I am probably alone in this but I say don't spend one more penny taking your child to see this other parent. There has to be some effort on her part to either pick up the child or to give you some money so that you won't be in such dire straits. Since legally there is no CS that means legally there is no visitation. I know you want what is best for your child but you are stressed with this money situation. A stressed mommy is not the best mommy. I would treat her like an auntie and get over the guilt involved in ending the relationship. She can still call the child, email the child, send the child cards and come pick up the child herself. You are enabling her bad behavior. You are making it easy on her to do nothing, including providing for and driving to see the little one. Trust your gut. You think she is lying about having no money, you are probably right. Don't make the drive. See if she picks up and does it herself, and if she doesn't? Is she really the kind of parent that long term you want your child closely associated with? In many ways you are much better off than those here who have traditional relationships that are over. You can truly choose what you want to make of your life. Right now you are choosing to cling to the past, you are trying to hold someone responsible for your child who isn't being responsible at all and who you feel is lying to you, and impoverishing yourself out of some misguided sense of owing something to this woman. I don't know how to help you with the car issue but I would talk to a lawyer about that one.
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2/28/08 at 4:23pm