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Poll Results: How would you feel if your kids grow up to be gay?

 
  • 6% (49)
    Thrilled--more gay is more better.
  • 62% (492)
    Nonplussed--as long as they're happy, I'm good.
  • 16% (132)
    Okay--I'd rather they were straight, but whatever.
  • 10% (82)
    Disappointed--I think being gay is wrong and I don't want that for my kids.
  • 0% (4)
    Angry--I'm so appalled by considering it that I can't imagine what I'd feel.
  • 3% (24)
    Other, please explain
783 Total Votes  
post #121 of 230
You know, there are so many things my kids could grow up to be or do that would bother me. I just hope that, whatever their sexuality, they get to confident sexual (and personal, spiritual, etc.) self-understanding with a minimum of angst. Queer or not, I hope their lives are filled with wonderful relationships.
post #122 of 230
It wouldn't bother me, but then I grew up in california around all sorts of characters, and I'm pretty accepting of homosexuality.

However, I would worry for him because the US still has a long ways to go towards gay acceptance, and I'd hate for him to experience discrimination based on anything about himself.

DH wouldn't be against it, per se, but he'd have a hard time accepting it. He grew up in a very masculine setting, with policemen and such for role models, so being gay wasn't something anybody really talked about or knew anybody who was. Ultimately, he loves our son though, and I doubt there's anything DS could do to change that.
post #123 of 230
I said #3 mostly because I think thrilled is kind a bizarre way to feel about your child's sexuality & the 'nonplussed' threw me.
post #124 of 230
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Originally Posted by babygrant View Post
I voted "okay". I honestly believe as long as my kids are happy, but I fear how they would be treated if they were gay. I remember being told over and over and over again "Don't let others bring you down because your fat". Well everytime someone made a horrible comment about me being fat, it really felt like a knife right to the heart. I would cry and cry. I just want my kids to have an easy upbringing. I don't want them to get made fun of. Of course I would teach them to carry themselves high and not worry about what others think, but that didn't work for me.
That was my answer/reasoning as well.

But I will also add that I would rather my child be a homosexual than a homophobe. I mean, if I had to choose


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post #125 of 230
i would be happy if she were, honestly. sometimes i think about boys and how they will try and take advantage of a girl or how they break girls' hearts, etc. not to say that a gay person wouldn't do either of those things, but however she swings, i just want her to be happy.
post #126 of 230
It wouldn't bother me one bit, buit would bother my DH, which would be sad and annoying...and would probably lead to us separating/divorcing. Or my kid(s) would stay in the closet around their Dad...which would bother me that they couldn't be themselves...bring over their partner...etc.
post #127 of 230
I gotta say this: nonplussed means perplexed and bewildered. It's not a good thing.
post #128 of 230
I already stated my opinion earlier in this thread (which was between 1 and 2, but I put 2) and I've noticed pps also saying what their partners think as well so I thought I'd add my dh's two cents as well. He has the same opinion as me and that makes me very very happy. When we met in college, I had many gay friends and frequented gay bars and if he had said anything against it at that point we never would have stayed together. He wants happiness and love and all those great things for our children regardless of their sexuality.
post #129 of 230
I voted nonplussed.

Both DP and I are lesbians. Our known donor is gay. Some people would sat that whether it's nature or nurture, our son is "doomed" to be gay. But quite frankly, it doesn't matter to me one way or another.
post #130 of 230
I've always said that as long as I get grandchildren, I just want them to be happy.
post #131 of 230
Other-- it would all depend on the partner they brought home. Nasty person, I'd want to die. Nice person, I'll be thrilled.
post #132 of 230
I chose "okay" but feel like I fit in between that one and the 2nd choice (nonplussed).



I want my kids to be happy no matter WHAT. As a mother I would worry about the pain they could endure by others not being so accepting.

If that makes any sense.
post #133 of 230
I am not trying to start a debate but I am trying to wrap my mind around people feeling like "it's wrong to be gay". I really struggle with this.
post #134 of 230
I chose the second option and as other people have said, there would be no coming out in my house. My son, who is 6, has already had a "boyfriend" and now has his eyes on some girl in his class. I want my kids to know that sexuality is much more fluid than what society says it is and that they never have to label themselves unless they want to. As long as I have a relationship with my kids where they can feel comfortable telling me anything, then I will be thrilled.
post #135 of 230
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by RachelGS View Post
I gotta say this: nonplussed means perplexed and bewildered. It's not a good thing.
Not in the American vernacular. See the beginning of the thread for the discussion about meaning of the word. Thank you.
post #136 of 230
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by purplegirl View Post
I am not trying to start a debate but I am trying to wrap my mind around people feeling like "it's wrong to be gay". I really struggle with this.
I'd love to be part of and read that debate, but I don't think it can happen here.
post #137 of 230
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Originally Posted by frog View Post
I'd love to be part of and read that debate, but I don't think it can happen here.
Nope. It can't happen here, but I remain perplexed:
post #138 of 230
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by purplegirl View Post
Nope. It can't happen here, but I remain perplexed:
I'm right there with you.
post #139 of 230
Without reading other replies.....

I voted non-plussed.

I hope that my dh & I raise children who are completly comfortable with themselves at all stages of life...... & that includes 'being' gay. We are straight hetero but that doesn't mean that we don't understand that there are other ways of love, kwim.......
post #140 of 230
Quote:
Originally Posted by purplegirl View Post
I am not trying to start a debate but I am trying to wrap my mind around people feeling like "it's wrong to be gay". I really struggle with this.
It makes me very sad for so many reasons, then the other part me is just pissed that people feel that way (it is hard to wrap your brain around for sure).
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