When are you telling people?

[ibusymomto5]

I haven't told anyone just yet, but I don't think we'll wait long. I'm thinking of telling my mom today when I talk to her, and I'll probably tell my dad within the next week(they're divorced). I know they'll both be happy for us, as we have a good relationship and they are supportive of our choices. I think at this point, no one we tell will be very surprised probably. I was all worried to tell people the last couple of times, but really we got all positive comments so I'm not dreading it this time around.

[Marcimama]

We have always waited until about 10 weeks to make it general knowledge. We do this for a few reasons: because we like to get use to the idea, we fear having to untell people if there is a miscarrage (however it is nice for close people to know in this event as well.)

[Baby_Cakes]

So far I've only told one co-worker who I trust, b/c we work really closely together and my job includes a bit of heavy lifting/phyical running around. Other that that, DH and I aren't going to tell anyone for awhile. DH especially wants to keep it a secret for as long as we can!

I can't wait to tell our families, though - really his. This will be my Mom's 13th grandchild, but it will be his parents' very first grandbaby. So it will be a really exciting and great surprise for them. NOBODY knew we were TTC so it's going to be the shocker of a lifetime!

[DreamsInDigital]

I'm going to wait quite a while. I have some family members who disagree with our choices regarding family size and I don't want their negativity to ruin the elation for us. We will tell when I start to show enough that I can't hide it.

[Mrshawwk]

I can't decide when to tell...I did send my best friend a pic of my pregnancy test just for the fun of it. I will have to tell my family soon simply because we're planning a family trip to Disneyland in Dec and we have some decisions to make. I didn't tell many people last time, but when I had to "untell" (as Marcimama put it so well), it was very hard and unfun. But I feel pretty good about this pregnancy so we'll see.

[nhapmom]

we are waiting. im only like 2 weeks right now.

[ColoradoMama]

I have no idea when I'll tell. Usually it's in my next breath! This time is different though. I'm still trying to figure out how to tell dh!!!

[NotTheOnlyOne]

we have told my family.. ok *I* told my family, but he wants to wait to tell his. I also told some close friends. His little sister is pregnant right now too, so I dont want to steal her spotlight.

[Lexi_029]

Everyone already knows. *laughs* I can't keep it a secret so everyone knows before the pee even dries on the stick! Of course, I've known for over a week now... like I could keep that a secret. *laugh*

[two_sets_of_twins]

DH wants to wait for "a while," but I'm not sure what that means. I would like to tell people now (I'm not quite 5 weeks), but my cousin just delivered her still baby on Friday (the day after her due date) so I'm a little hesitant to overshadow their grief with my wonderful news. I imagine we'll wait a few weeks or so. There's no way I could wait clear until 10 or 12 weeks!:

[misslibbye]

i'm going to wait

this is going to be a very emotional pregnancy for me. I'm very excited, but I want to wait. I don't want everyone asking me if I am ok every 5 min, lol. 12 or 16 weeks I think I will be ready.

[tulips117]

I always wait until 13 weeks. We've had a couple miscarriages in the past, and it was overwhelming for me to have to tell everyone that i'd lost the baby. We've since had two healthy pregnancies, but we still waited until the second trimester to tell. We're both pretty private (DH and I). We didn't even tell our mothers!

[DreamsInDigital]

I am never telling my mom. She will come over one day and magically we'll have a new baby but I refuse to tell her before then. Ugh.

[two_sets_of_twins]

Well, that didn't last long. We told my family last night. They are all very excited in spite of the tragedy in my extended family recently. We are going to wait until DH's parents are in town to tell them, but I have already called a couple of close friends to tell them as well.

And luckily I've been sick, so I really feel like this one is going to stick. I noticed when I had my miscarriage that I was not nauseous at all, even at 6 or 7 weeks. I am only 4 weeks and 5 days and am already pretty queasy. I started getting nauseous at 4 weeks, so that's a good sign I think.

[leurMaman]

I've told people that I would tell if anything bad happened (close family and girlfriends). That's quite a few people already. I'm not telling acquaintances, students, or playdate families until late in the first trimester.

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Originally Posted by leurMaman

I've told people that I would tell if anything bad happened (close family and girlfriends). That's quite a few people already.

Yep. Strangely, my friends know but my mom doesn't.

[nhapmom]

we are waiting until M's family gets together over Easter (march 23 this year) to tell them. i will be 2.5 months then.

[weddell]

We probably won't tell anyone until the second trimester. I will probably tell some of my close friends around 8 weeks or 10 depending on ultrasound schedules or hearing the heartbeat. My playgroup members tend to tell early. A few people in our group have had miscarriages after telling and everyone was very supportive so I would want to tell them if something bad happened anyway.

[zoebugsmom]

I've already told my mom and DP has told his mom. I'm waiting to tell my friends for a month or so unless asked about it.

[zoebugsmom]

I've already told my mom and DP has told his mom. I'm waiting to tell my friends for a month or so unless asked about it.