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Poll Results: How would you feel if your kids grow up to be gay?

 
  • 6% (49)
    Thrilled--more gay is more better.
  • 62% (492)
    Nonplussed--as long as they're happy, I'm good.
  • 16% (132)
    Okay--I'd rather they were straight, but whatever.
  • 10% (82)
    Disappointed--I think being gay is wrong and I don't want that for my kids.
  • 0% (4)
    Angry--I'm so appalled by considering it that I can't imagine what I'd feel.
  • 3% (24)
    Other, please explain
783 Total Votes  
post #21 of 230
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Originally Posted by scatterbrainedmom View Post
i have 3 boys. i could care less if 2 turned out gay. i want at least one strait child who will give my a grandbaby, preferable a girl. i'm not that demanding am i?
As frog said...why would being gay = no kids?
post #22 of 230
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Originally Posted by frog View Post
My cousin, R, is gay. He and his partner have a four-year old son and recently adopted newborn twins. Gay doesn't equal "nonparent."
Gay couples can't adopt (nor foster) in Utah. Just FTR.
post #23 of 230
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by A&A View Post
Gay couples can't adopt (nor foster) in Utah. Just FTR.
But we can get knocked up in any state of the union.

Well, theoretically, anyway. <glares at own chart>
post #24 of 230
ohhh i would be so happy. so happy. straight, gay, bi, trannie. i wouldnt be sad with any of it.
post #25 of 230
It was a touch choice between the first two for me. I ultimately chose non plussed.
post #26 of 230
I chose nonpulssed as well, but am actually sitting a hair towards thrilled.

A fence-sitter, me? NO WAY!!
post #27 of 230
i hope my grrls are instilled with a greater sense of self-worth than the capacity & functionality of their uterus.
post #28 of 230
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by davi View Post
i hope my grrls are instilled with a greater sense of self-worth than the capacity & functionality of their uterus.
post #29 of 230
You know, it would depend. I think if I had a daughter, I'd be thrilled if she were a lesbian, and if I had a son, I'd be happier if he were straight. Why? To keep both of them out of the hands of abusive men.
post #30 of 230
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Originally Posted by avengingophelia View Post
You know, it would depend. I think if I had a daughter, I'd be thrilled if she were a lesbian, and if I had a son, I'd be happier if he were straight. Why? To keep both of them out of the hands of abusive men.
i hear that.
post #31 of 230
Quote:
Originally Posted by frog View Post
My cousin, R, is gay. He and his partner have a four-year old son and recently adopted newborn twins. Gay doesn't equal "nonparent."
i realize this, and i am sure i will make just about everyone unhappy with my response. i would want a grandchild by nature. i am very open to just about anything, so please don't jump down my throat about that. that is my opinion and no matter what is said i won't change it.

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Originally Posted by PGNPORTLAND View Post
Gay People Have Kids!!!
I know, my cousin and his partner have 2.

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Originally Posted by NYCVeg View Post
As frog said...why would being gay = no kids?
i never said that, people are assuming

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Originally Posted by davi View Post
i hope my grrls are instilled with a greater sense of self-worth than the capacity & functionality of their uterus.
is that directed to me?
post #32 of 230
I voted option 2. I realy have no stake in either of my childrens sexuality. I think part of the joy of dicovering ones sexual identity is that your mother is not involved. kwim?

When I was pregnant with ds I kept having dreams about the baby where he was dressed in boys clothes and we were refering to him as "he" but when I changed his diaper there was a vulva and "he" was obviously a girl. Part of me wonders if this means that he will discover that he is transgendered at some point. Of corse it's probably just a dream but I've spent a lot of time exploring my feelings about having a transgenders gay or bi child.

Ultimatly I just want him to be comfortable in his own skin.
post #33 of 230
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by scatterbrainedmom View Post
i realize this, and i am sure i will make just about everyone unhappy with my response. i would want a grandchild by nature. i am very open to just about anything, so please don't jump down my throat about that. that is my opinion and no matter what is said i won't change it.
Being gay doesn't preclude that, either.
post #34 of 230
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Originally Posted by avengingophelia View Post
You know, it would depend. I think if I had a daughter, I'd be thrilled if she were a lesbian, and if I had a son, I'd be happier if he were straight. Why? To keep both of them out of the hands of abusive men.
Yup. That is the eloquent version of what I said in the other thread.
post #35 of 230
I'd rather they were straight - but whatever

I am happy as long as my kids are happy, it is really okay with me if they are gay, straight or somewhere in between.

However, the rest of the world and our family won't feel that way so I would rather they were straight because I think being straight would be easier for them. My youngest son is Asian and he will likely already have to deal with racism, I'd hate for him to have to deal with people hating him for being gay as well.

ETA: I think it wold break my heart if he was transgendered only because it seems like such a difficult road. Knowing my child was uncomfortable in their own body and there was nothing I could do about it would be devastating.
post #36 of 230
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Originally Posted by scatterbrainedmom View Post
i realize this, and i am sure i will make just about everyone unhappy with my response. i would want a grandchild by nature. i am very open to just about anything, so please don't jump down my throat about that. that is my opinion and no matter what is said i won't change it.
Gee, I sure hope your kids don't struggle with infertility and have to disappoint your criteria of wanting a "natural" grandchild. Ay yi yi.
post #37 of 230
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Originally Posted by avengingophelia View Post
You know, it would depend. I think if I had a daughter, I'd be thrilled if she were a lesbian, and if I had a son, I'd be happier if he were straight. Why? To keep both of them out of the hands of abusive men.
I'm not sure that would work. Abusive men don't target only people who are sexually attracted to them. I have been abused by several men, none of whom was I dating, sexually attracted to, or in any way romantically involved with. You don't need to be romantically involved with an abuser to be abused. You just have to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.
post #38 of 230
You are far more likely to be abused by someone you are in a relationship with.

And it's not just actual abuse, either. I wouldn't wish any of the baggage and bs that comes with partnering with men on my kids.
post #39 of 230
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Originally Posted by the_lissa View Post
It was a touch choice between the first two for me. I ultimately chose non plussed.
I think I just did this in another thread, but you keep speaking for me
Exactly what you said.

In regards to grandchildren, I don't give a hoot if I have them or don't or where they come from if I do have any.
post #40 of 230
For me, I would be happy if they were true to themselves in their sexuality and followed whichever path(s) fullfilled them, whatever that might be.

And any partner(s) who makes my childs heart full will always be welcome in my life.

I just really, really want them to be happy.

Oh, so I voted option #2

Take care,
Tara
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