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11 months won't stop biting,scared to nurse  

post #1 of 7
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My 11 months old just.won't.stop.biting.me.

This sucks. He's been doing this for weeks- regardless of how I react. I say no, take him off, cover up hoping he'll get the message: Biting=end of nursing session. Does that impress him? Nope, he just keeps doing it.

Today he bit me 5 times, each one was so bad that I still hurt. I actually got up- and made he a bottle, I just.could.not.take.it.anymore. He really bites- and I am honestly scared he'll hurt me to the point of having to go to the hospital?

No amount of NO and explaining helps, he either laughs or starts crying bitterly because the boob is going away! HELP!
post #2 of 7
It is hard to live with a biter.
I posted a ? in the Gentle Discipline area on theis recently - he's was biting everything from my boobs to the cats. There were a few suggestions, but nothing to really MAKE IT STOP.
It can be very frustrating to live with a little person who cannot understand that his biting really hurts. It's infuriating when he laughs, but, of course, you know that he doesn't get it. He doesn't know, poor baby.
Is he teething? It got really bad when he was recently getting the teeth just outside the middle ones. He needed to bite and chew to relieve the pain but the middle teeth made contact first. Yikes!
If he is teeting, are you using anything to help him such as teething tabs?
You'll make it, mama.
Melinda
post #3 of 7
If this has been going on for awhile, I assume you've already tried the "pull him in close so he has to latch correctly to breathe" approach? Dr. Sears' books mention it IIRC .... If you haven't tried it yet, give it a shot.

I got pretty adept at holding my finger right next to my nipple, so that if Ina's latch changed *at all* I was ready to either pull my nipple away quickly or else place the finger as a barrier.

I also agree in re: the possibility that this is teething related. SJ is past a year of age, but this happens with her when her teeth are bothering her. We give her frozen corn (she can't have peas) and frozen blueberries to eat when her teeth are bothering her, and we do use Tylenol when it's bad as well (she just cut 4 teeth at once, so it was bad pretty recently!).

Have you tried offering a chew toy for teething as soon as he bites?

When SJ bites (and she bites more than I remember Ina biting, again mostly related to either my supply dips prior to my cycle, or else to teething) -- I unlatch her, tell her "No bites!" and then dh takes her entirely away. Which, honestly, sometimes appears to be exactly what she wanted to happen.
post #4 of 7
I do the pull in close thing, which sometimes works. (He gives me this shocked, what the...??? look.) I also do the finger thing and keep it ready to go in and block. I have found that Avery bites me more when I'm not paying much attention to him, like if I'm on MDC or reading, and he wants me to be gazing adoringly into his eyes or something! I also wasn't having much luck with saying "no biting," but I've had some luck with saying, "no teeth." I think he knows what teeth are but has no clue what bite means. (He's 13 mos. right now, and it's hard to say I guess what he really does understand.)
post #5 of 7
Violet did the same thing till I made a big deal of when she nursed "nice". So she pops off and I say " great job not biting mommy!" in a really sweet voice...thats the only thing that worked..I tried everything else

Such a schmooze
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Thread Starter 
Oh great, now I have one of THE most painful plugged ducts, aaaarg. I massaged it-which made it worse. Great. I am just waiting for the mastitis to happen tomorrow. Can't get that pug to dissolve.
post #7 of 7
My toddler began biting and gnawing on me when she had a tooth or a molar coming out. I knew it made her feel better, but I couldn't handle the pain, either. When she bit, I noticed I began being "mean" to her but I knew that wasn't helpful or the way I wanted to be with her, especially during a nursing session. When babies are teething, they nurse differently, which is another reason it's so uncomfortable. Sometimes, it can be because baby is trying to "get more" milk to come out because they are in a growth spurt, etc. Weaning isn't necessary at this point...

Since I knew this was going to be "another" phase she was going through, I tried to be extra patient. I know for many moms, offering something cold to chew on before a nursing session helps. Sometimes I even put these cold compresses on myself in between nursings to help with some of the soreness. If your baby bites, calmly take him off the breast and re-latch... babies obviously aren't nursing if they're biting. Sometimes, if a mom pulls off too quickly, more damage can occur to the nipple. Plus, if your baby is sensitive, it may have a negative reaction. You might even try pulling your baby in closer... she may instinctively let go. Or, you can use the ol' slipping a finger between the your baby's gums or teeth technique.

Many moms find it helpful to try to anticipate and prevent biting... lots of eye contact, touching and talking sometimes makes it less likely the baby will bite to get mom's attention. Since most biting occurs at the "end" of the nursing session, you may begin to notice that your baby's jaw beginning to tighten a bit... Giving extra attention to your nursing position and baby's latch-on is really important, too... Make sure you keep up your supply so your baby doesn't get easily frustrated and resorts to biting to "bring in more milk," etc... Lots of positive reinforcement when baby doesn't bite can be helpful, too.

Since it sounds like your baby's biting has become "persistent," you may want to try stopping the feeding, firmly saying "no bite," offering an acceptable teething object, quickly putting baby on the floor or also keeping a finger near your baby's mouth to quickly break the suction, etc.

As you already know, breastfeeding is so much more than just nutrition and a baby associates feelings of comfort and security as well as satisfaction of hunger with their mommy. Babies aren't doing it out of meanness, of course, so I feel as though a bit of a learning curve is needed. I hesitate to try the "turning my back" technique. But, of course, you're his mommy and you'll decide what's best.

Good luck with everything!
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