Donating eggs and/or sperm

[greenearthmama]

I am new to this forum and I thought I'd throw out a question here... my husband and I are looking to donate our sperm and eggs. We don't want to go with a clinic because my BMI isn't "perfect" and they won't accept me. We've been rejected because we're not Jewish, we're not Catholic, and we don't pass judgement (one clinic won't accept me because I don't care if a homosexual couple get my eggs!). Come on... it's 2008. I'd like to know that my eggs aren't going into a collective "pool" if you know what I mean. My husband is having a problem because he can't find any clinics to donate to locally, so his only option is a family who chooses him (the nearest place is in western Minnesota). I guess my question is, does anyone know of places in SE Wisconsin or even down to Chicago where I could "hook up" with families looking for donors? We are very healthy, very fertile, and have two healthy, beautiful babies. We want to pass on this joy... any ideas...?

[msgoodbuns]

What a wonderful thing to want to offer. I think there are Yahoo groups out there...at least for sperm donation. You might want to put together a profile of yourselves and then "market" yourselves in your geographical area. However, I'm sure there are many people who would be willing to pay for your transportation for egg donation. As for sperm, you can ship it overnight to the intended recipient.

This is a good place to talk about your willingness to donate. There are many of us who have to pay out of pocket for sperm, egg donors and IVF, who would be ecstatic to have a great volunteer out there!

[Jane]

check out www.surromomsonline.com. There are some egg donors there that might have tips for you.

You might work on your "pitch" too - something is coming off kinda off in what you wrote.

[msgoodbuns]

Apricot, thanks for the link. What a great resource.

[greenearthmama]

Thanks for the info.

Thank you for the Surromoms website. I found it pretty helpful.
As for sounding "off," I think it's because I really don't know much about donating. I've only recently started looking into it. I don't know all the jargon or wording, so I must sound pretty dumb! My husband has wanted to donate for a while, but the local couple he was going to "donate" for changed their minds because they found out he has German ancestry. I found a clinic in Chicago that was very interested but they won't let me donate because I live more then an hour away. I told them I'd commute, but they would need me there for one full month. I can't bring both my children to Chicago for a month. I found one local couple who was interested, but they didn't want to go to a clinic. Does anyone know how that works? Personally, I shrugged them off because I thought most things had to be done in a clinic/hospital setting.
Either way, I truly appreciate all the feedback I've gotten. I'm really trying to do good in my life, and I can't think of anything better then helping others with this. I'm also debating surrogacy, but I'm just not sure about it yet. Anybody have any comments towards this...? I was going to post another thread about surrogacy as well. Thanks again.

[jazcat]

I just wanted to say that I'm shocked about all the rejection you've had over ancestory, religion, BMI.... incredible!

As far as not going to a clinic, I know of some lesbians that get their sample, either fresh or just thawed, and then use a syringe at home - I pictured one of those infant medicine syringes. I don't know if at the clinic they would do the same thing, or make it an IUI (wash them first, then place them in the uterus, bypassing the cervical fluid).

Best wishes, however it works out for you!