Originally Posted by the_lissa
Another thing I don't get is how asking someone to take off their shoes will embarrass someone or make them uncomfortable any more than asking them to take off their coat or have a seat.
Taking off your shoes is *very* different than taking off your coat. People can be really funny about feet. Feet are personal. To ask a guest to do something that has the potential of making them feel uncomforable is inhospitable, IMO.
Taking off your shoes is also a sign of extreme relaxation and comfort level. I don't want to take off my shoes and be exposed in someone's house unless it's someone I'm really close to.
Also, I'm a very cold person. I'm cold all the time, even in the summer. Exposing my feet, even in socks, makes this much worse.
Originally Posted by Decluttering Nut
I was raised to be a "lady" too !! and its not very "Lady Like" to walk into someones home and all over their floors and carpets with your outdoor shoes. Particularly if you know they have small children crawling around on the floor. ... then again a true "Lady" would know that!
Hmmm, never heard that. Where I come from, a lady would never remove her shoes in public unless there is a need for having one's feet exposed eg a pedicure.
I understand there are parts of the world that it's the norm. If I were in Japan, I would take of my shoes. In the USA, in every part I've ever been in, it's NOT the norm, not even in parts of the country with snow and slush. You have a door mat outside and perhaps even a rug inside the door and people wipe their feet.
It is kind of funny, though, the passion this topic arouses.