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post #1 of 17
1/22/08 at 6:57am
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Anyone else here in Australia watch 2 Mums and a Dad tonight?

I thought it was really intresting - shame the law has caught up with the modern family yet.


Continuing SBS's Future Families season of programs is the award-winning documentary 2 Mums and a Dad, the story of the rocky road of three-way parenting. 2 Mums and a Dad is a unique exploration of the nature of family in today's complicated society. It is a sometimes roller coaster ride from pregnancy to parenthood in a most unusual unit, while also tackling universal issues of relevance for anyone with a family. Fiona is thirty-three and wants to have a baby, but her partner, Kellie, is a woman and sperm isn't part of their equation. However, Fiona has a solution: an English gay guy from work wants to be a dad. Fiona and Kelly want their child to have a father. It seems to be the perfect solution, but is it? (From Australia, in English) (Documentary Series) PG (A,S) WS
post #2 of 17
1/22/08 at 7:18am
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It’s a shame that the online discussion afterward turned to religious talk and a free for all ensued.
post #3 of 17
1/22/08 at 6:36pm
Yes, I watched. And I know the women in the doco too. I think that the doco was a really good cautionary tale. Their parenting arrangement has been a struggle from the get-go and I think it really illustrated the serious complexities of a co-parenting arrangement and certainly confirmed for us that we have made the right choice (for us) in not going the co-parent route.

You may be pleased to hear that they've ironed out most of the creases now and are planning their next baby, this time with Kel carrying.
post #4 of 17
1/22/08 at 9:57pm
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I am pleased to hear they are planning baby #2; I think Kelly will make a great mum.

It's good they sorted out their differences
post #5 of 17
1/23/08 at 6:27am
what channel does this come on?
post #6 of 17
1/23/08 at 6:34am
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It was on in Australia on SBS last night at 7.30pm

From what I read on the web chat they are going to try and take it internationally to small fairs and festivals - but i am not sure when that will be.
post #7 of 17
1/23/08 at 6:37am
does it come on in the US at all?
post #8 of 17
1/23/08 at 6:45am
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According to the Film maker Miranda; It was screened at the San Francisco International Gay and Lesbian Film Festival.

From what I also read on the web chat they are going to try and take it internationally to small fairs and festivals - but i am not sure when that will be.
post #9 of 17
1/23/08 at 6:55am
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If you would like to see it I think you can download it as a podcast;

http://www20.sbs.com.au/podcasting/i...id=12&id=10238

I am not sure how well it will work as my computer dosn't seem to want to do it - but if someone else can try it out they can let everyone know how it goes

Sam
post #10 of 17
1/23/08 at 6:56am
thanks!
post #11 of 17
1/23/08 at 6:59am
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I just read

"Miranda and Darren spoke with Caroline Davey about this experience"

So I am not sure if it's just a interview or the whole episode - might be intresting to hear either way.
post #12 of 17
1/23/08 at 7:00am
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It is just an interview with the film maker and Darren (the bio dad) sorry.

I will let you know if I see the epidose on podcast
post #13 of 17
1/23/08 at 7:12am
So what went wrong with the co-parenting? My kiddo has one mom and one dad, I got knocked up by an English gay guy too. And our parenting situation was a nightmare in the beginning...
post #14 of 17
1/23/08 at 9:00am
I saw it also! It was good to see how a artificial sperm donation goes on in real time, and it gave me the push to bring up some issues with one of my potential donors.

Did Darren annoy anyone else, just a little? He seemed a little TOO pushy for my liking, but then I wouldn't choose a co-parenting arrangement (for myself.)

All around though, it was a very well thought out documentary
post #15 of 17
1/23/08 at 9:57pm
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Originally Posted by thismama View Post
So what went wrong with the co-parenting? My kiddo has one mom and one dad, I got knocked up by an English gay guy too. And our parenting situation was a nightmare in the beginning...
They had a disagreement before the baby was born about access – they both wanted more time with the baby.

They did have a signed agreement but from what they said it wasn’t worth the paper it was written on.

They have now sorted it all out and are going to try for another baby.
post #16 of 17
1/24/08 at 6:05am
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Did Darren annoy anyone else, just a little?
Absolutely! He seemed to be quite selfish, more out for his own interests than the child. The "draw card" part at the end disturbed me a little.

Made me very glad we went with our known donor, and not the involved father we considered at one point. It's hard enough negotiating things with 2 parents.
post #17 of 17
1/24/08 at 9:15am
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Absolutely! He seemed to be quite selfish, more out for his own interests than the child. The "draw card" part at the end disturbed me a little.
The "draw card" comment was what made me most furious at him:, before that I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

The two donors I'm considering using both are fine with being anonymous/limited contact if I'd like, and now I'm SO glad of that, I couldn't put up with that level of selfishness and petty behavior
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