like to start TTC when Cyrus is 3 or so, I guess in late 2010 or early 2011.
It took us one screw-up and a bottle of bourbon to get pregnant, so I think we're pretty fertile.
post #22 of 44
Uh... we'll have another whenever Aubrey is ready?

We're absolutely in for trying for another, but I think we're going to wait a few years... I need to get my feet under me career-wise, and DH needs to go back to school because I don't want to be the primary wage earner next time I'm pregnant.

It's funny, I had to talk DH into agreeing to 3 kids when we were talking about famikly size before we were married. Now he's the one who is feeling like he might not be done after three after all! We've agreed to reevaluate after the third baby is 1, but I think a lot will depend on how hard it is to TTC that babe, since i'll be 35-ish by that point. We shall see.
post #23 of 44
Serenity, I have hopes of adopting one day. A little guy would be nice. I miss having a lil boy!
post #24 of 44
DH and I just today were talking about this. Not anytime soon, but like 2010-11 if we can find another place this would hold possibly 4 boys I think we'd be game. We are 25 and 28 so we've got time to decide.
post #25 of 44
this shop is closed!

although i would love to have maybe one more, dh & i have decided that 2 is perfect for us. we live in an expensive city, and a third would mean a lot of changes that require lots of money (housing, car, education).

i'll be sad not to be pg again, but who could beat this DDC? any other would pale in comparison!
post #26 of 44
i'm not done! this is #1. we definitely want 2 and would consider a 3rd. we'd like our first two to be around 2.5 years apart.
post #27 of 44
I want as many as dh will agree to. he's agreed to at least 1 more, and he knows i want more than that. i'm working on convincing him.

oddly enough, my labor with this baby was A LOT more painful than with dd#1, (it was also a lot faster & more intense) but as soon as it was over i said to dh, "i could do that again!" he laughed in disbelief. i mean, just minutes before i'd been making some really loud noise from the pain!!!! it's something about being a mother & bonding with a baby that i just love.
post #28 of 44
I really want a couple more children! We might adopt, because dh feels quite strongly about not contributing to over population (not something I necessarily agree with but I hope to have at least one more pregnancy and birth.

We will space them farther next time I hope, it's been rough for me and dd, having them so close.

(editing to say that the population thing is what I don't agree with, not adoption! Just in case it sounded like I was anti-adoption )
post #29 of 44
To make a long story short, dh does not want more kids. Period. He's talking V.

I am from a huge family and want 10+ kids. I was a bit in pain and hormonal for awhile and thought maybe this would be the last one, but I know now I still want a big Amish family.

Unfortunately, dh does not and even though we agreed on more before we had kids together, I guess I'm getting the short end of the stick because what I want doesn't matter.

Sorry, I'm a bit emotional and angry right now and this has been upsetting me for weeks.
post #30 of 44
I would love another child in 5-7 years. I like the idea of spacing my kids out so I can enjoy having kids at home longer. I am already dreading "empty nest syndrome."I had Dd at 20 so I would have only been 38 when she leaves the nest....that is too soon for that. lol. I want to be in my 50's before I have to deal with that..I would liketo haveonemorebabe sometime in my 30's when my friendswill hopefully starthaving kidsaswell.(my spacebar isdying)
post #31 of 44
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Sorry, I'm a bit emotional and angry right now and this has been upsetting me for weeks.
I'm so sorry mama, I hope something can be worked out.
post #32 of 44
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I would love to wait 3 to 4 yrs, but I will be 33 in March, Dh 35 in May.... so I know if I can talk him into just one more he will want to start tryin a year from now or sooner (well depending on when AF returns). I'll take what I can get, but the weather has to be nicer so we can get outside and play. Were all about to go out of our minds being cooped up in the house for a long period of time :
post #33 of 44
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Originally Posted by kittywitty View Post
To make a long story short, dh does not want more kids. Period. He's talking V.

I am from a huge family and want 10+ kids. I was a bit in pain and hormonal for awhile and thought maybe this would be the last one, but I know now I still want a big Amish family.

Unfortunately, dh does not and even though we agreed on more before we had kids together, I guess I'm getting the short end of the stick because what I want doesn't matter.

Sorry, I'm a bit emotional and angry right now and this has been upsetting me for weeks.
Aww I'm sorry. My DH is talking V too, I'm not into that. But not sure if I want more kids or not, I'd be SO upset if I were you. How many do you have now?
post #34 of 44
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Originally Posted by kittywitty View Post
To make a long story short, dh does not want more kids. Period. He's talking V.

I am from a huge family and want 10+ kids. I was a bit in pain and hormonal for awhile and thought maybe this would be the last one, but I know now I still want a big Amish family.

Unfortunately, dh does not and even though we agreed on more before we had kids together, I guess I'm getting the short end of the stick because what I want doesn't matter.

Sorry, I'm a bit emotional and angry right now and this has been upsetting me for weeks.
post #35 of 44
Not done.
DP isn't done either, which really surprised me (never wanted kids in the first place, and then just one, and then *Just* two, and now...)
I'd say, we may end up with 4, but we'll see what life brings.
post #36 of 44
Not sure-which means most likely in about 4 years I'll catch baby fever.

However I am about to turn 35. and DP is 36 with PCOS and tons of other health issues. She would have to go through fertility treatments to get pregnant, and she has mentioned wanting a biological child-we talked in the past about IVF, and having me be her sugorate. However, I don't know if I ever want to go through labor again, and recovery from a c-section has been hard-I can't imagine it with a toddler or young child and a new baby-so I am not against adopting another one. I don't think I want Reyes to be an only child.

Before having another child I want to be more stable economically-we pretty much live paycheck to paycheck-and I want a nest egg, plus a decent college fund for Reyes before I'll even consider it.
post #37 of 44
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Originally Posted by kittywitty View Post
To make a long story short, dh does not want more kids. Period. He's talking V.

I am from a huge family and want 10+ kids. I was a bit in pain and hormonal for awhile and thought maybe this would be the last one, but I know now I still want a big Amish family.

Unfortunately, dh does not and even though we agreed on more before we had kids together, I guess I'm getting the short end of the stick because what I want doesn't matter.

Sorry, I'm a bit emotional and angry right now and this has been upsetting me for weeks.
post #38 of 44
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Uh... we'll have another whenever Aubrey is ready?

We're absolutely in for trying for another, but I think we're going to wait a few years... I need to get my feet under me career-wise, and DH needs to go back to school because I don't want to be the primary wage earner next time I'm pregnant.

It's funny, I had to talk DH into agreeing to 3 kids when we were talking about famikly size before we were married. Now he's the one who is feeling like he might not be done after three after all! We've agreed to reevaluate after the third baby is 1, but I think a lot will depend on how hard it is to TTC that babe, since i'll be 35-ish by that point. We shall see.

LOL. Didn't we agree on TTC in about 19 months or something?

We'd love more but a big fat "ME TOO" on the waiting a few years plan. I'm ready to be skinny again. It's been awhile since I didn't have "pregnancy weight" on me. I'd love to feel all bouncy & in shape again. I'm 5 weeks PP & still have 25 extra lbs clinging to me like ugly barnacles.

And- I don't want to tandem nurse! Ever again!! I feel so bad saying that as my 26 mo still loveslovesloves the boob. And I wish I didn't find tandeming so incredibly annoying. My toddler loves the boob SO much that I don't think I could even wean him anytime soon without traumatizing him. So I suffer through it & smile so he doesn't know how much I don't enjoy it.

I'm 33 & the women in my family don't seem to begin menopause until they reach 50 so I think we have plenty of years for baby-makin' .

We use a diaphragm without spermicide which is said to be 80something percent effective. Let's hope we're covered until we're ready again...

I sat here hoping to get caught up a bit with our ddc that I've been absent from for weeks now (!) , but, it took me a freaking hour just to get the above written due to all the interruptions. I don't know how y'all do it. I gotta go grab a shower & make dinner now. Hopefully.
post #39 of 44
I am so not done. I thought I would only ever want two kids and this birth was so amazing I can't imagine not having many, many more. That being said dh said he only wants 2 and I still want time with each kid and not have to rip my first ds off too much. As it is he has watched more Blue's Clues since dd has been born than he ever watched in his whole life.
post #40 of 44
I've always wanted 5 kids. DH wants 4. Won't do it so close together again though (20 months). Whew! That pregnancy was hard! Post partum with a toddler and newborn is surprisingly easier than I expected but I still feel pretty worn out emotionally and physically. I need a little reboost before I get pg again.

I'm not done having kids. I love my babies and love each stage as it comes. (I might feel differently when they're teenagers!)
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