I hadn't thought about dry-cleaning: I'd probably offer to pay the dry-cleaning bill before I'd offer to replace the coat. I don't have anything suede either -- but googled it and, at a glance, found prices for suede coats ranging from $50-something to $600. We usually don't have that much on-hand, either -- but could probably pay the bill in installments.
Of course, now that I realize the coat was stained while being left on a chair at a child's event -- I might be more inclined to just apologize profusely.
I think I reacted more to the accusation of "harshness" toward someone who simply advocated saying "Use a Kleenex," and mentioning what happened to the parents.
I agree with Nature that a sit-down conference wouldn't be warranted (and never read Xoe's post as specifying a sit-down conference) -- and I'm actually not sure if I'd mention it to the parent: I just know that I'd
want to know if it were my 7yo.
Of course, this discussion began with the simple information that a 7yo wiped her nose on someone's dress -- then later the information was introduced that it was a run-by incident during a game of freeze-tag. So some of us have continued discussing the broader issue of how they'd respond if a 7yo wiped her nose on their clothes -- while others are focusing in on the freeze-tag thing, and seem to think we're being kind of petty and not understanding what a serious sport freeze-tag is.
Just how much do we want to narrow the discussion? I, personally, think it's okay to let a child know I don't like having snot wiped on my clothes. Yeah, if it happened during a game of freeze-tag, and the child was yards away before I fully realized what happened, that'd probably be one time that I just let it pass.
But, as to the general issue of 7yo's who'd wipe their snot on someone else's clothes: I think it's gross, and if my 7yo ever did that, I'd want the other person to say something like, "Ew! Don't wipe your snot on me!" I know my 7yo would be grossed out if someone wiped their snot on her