And I'm just the nurse...

[guestmama9944]

I'm an OB nurse and this morning definately is one of the absolute worst parts of my job We had a beautiful little baby born still, even though we raced as fast as we could physically go to save that little life

Obviously I'm deeply saddened. I just can't express in words what I was feeling holding the ultrasound and in my head a voice kept repeating, "This baby is dying. This baby is dying. My God where are the doctors because this baby is dying!" Over and over again.

It's so much different when the baby dies in utero before they reach the unit. Not really "better" but I don't know. God it was awful. I will never forget that experience. And I'm just the nurse! Poor Momma. Poor beautiful little life. :

[PixelDust]

That sounds so hard.

[DreamsInDigital]

That must be the hardest part of any job involved with pregnancy/birth/babies. I'm so sorry.

[OakBerry]

I'm not an ob nurse, but a med surg nurse. That must have been so hard to witness. Hugs to you.

[NullSet]

I don't think I could have handled that at all. Losing a baby touches everyone.

[AntoninBeGonin]

I'm so sorry

[guestmama9944]

Thanks for all the I made sure to and and my lo's when I got home.

I'm still just ; just a regular momma and a previously healthy baby. There are so many pregnant mommas who don't take care of themselves and abuse this, that, or the other who go on to have healthy children.

Like apecaut said, losing a baby touches everyone involved.

[RedOakMomma]

I've been thinking about your post since I read it last night.

I want to give you a big hug. Way bigger than this ------->

When we lost our son, he was in the care of a wonderful, loving nurse. Having her there, feeling it with us, and knowing we could trust him in her care...it made such a difference to us, even in our grief. After he passed away, and we left the hospital, I spent the next 24 hours crying because I was so upset that James was in the morgue, by himself, and cold. When we went to claim him I brought his quilt with me to tuck him in...only to find that that beautiful nurse had brought him down to the morgue herself, and wrapped him up with a blanket. He wasn't "cold," or touched by unfeeling hands, and that's one of the greatest gifts anyone has ever given me. Every time I think of that nurse, I'm thankful.

I think you must be a very, very, very special person to do what you do and care as much as you do. Every baby, every family, is lucky to have you by their side.

[Ackray]

I'm an ob nurse too. I know just how you feel. It's terrible.

[HarperRose]

[fireshifter]

How hard. I"m so sorry. I am going to become a nurse and this is one of the reasons I don't know that I could be a L&D nurse.

Jen D.

[becoming]

Hugs to you, OP. Thank you for all you do, and all you did for that mama and baby.

Originally Posted by RedOakMomma

After he passed away, and we left the hospital, I spent the next 24 hours crying because I was so upset that James was in the morgue, by himself, and cold. When we went to claim him I brought his quilt with me to tuck him in...only to find that that beautiful nurse had brought him down to the morgue herself, and wrapped him up with a blanket. He wasn't "cold," or touched by unfeeling hands, and that's one of the greatest gifts anyone has ever given me.

[PrayinFor12]

I spent the last week in the hospital after miscarrying my baby at 12 weeks. I wondered the whole time if the people caring for me also cared about the "baby part" of why I was there. Perhaps so.

I guess that's a bit off-topic. It's just that what you said made me think maybe some of them also cared about our tiny baby.

[Arduinna]

to the OP and to RedOakMomma

[mamalisa]

Thank you for doing the job you do. I don't have the strength to do it, so I'm so happy that there are people like you there for the families that need you.

RedOakMama, I'm so sorry

[Ifluffedthree]

Reading and just wanted to send off some hugs.

What a very difficult job it must be at times. HUGS!

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Originally Posted by RedOakMomma

I want to give you a big hug. Way bigger than this ------->

When we lost our son, he was in the care of a wonderful, loving nurse. Having her there, feeling it with us, and knowing we could trust him in her care...it made such a difference to us, even in our grief. After he passed away, and we left the hospital, I spent the next 24 hours crying because I was so upset that James was in the morgue, by himself, and cold. When we went to claim him I brought his quilt with me to tuck him in...only to find that that beautiful nurse had brought him down to the morgue herself, and wrapped him up with a blanket. He wasn't "cold," or touched by unfeeling hands, and that's one of the greatest gifts anyone has ever given me. Every time I think of that nurse, I'm thankful.

I think you must be a very, very, very special person to do what you do and care as much as you do. Every baby, every family, is lucky to have you by their side.

I experienced this exactly. We were able to get the blanket back with her ashes. It means so much to us to have it. You'll never knowhow much your care means to those families.

[thixle]

to everyone touched by birth loss
PrayinFor12- you are such a brave person

[theretohere]

[Matilda_z]

Originally Posted by RedOakMomma

When we lost our son, he was in the care of a wonderful, loving nurse. Having her there, feeling it with us, and knowing we could trust him in her care...it made such a difference to us, even in our grief. After he passed away, and we left the hospital, I spent the next 24 hours crying because I was so upset that James was in the morgue, by himself, and cold. When we went to claim him I brought his quilt with me to tuck him in...only to find that that beautiful nurse had brought him down to the morgue herself, and wrapped him up with a blanket. He wasn't "cold," or touched by unfeeling hands, and that's one of the greatest gifts anyone has ever given me. Every time I think of that nurse, I'm thankful.

I think you must be a very, very, very special person to do what you do and care as much as you do. Every baby, every family, is lucky to have you by their side.

Oh, mama. I understand exactly. My sweet little guy passed away last month when he was just 17 days old. When the men from the funeral home came for him I made them promise that they would keep him wrapped up snug in his blankie. The man said yes, and that his partner would hold him in his arms in the car on the drive back. It was one of the most touching moments, and I'm going to be forever grateful for their understanding.