Originally Posted by UnschoolnMa
Wow. I am sensing a bit of unnecessary snark here, maybe?
I am not trying to brag about anything if that's what you are implying. I just meant that tastes in music, just as in any other kind of art, are going to vary widely from person to person and that I believe our teens are capable of examining lyrics and their meanings and enjoy a song for a variety of reasons. (Maybe lyrics, maybe the beat, maybe the interesting arrangement, etc.)
Tastes in the levels of necessary snark vary widely, UnschoolnMa. (where's the "throws her head back and laughs" smiley?)
I don't think we're talking about a matter simply of tastes in music. I think it's much bigger than that, and it has been explained here already by others who seem to feel similarly to me.
Misogyny is a huge, huge problem in society. I wish there was a mechanism with which I could silence musical artists whose lyrics degrade women, objectify women, trivialize women. I believe it is damaging to be disseminated... because it goes into children's ears, children's hearts, children's maps of the world. And I believe it is delusional to think that children have the capability to deal with this stuff. If children and teenagers are so sophisticated, so discerning, why don't they just go out on their own? What do they need parents for?
They're NOT so sophisticated, they're NOT so rock solid sure of themselves as you think, they're NOT so imbued with your good values that they virtually ARE you.
Can you remember the FIRST time your little daughter actually heard the real words of some great fun, misogynistic rap song, and how she reacted to it? I can. It HURT her. Her face fell, like it was PERSONAL. She looked up at me, her eyes searching for some explanation. "Why is he saying that about her?" (eminem's ode to wife Kim).
And you can talk all you want to her about why, and educate her for the rest of her life that "it's those other people over there...," and it's not going to explain away that personal hurt. It HURTS to be debased because of the color of your skin; it HURTS to be debased because of your gender. We pretty much shut the racist stuff down, and moreso every day. I'd like to shut down the misogynistic stuff.